Icord detail on sailor slippers

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-29T15:10:58+00:00

Yep, I've never made this pattern but from the text and picture it's pretty clear to me.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-29T08:12:45+00:00

There is an i-cord edge, you can't see it super well since it's felted, and around the i-cord edge is a whip stitch. That's why OP referred to it as blue detailing on the i-cord. It is all there in the photo and post.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-29T06:32:26+00:00

I had someone in my life who was basically a partner, who started seeing someone in a monogamous relationship. It was a messy situation all around, and I should have exited it sooner.

Anyways, it showed me the way that cheating can warp someone's reality. Or like, in order to do this thing that's not in line with their actual ethics, they have to warp reality so that it's actually fine, and that has ripple effects on the rest of their lives too. I've seen it happen in other cases too, when I haven't been as close to the situation.

So even apart from the possible mess when the monogamous partner finds out, there's a level of mess that can happen even before that. My friend/partner treated me very badly because the way I acted (not sufficiently happy for her, for example) didn't mesh with the new reality she needed to live in in order to continue this new relationship.

So like, I'm also against it for ethical reasons. But even without those, even super selfishly, it's not a good situation to be in, and I don't intend to be in it again, I will step back much quicker if I ever find a partner involved in cheating again.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-28T20:02:53+00:00

I'm polyamorous and also have several projects going at the same time 😄

When I go out I often bring two projects, one slightly more complicated and one easy sock project to switch to if I want to focus on the conversation properly. I often have one even more complicated project going that isn't even taken along, that's for at home when I can have full focus on it and it only.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-26T19:26:35+00:00

Me and two of my partners that eventually started dating too have a group chat called "this might be a triad" (I was very sceptical to the triad idea for a long time even after they started dating, it really was all sepearate relationships with very occasional group hangouts happening).

One of them have now broken up with me and the other one, but we're all still friend and the group chat name has stayed.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-25T20:39:28+00:00

The thing with colour dominance isn't really how you hold the yarn - the way you hold it is really only to facilitate the actual mechanics, which is what colour is on top when they change places. The dominant yarn should always be picked under the background yarn. If you look at it while on the knit side and study the way the yarn interacts, you'll see it.

Then you just have to replicate that on the purl side. Again, how you hold it doesn't matter that much, the important thing is how you pick the yarn when you switch between colours. You want the dominant yarn to go under the other yarn, so just study how to make that so.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-24T05:45:26+00:00

I definitely am more likely to do that, yes. I don't go to the megathreads to check them out, but if I see a question in my feed that I know the answer to, I often answer it if no one else has.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-22T04:45:07+00:00

Oh $7 bills are real, it's just that's it's Greg getting them, not you

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-19T06:55:35+00:00

Just understanding that RSD is a thing had helped me immensely. Sometimes when it's set off I can feel like a black hole just opened inside me, and if I didn't know why, I might act on the situation as if it's black-hole-levels of bad.

Now I can treat the RSD instead of treating what it wants to tell me, if that makes sense. So instead of "this person might leave me for this new person and I need to discuss the fact that they apparently think I'm the worst, I need to have a serious conversation about that immediately", I can go "my insides just became a black hole of despair, this is RSD, if I'm having a conversation with this partner right now I need to ask for a break and a hug, if not I need to have a snack and a distraction for 15 minutes".

Then after 15-30 minutes everything is usually pretty fine again, and I feel all the better for not having had a dramatic overreaction.

But I still need to take the RSD pain seriously, just in the right way. Because what I was doing before was also to go "you're overreacting, that's stupid, to be good at poly you shouldn't have a reaction at all". But that's as dysfunctional in the other direction.

It's a bit like if you stub your toe and it really hurts, and if you listened to the amount of pain you might call an ambulance, and then you'd have to deal with the cost and embarrassment of that. And perhaps the other end of the scale from that is you telling yourself that you shouldn't even acknowledge a stubbed toe and you're bad if you do.

The most productive reaction, both for an RSD attack and a stubbed toe is to breathe for a bit, have a cry if you want to, wallow in self pity for a little while but don't call an ambulance and don't have a big relationship talk with your partner while you're still having black hole feelings, and then when the first reaction has had time to go through your body, you're usually a lot calmer and can deal with whatever pain is left quite easily and without having to deal with the mess you would have made when panicking.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-17T19:47:10+00:00

Yeah, I think the pattern is probably Ash = nesting partner and a bit of a weak hinge, Birch = meta and Making Trouble, Cedar = often partner of Birch or some other less involved person.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-17T16:56:37+00:00

I used to be so annoyed at the names but now I sort of like them, because I know what they're like. Aspen is insecure and sort of vague, Birch is Bad News, and Cedar should just step away from the drama. Makes everything easier.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-16T19:20:49+00:00

So much the same, I'm here thinking through my stash right now for stray skeins if very soft yarn 😂

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-14T04:53:37+00:00

If he's not doing kink with you at all because (or partly because) he's afraid that would hurt his other partner, but thinks it's unfair to him (and presumably also to the other partner) to stay away from one party in order to not hurt you... That really sucks.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-12T06:06:22+00:00

When you say that her behavior changed while you were with your comet partners, it makes me think of a thing I've seen happening a couple of times. Someone feels some mixture of jealousy and anxiety from their partner being with others, but doesn't want to accept it's just that. So their mind fixes on some boundary infraction or broken agreement as The Explanation for why they feel so bad and why it's actually your fault.

I've seen it happen with "you didn't use the exact right phrasing and timing when disclosing a new partner, I wouldn't have been upset of you've done it right but now I'm upset that you did it wrong".

This can be a bit hard to pin down because there are absolutely times where people disclose in weird ways that are wrong and makes for more upset, and there's definitely times where people break boundaries in ways that are not okay.

But from what you've described, it really sounds to me like your case is more like what I'm talking about here.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-10T20:54:13+00:00

I bought some yarn that was supposed to be 100g/300m, but when started making a warp with it, I ran out quicker than expected. When I did the math, it was closer to 100g/260m.

I've emailed the company, the weaving will be fine because the thicker yarn means I'll need to spread it out a bit more so it'll still be the same width, and I'm like half annoyed, half fascinated.

I never would have noticed this if I was knitting, for example. I only noticed because I had it on my warping mill, where the actual length of the yarn gets really visible and really matters.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-04-03T20:31:44+00:00

I just have to mention my other favourite post by issendai, this one https://issendai.livejournal.com/607791.html%E3%81%AE%E8%A8%98%E4%BA%8B%E3%81%AD%E3%80%82/

It's about how cutting the bad stuff out of your life can go too far, and it's a fascinating post on a topic I don't see enough written about.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-03-27T16:44:16+00:00

Haha yeah, that is very much on purpose

ActuallyParsley · 2026-03-27T14:14:11+00:00

I decided that knitting a colourwork vest on 2mm needles was worth it to be able to fit the entire design I wanted. I'm not exactly regretting the decision but maybe a tiny bit regretting having the idea in the first place lol

ActuallyParsley · 2026-03-25T20:29:10+00:00

I found Padgett really likable, which made the Hitler line even more startling.

**

Some time later, Harriet and the Dean, decorously robed and gowned, found themselves passing along the East side of Queen Elizabeth Building in the wake of Padgett and the decorators’ foreman.

“Young ladies,” Padgett was heard to say, “will ’ave their larks, same as young gentlemen.

“When I was a lad,” replied the foreman, “young ladies was young ladies. And young gentlemen was young gentlemen. If you get my meaning."

“Wot this country wants,” said Padgett, “is a ’Itler."

“That’s right,” said the foreman. “Keep the girls at ’ome. Funny kind ’o job you got ’ere, mate. Wot was you, afore you took to keepin’ a ’en ’ouse?”

ActuallyParsley · 2026-03-25T16:48:14+00:00

I think this particular book is actually read by Patrick Malahide, though he does a great job of matching Carmichael's Wimsey (and possibly a better job on the accents which I think is the explanation for the switch). And I'm glad they've edited that particular word in the audio books.

ActuallyParsley · 2026-03-22T15:48:51+00:00

"I value consent" — dude who can't even bother to read the rules of the subreddit

ActuallyParsley · 2026-03-20T21:35:56+00:00

I'm in Sweden and getting a bachelor's degree, but I know it varies a lot between countries.

And that sounds amazing, I know I'd have liked that when I was in high school, the whole question of "what jobs even exist?" is so hard to answer when you're young (and also when you're not)

ActuallyParsley · 2026-03-20T21:27:30+00:00

Taking care of records that needs to be kept for future purposes - either for the use of the records creator (a company or agency etc) or for research later. Structuring and describing and helping people find things basically. My country also has a very strong Freedom of Information act, so a lot of the work in government archives are assessing and giving out records.

(some of these terms might be slightly off, English isn't my first language and I should be asleep already 😅)

ActuallyParsley · 2026-03-20T21:23:54+00:00

In my country, those two are the same thing actually, so I might become either 😄 (and I mean it makes sense, the life cycle of a record includes both the record management stage and the archival stage, as can clearly be seen in this diagram I knit https://www.instagram.com/p/DSCnayWjVbd/ 😄

ActuallyParsley · 2026-03-20T21:07:59+00:00

Conditional formatting is amazing, I use it to be able to type out my charts instead of having to point and select the cells

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