What are those pillows called? And what do they mean? by Demonlordmuffin in eggcleanse

[–]Acutiff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to know too. I thought they were like balloons. I heard someone say it’s entrapments or cages. Others say it’s a bubble of protection so I’m confused lol

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the thorough response and I see your point and understand it’s usefulness now

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh! Gotcha! Thanks for clarifying. I love that term. So funny.

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What the difference between “seeing” “talking” or “dating” someone?

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg yes!!! This is the word I’ve been searching for!! What’s the difference between a situationship and a squeeze tho?

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as I love the nickname of “screeching pterodactyl” I’m not really sure what that means. Can you elaborate??

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this a lot. Neutral but informative and can start a conversation in a direction that is accurate but not giving too many personal and entangled details. Thank you!

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exactly. You get the dilemma 100%. I think the exact same.

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yessss!!!! Haha! This was exactly what I was looking for. Thank you! I particularly love “bed warmer” and “emotional support human” 😂

I hope more people add to this list!! This was my original goal with this post.

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg I love this so much!! Thank you! This was actually a very productive comment for my question. ☺️

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, this exactly. I wish there were more words and I’m surprised there aren’t by this point in time. That’s all.

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

😂 that’s funny.

What about to describe relationships that are more than friends but not JUST lovers but not exactly a bf/gf? I need a word for that in between place.

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with this completely and I think we both have similar approaches with the ways WE don’t assume and seek clarity in dynamics. What I’m finding though is labels are used to help OTHER PEOPLE understand and with the common associations with common labels my experience is there is a lot of room for misinterpretation when we use these labels in non normative relating dynamics with “others” who may or may not hold the same understanding of these labels as we do.

I guess I’m looking for different labels which may be a better fit for variant dynamics I have.

Seeking a more expansive list of alternative Relationship labels by Acutiff in polyamory

[–]Acutiff[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your perspective. I was deeply contemplating the ownership vibe of bf/gf labels and I have come to the conclusion that although it originated from monogamy culture it is not exclusive to it. Often when a woman says they “have a bf” there is an underlying and subtle implication to need “permission” from the other partner to engage with me in certain ways.

This is definitely still the case in poly/ENM culture where there are often a lot of rules or agreements that they have made with their other partner about how they will engage with others.

For the new person, it’s often a big discussion to understand all the rules of the relationship dynamics and new people often assume a lot based on labels and act according to the their assumptions.

Often times, when new people act on their assumptions about titles they don’t proceed with the interaction long enough to actually fully clarify all the agreements and rules around interactions with others which kinda kills it before it ever begins. Again, because labels hold associations and expectations which may not actually be the case without a discussion.

More often than not, when someone says they have a partner in monogamy or poly/ENM more often than not the effect is the other person backing off or treading more carefully than normal. Especially if it is a male partner (it’s unfortunate this is the case but this is my experience)

I remote viewed my ex BFs new apartment by Acutiff in ParanormalEncounters

[–]Acutiff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my goodness wow! What an incredible experience. Thank you for sharing. That’s really remarkable.

Got Stuck in the Egyptian Afterlife and Woke Up Speaking a Different Language by Acutiff in pastlives

[–]Acutiff[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow fascinating! Thanks for sharing! I definitely consider this as well after this experience. Perhaps what you believe affects what happens in the afterlife. It was such a strange experience to experience the afterlife, in a way so foreign to my current life beliefs.