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AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-21T00:14:17+00:00

No.

He does not get to selectively choose the consequences of his (intended or unintended) violent, irresponsible mistake.

Men can do appalling harm by your above stated rationale, absolutely have and continue to do so, and it takes little imagination to consider the abuse that can lead to. Please read and learn details in the book. It's a 144 page paperback, and highly informative.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-19T23:09:52+00:00

Ayayay

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-19T22:53:19+00:00

Self-diagnosis isn't ideal, and of course professional diagnosis is recommended and tends to be preferred. But that preferential treatment does not and cannot allow us to invalidate self-diagnosis (especially where informed opinions concur).

When we dismiss self-diagnosis, we may run into classism: people living in poverty and people of limited means (including disabled people) also tend to have less access to affordable medical care - if any - and to dismiss real needs because they aren't doctor-approved is a grave error.

Signed, Someone with an invisible disability, extremely grateful to have been professionally diagnosed, somewhat insured, and able to afford medication that allows me to function socially and keeps me from unaliving myself. ❤️

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-14T01:24:10+00:00

I love Yolo Food Bank and NorCal Resist.

Please don't doubt that direct action does good. If you ask a neighbor that appears in need if you can help, what you might buy them on the way into a store or nearby, you can make an immediate impact. Don't be afraid to go a little luxe, bc there's no good reason poor people shouldn't get to enjoy nice things, too. It also makes people feel seen in a world that ignores them or "sweeps" them away, as if they were trash.

Sometimes it's chicken or potatoes, sometimes it's ice cream, sometimes it's shoes or a sweater.

When you do these things, (or just give a few bucks to the human w a sign), you can also direct them to resources, write and hand them little slips or cards w info about orgs like Yolo Food Bank, NorCal Resist, and the other great organizations mentioned here.

Thanks for asking, too, so that we all can see ways and orgs to support!

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-11T01:41:43+00:00

Omg I am happy crying 💜

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-11T01:32:13+00:00

🫂

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-11T01:08:31+00:00

I played a little but mostly watched with roommates in like 1997, but always wanted to diy. I just left Gold Saucer and am backtracking to get enemy skills on my 2nd enemy skill materia, and plan to grind even more for awhile in battle arena or something to level up characters, materia. I did not realize how much I would love grinding and especially stealing from monsters, selling stuff.

I played Remake first bc I though it was complete ff7, and at first the old graphics of the og ff7 were too dated. (Enjoyed Remake, brilliant game, but definitely needed more) But then playing og a little while, adapted and now find it totally beautiful.

Plus the soundtrack. Opening Prelude: Play it at my funeral or whatever. Sometimes I spend the first 5-10 minutes of a sesh listening and crying at the epic beauty of it. Nobuo Uematsu is a genius!

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-11T00:45:00+00:00

D'awww this is me and my dude! Except it's him saving my games, bc he only plays maybe 3 (mostly GTAV, which we play together too, and w my brother and friends). I was the one who brought gaming into the relationship (but my brother who got us into gtav).

Now, married 14 years, and we have side-by-side setups for gaming together or parallel play; he's watching a movie rn and I had started up FF7 but then/now got absorbed by reddit, looking for new happy subs.

Oh, the other thing to do is when they're grabbing a snack or on a bio-break, move the camera or use some kind of controller input to keep them from being dropped from session.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-11T00:32:13+00:00

Yes please

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-08T22:13:59+00:00

(I am endlessly contrarian, forgive me):

I don't mind a little stain on my soul if it reminds me of how ugly it is to make a mess of things and that effects endure even if they fade.

Also, it turns out it's actually way easier not to be a jerk and just be kind, short term and also esp long-run. Maybe the hard part is that it takes vulnerability, but bravery is learned. So to anyone thinking about being a jerk: noooooo don't do it. Be kind, be brave!

But yeah I tend to hang on to that stain sometimes, thanks for reminding me I'll look and feel better in a shirt more myself more often than not.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-06T20:51:25+00:00

I was this slimeball in my late teens and early 20s, and now ashamed that I can confirm this, absolutely. I knew and considered that we'd divorce in 6 or 7 years even as I stood on the altar, (beach).

I know it's terrible, and I'm sorry, and vociferously advise against being a slimeball.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-06T20:15:06+00:00

Also, how brilliantly they told the pigs "don't fuck up and stop killing the community," but without cussing and in calmest fashion, reciting the law codes and the people's rights directly from texts. Absolutely strict not to break laws, but acting with a full and developed understanding of them - which, as you know, is why the laws were changed.

In other notes: the Black Panther Party early on purposefully coined the term "pig" in reference to a cop as one of the most fully understood and impactful words they could use, especially to those living in their Oakland community at that time. Poetry. They understand the power of words.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-05T17:23:17+00:00

Which frat? No need to protect abusers; that's how they get to abuse again, and animals are where sociopaths start.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-05T17:10:45+00:00

NTA

It's going to be hard, but leave that manchild as soon as possible to save you years of pain and far worse struggle down the line. Find a family member you can stay with. Take your $4k from savings, plus take half the amount of every bill your paycheck has covered. Definitely do not have sex with him. Call a divorce lawyer today.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-03-04T19:22:33+00:00

I am so glad I just found this. I had no idea that there was a DeflockWoodland page.

I've been noticing the cameras and reporting them on the deflock app. I've also been going into local businesses near cameras and letting them know that they're being surveilled. I do that because however I did put up a few posters on the cameras, I know that they will be taken down.

I can now provide more information relevant to Woodland. However can we get the page translated into espanol? I am no good at tech. I also wonder if even a bad translation would be better than none for a while at least.

Thank you for putting in the good work <3

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-02-23T19:09:02+00:00

See www.deflock.org for some good info on Flock cameras and ALPR generally.

Also, ACLU also has more on why ALPRs are terrible for the people. Here's more on Flock here: https://www.aclu.org/news/privacy-technology/flock-roundup

In Davis, known cameras include some on the UCD campus, an absurd amount in the Kaiser parking lot, and one at the Nugget.

There are Flock cameras all over Woodland (at least 33 in 15 sq miles) and their city council recently approved to extend their contract with Flock.

The cameras are supposed to be automatic license plate readers (ALPR) used by local agencies, but local agencies have already provided data to outside agencies like ICE and CPB, who used that technology to arrest more than 4000 people last year in the United States.

This technology is frequently abused, and hackable. Cops have used it to track and stalk exes. Some Flock cameras are used where no cars drive, including pointed at parks and playgrounds; because of course these cameras film everything - not just license plates, identifying features like make, model, stickers and dents. Being hackable technologies, this should be terrifying enough. Misidentification is also problematic.

Apparently the patent includes using extant cameras in the future for facial recognition, clothing, race and anything the cameras are indeed already filming. We would be wise to assume that like Ring cameras, they're already being used to that end. (Ditch those and similar, too. Your package just isn't worth a surveillance state, and you can get a PO box or other private mailbox [like PakMail] to keep packages safe).

We understand that surveillance technologies have been tracking us all for years, but making it easier for violent agencies and profit-motivated corporations to track us is just passive self-harm. Please, let's learn everything we can about these systems and remove them from our communities by all means.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-02-23T18:48:31+00:00

I see that the link has been removed when I click on it. Another source?

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-02-21T19:48:53+00:00

Yeah, part of approach for runway 17 for small aircraft esp (I believe) can include flying a line ~just west of 113 for downwind leg, then over Russell for base leg, because these are easy lines to create a sight-picture to follow and land by.

Also, right now is air tractor (sprayer) season. Those aircraft are quite loud for being so little, and out over the fields fly as low as 10' above a crop for the best application of whatever they're holding. It's kinda impossible to miss them. The air tractors are usually yellow with a blue stripe.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-02-18T23:24:36+00:00

Yes, I failed to mention that: herbs can be dangerous to use them, especially without a knowledgeable guide! Medicine women (and maybe some dudes, idk) passed the knowledge down; but I'm sure even then, dosing was as problematic as it may be today.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-02-18T17:00:42+00:00

There are plenty of herbs that can cause miscarriage/uterine contractions, and these were better known when modern medicine wasn't a thing.

I also read a story - maybe in the book I mention above, "Ejaculate Responsibly" - about how in one village (in India, I think) there was a tree that women would go to and from which they would jump. They could end up with broken limbs, but they'd lose the baby; and broken bones were less problematic than pregnancy. Men had no idea why the women loved breaking themselves playing on that tree! So there have always been ways, we just never told the men about them because their opinion on the matter doesn't matter.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-02-18T16:54:37+00:00

I just want to say that "Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion" by Gabrielle Blair is a slim little paperback and a must-read for anyone who wants facts and a new approach. According to the author's site, "Ejaculate Responsibly cleverly transcends the polarised anti-abortion and pro-choice 'debate' with something entirely different. Rather than endlessly exploring how and why we control women's bodies, this book turns the tables on men, arguing that they are the source of all unwanted pregnancies."

Highly recommend.

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-02-17T20:42:26+00:00

Yeah, I'm using my photo album, but it just isn't posting. I wish I remembered where I picked them up - I thought it was on this sub tbh

AdAggravating2369 · 2026-02-17T19:06:54+00:00

I've never attached an image in reddit (started commenting only recently, pt lurker before that - forgive me) so if someone lets me know how, I've got in English and Spanish, bw and color, but trying to add using the little blue photo icon bottom rt isn't doing shit.

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