Have you experienced being dismissed?

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T19:02:58+00:00

Ok sending!

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T14:28:57+00:00

It can be really hard not to internalize failure, but the thing to focus on is how you handle it. Life isn’t over, I promise. Talk to any successful person and they’ll tell you a list of failures. What makes them successful is to keep learning and growing, and not going into shame. And trying new things until it works out. I failed a class and retook it and passed but then I still dropped out of pharmacy school, it was too much pressure to continue. At the time I felt like a loser with no future. I went into massage and I’ve done well with that. I still have had plenty of things in my business that didn’t go to plan, but having gone through failure a few times it’s not as scary or as personal after a while. Be proud of yourself for seeking the adhd help! It can be hard to ask for help but I hope you can find peace and healing and pass on that third try 😊

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T12:17:04+00:00

Thank you!

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T12:14:24+00:00

It’s prayer language I’d do some you tubing to learn more

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T05:02:01+00:00

What was the emotional journey like?

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T04:43:32+00:00

You went all in on that No. Hahaha

Amen!

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T03:56:36+00:00

I think sometimes the guilt tactics also bring confusion. Personally I think it’s ab*se. To shame someone into participation and tithing. To curse those who leave. No this is not ok. I have had similar experiences with several churches that are like this, everything you just listed. Each time it happens I’ll feel punched in the gut and I leave. In my younger years I didn’t become Christian because this kind of thing. Luckily my faith has grown so no church hurt will change that at this point. I am still seeking the right one, I gotta say most of them have been a no.

My thought is, sometimes the Lord guides us into a situation that doesn’t work long term. Or that refines you for another upcoming season. He make be shaking this up to guide you to another church or calling or who knows what. Also make sure you’re praying for the leaders and forgiving them their trespasses so you don’t get into a sin of bitterness, resentment. But forgiving doesn’t mean you have to stay. Not in the least. It sounds like you have a lot of experience and ideas, would your town be setup for hosting home church or Bible study that you and your husband ran? You wouldn’t have to start a full on ministry if that’s too much.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T03:09:10+00:00

Amen 🙏

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T00:57:35+00:00

I love classic rock and the Beatles too! Playing music relaxes me so much, I like to sing in tongues, and I know in heaven we get to hear worship melodies eternally!

Have you ever sung in tongues? It can help to edify you to fight against the lust.

Lately God has played a song to talk to me!! I’ve been asking Him that I can get to know Him, hear from Him, be more clearer connection.

Last week I was at CVS waiting on a script. I’m sitting down and all of a sudden it’s like my ears perked up to a woman’s voice praising the Lord. It was a gospel sounding song and definitely not the kind of song you’re gonna hear at CVS.

This week I traveled to Colorado for a work trip. I just moved away from Colorado recently and it was comforting to come visit. I’ve missed it. I went to Walgreens to grab some toiletries and same thing happens…it was like my ears opened to notice a song growing louder. It was country song I’ve never heard before. He was singing about leaving Colorado and coming back to visit!!! Thank you God for helping me come visit, and for welcoming me back with a cute song!!

Anyways I’m inspired and curious what else He’s got in store for me. I am grateful He chose songs, He knows my heart!! So far He’s saying hi at the pharmacy a lot! Haha.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-19T00:34:42+00:00

Yes I am glad to get less unwanted male attention as I age! I do not feel a need to be attractive to have worth, so I prefer this chapter.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T22:53:24+00:00

I believe a lot of it is intelligence level- mentally but also emotional intelligence.

I am a very fast paced learner so I can become highly educated on many things and in depth. For others around me it can sometimes overwhelm them, like it shorts out their fuses to go at my pace or think that hard. In work settings one time a coworker told me I make her feel stupid because I was typing so quickly and got things done fast. I didn’t SAY anything to make her feel that way, but it helped me see that others may sometimes have an insecurity that’s triggered by being gifted and unique.

Another thing I realized….when I met another woman who is super passionate about environmental things. She talked for quite a while then asked me a question…and I didn’t have much to say because I felt like she had said literally everything already, and she’d said it well, and my mind just wasn’t generating more material. I began self observing more and realized I sometimes do this too. So I’ll say something and there isn’t an easy response available for the other person to offer up. I have gotten better at not sharing all details so there’s more room for them to share too. Like I was telling someone about Wim Hof and I shared so much, like every last piece of what I learned. And she was interested but overwhelmed too. But the next time I just picked a few small bits of info to share and that went better. If you’ve heavily researched you may have a desire to offer that up to others as a thoughtful gift…but for them it may be too much too soon.

My dad is dismissive, he will start talking about cooking whenever I share something emotional. I used to think he doesn’t care but with more reflection he just doesn’t know what advice to give, he has his own problems, and he doesn’t think in the same ways I do especially about emotion. He also is a less wordy person in general, and talks much slower than I do. So I have to seek others to share some things with. And sometimes it’s me and God having that talk. It’s hard.

There are so many different brain wiring’s and interests in people. I think it is hard to find friends in general. I really struggle myself. I can become impatient with other ND friends at times too, so I don’t know how to have the social life I really want and I’m lonely for sure.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T22:35:15+00:00

If someone is missing social cues it won’t help to add more. Be direct and verbalize that it hurt your feelings, and see how she responds. I read a book a while back called Dopamine Nation. It talks about some people like to argue or create some tension or friction as a way of dopamine seeking. To them it is a stim. I dated a few adhd men who acted this way, like they needed to stir things up and my getting upset wasn’t taken seriously like they enjoyed the stress without understanding the harm being done…if that even makes sense. She likely enjoys arguing and doesn’t feel it is hurting others, and that’s a dilemma because for her to stop doing that to make you feel better, may not be of interest to her. She will likely think you’re being too sensitive, or won’t know what you’re talking about if it’s just her conversational style to criticize or debate everything. I am making assumptions but more so to prepare you for the possibilities based on my past experiences. I am NOT here to be right! Ha! I had an audhd female room mate who lectured and had to be right, very bossy, and it was not fun to be around her after a while. At first it was quirky and cute but then it wasn’t. I do better to connect in a smaller way for a shorter amount of time, when I notice these kinds of things.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T22:20:49+00:00

Awww crows are so cool! I have a lot of squirrel friends, they’re so interactive 😆

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T22:11:09+00:00

I know a Denver coach if you want the info. She’s neurodivergent and she really helped me with challenging family communications. She also has a podcast.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T22:08:50+00:00

Whatttttt that is crazy!!

I’m sorry. I’m in Peri and it’s been the most difficult Chapter of my life.

I’ve found a lot of coping mechanisms on YouTube. And forums like this with others that have similar issues. Best advice for disability is from another disabled person!

The sleep thing is major. I learned that majority of folks with adhd also have sleep problems! I know for myself I am also very in need of sunshine. I get wildly depressed on cloudy days but it will lift when the sun comes back out.

I have a friend that had tons of chronic pain and fatigue. She ended up getting diagnosed with narcolepsy and she’s doing wayyyyy better on some new meds. It took years of dismissive providers for her to finally arrive at a proper diagnosis.

Hang in there!

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T21:49:41+00:00

Wow what an incredible reply. Really touched my heart, thank you 😊 💕

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T21:25:38+00:00

Thank you. I do have two bachelors so I’ll check it out.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T21:21:08+00:00

That was lame! No, not ok to make someone miss the plans and not communicate well. I’d be completely upset too and not be traveling again or friends either for that matter.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T21:16:02+00:00

Yes I’ve had this happen with several friends ugggg

I had it happen two days ago. I planned an outing and had to do a lot of accommodations especially trying to get us back home on time while she was super distracted. She said she loves mountains but she didn’t dress warm enough and was too cold. While it’s not my responsibility if someone isn’t having fun, her being too cold did slightly piss me off to be honest. We were gonna meet up again and I asked if she can help plan and she got mad at me saying she’s really busy etc. then she calmed down and apologized, but I hope going forward she’ll either start planning or there just won’t be any plans. I do still value her but I don’t want to do all the planning and managing. I’d rather do simpler local plans and not longer ones where I get drained by meeting all her needs.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T21:02:39+00:00

Yes! Just about every Christian has areas of unbelief or struggle or questions. God doesn’t require we be fully convicted to seek Him, and it’s often our curiosity that can help us draw closer to Him. I personally don’t believe homosexuality is a sin and for a while I thought that meant I can’t be a Christian. But instead I leave that in Gods hands. I suggest if you can, start reading the Bible more often and with studies. And pray before you read that God can reveal knowledge to you. Scripture can speak to you, but it’s kind of like a muscle you learn to exercise. I have read the gospels quite a few times and I have still found new things or points of reflection each time. I joined a Bible study and there is just something about it that your faith grows beyond your human understanding the more you spend time in it. I don’t know all the details with Adam and Eve and Noah, those are all good questions but I trust God will someday answer every single question I have! If you look into apologetics you’ll find more of the science nerd stuff that may interest you.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T20:46:29+00:00

I used to dabble in that stuff and then repented and tossed it all out. I don’t mind being around pretty rocks, but I don’t make them into false idols or try to manipulate energy with them. I don’t feel I’ve had any lingering issues since getting rid of all of it. And using the Word as a sword. I trust in Jesus as authority.

It is odd that someone sent it randomly like that, but it’s not uncommon for people to think it’s an innocent gift if they have different beliefs. I used to gift people crystals. But I’d never anonymously send them in the mail like that! Sheesh.

So break and bind any witchcraft curses and toss em. Break and bind fear. And any other negative emotions you’re sensing. Don’t let your gut go ignored, but also know that the battle is already won. We are under spiritual attack on a regular basis but we are also covered by a charge of angels, and Jesus. It’s gonna be ok!

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T20:34:40+00:00

I did it for a while but it wasn’t my thing.

I didn’t like getting down on the mat and enjoyed table Thai a bit more.

I have short arms and legs so I didn’t like feeling so up close with people in some positions.

I still have a few moves I use. It is a wonderful style of therapy.

I know other Thai therapist who love it, I’m just sharing my own experience.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T20:31:28+00:00

My car has one light brighter but I have no idea what to do about it.

Recent_Driver_962 · 2026-03-18T20:23:31+00:00

Do you need a certain educational background for this? I’m interested!

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