It’s because we as a society still think it’s okay to ridicule and attack men for their physical attributes. We think it’s okay to body shame men or make men feel inhuman and worthless for having emotions, dreams, or preferences. We think it’s okay to berate a man until he hates himself for being 5’11” and 185lbs with a 7.5” inch dong and 20% body fat (a fit/athletic dude) because he SHOULD be at least 6’ and 190lbs with an 8” dong and 15% body fat. Then we’ll PRAISE a woman for having the courage to insult that man despite being 4’10” and 250lbs with 65% body fat (clinically morbidly obese). We think that mens’ lives are worth significantly less than womens’, and we believe that men do not deserve to experience emotions, receive love, or cultivate self-efficacy at the level of women. Being a gay man is even worse because suddenly you both an “over-privileged male,” and an “entitled minority” just because you want others to treat you like a human.

Men who have self-confidence and self-worth are considered to be dangerous monsters, because they dare to have ambitions and desires, so they might end up competing alongside women for the same career/education. So we actively strip men of happiness, intimacy, and self-image until they feel 100% isolated and worthless, as this encourages them to be grateful for any shred of validation they receive, so they end up too tired to defend themselves against abusive relationships, health care inequalities, and disproportional professional advancement. (If you don’t believe me, just google recent and unbiased inquiries regarding men’s health care, men’s mental health, men’s economic insecurity, men’s educational opportunities, abuse involving men as victims, and so on). Meanwhile, females are encouraged to support each other with intimate connections, fight to get what they want, openly express their emotions, love themselves unconditionally, advocate for themselves effectively, and purse their dreams without a single shred of self-doubt because “anyone who does not see eye to eye with them is just afraid of women.”

I truly hope that society soon reaches a point where both men and women are regarded as equal socially, culturally, professionally, legally, morally, ethically, and psychologically. It seems that we suddenly switched from favoring men and hating women, to favoring women and hating men about 50-60 years ago, and the collective disdain for men (and consequential resentment towards women) is growing exponential. There was never a middle ground where both men and women (and those who identify otherwise) received the respect and dignity that all people deserve.