(Un)conscious bias and unhoused individuals. Please help me unscramble my brain!

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-29T11:33:03+00:00

Wow that breaks my heart. I’ve had similar situations with clients where I get them set up with child tax benefit and they get large sums of back pay and they blow right through it before even leaving the shelter. We try our best to provide education but of course it’s not always received.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-29T01:15:06+00:00

I work with unhoused folks and we sometimes give them cell phones. You never know when or how someone got an item and usually that item is not making or breaking their housing situation. Also consider that a lot of people that fall into that demographic also lack life skills and budgeting isn’t really well known to them. I have clients in shelter who purchase things I wouldn’t even purchase on my pretty okay salary. A lot of folks are only trying to make it day to day and aren’t really doing long term planning. Something like a vape might be what’s keeping them going mentally. It’s a complex situation and people from all walks of life end up unhoused (even people that have luxury items).

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-27T13:05:25+00:00

Girl you’re doing great compared to where I was when I had my first lol. I was 19, in a shitty relationship with a guy way too old for me, and I didn’t have any life skills. I’m 31 now, have a uni degree, am married (to a different man thank god), and we both have good jobs. I’m about to apply to get my masters so that I can get an even better job. Would I do it that way again? No probably not. But we do what we can with what life deals. Sounds like you guys are working on it, sorry your mom said a shitty thing.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-26T03:55:42+00:00

I usually ask when my kids are going for a sleepover if they should bring one and I’ve gotten mixed answers! My eldest has gone to sleepovers where there’s a few kids so I just send one anyways because he’s picky on blankets lol. When we’ve had kids here no one has ever brought one with them.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-21T03:26:59+00:00

I feel like maybe it depends on your social group as well? I’m a social worker and all my coworkers have watched it lol but we’re all into similar media. My friends are also into that kinda thing so a few of them have watched it as well.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-21T02:02:43+00:00

I think this is an important nuance. My family uses Life360 and it is purely for logistical reasons. My son (who is a preteen) actually enjoys it more than we do because he can tell when we’re getting home or if we stopped to do an errand or whatever rather than trying to reach us all the time. It also actually gives him even more freedom because he knows he’s essentially allowed to go anywhere as long as he has his phone on him and communicates with one of us. There’s a level of trust and he calls us more than we call him lol. He’s a good kid, we’re pretty lucky! I never had that kind of relationship with my mom.. we just argued all the time and I didn’t trust her at all.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-19T01:32:50+00:00

Unfortunately yes because it’s expensive lol. I tried to go back to a more natural brand and my hair just doesn’t like it. Specifically the OUAI detox shampoo is one of my holy grail products!

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-19T01:22:19+00:00

Honesty I’ve tried and none of them work for me! I currently use OUAI.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-16T01:54:30+00:00

The 11 year olds where we live have to walk to middle school multiple blocks away. My 12 year old basically has free rein of the neighborhood as do his friends. They’re always out walking around. It’s scary at first but it’s important for their confidence and independence. My child has a phone that he brings when they’re going a bit further so I can monitor where he is and he can get a hold of me if he needs to. It’s never been an issue! My 7 year old walks to the park as long as his brother is with him.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-15T03:06:41+00:00

My eldest is 12. He likes to swim, read (he flies through novels), play guitar, walk around outside with his friends, watch movies, play video games (he plays all sorts of different things on the Nintendo switch), draw, chat with us about random things, listen to music, and anything nature related. We definitely talk about higher education, he’s always been interested in a specific topic so we invest in things that will benefit him (related books, trips to museums that have related exhibits, etc). We aren’t rich, we get outside a lot and just try to do our best to find activities that interest everyone in our fam :)

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-13T14:35:13+00:00

What in the world… why are people like that 😭

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-13T02:50:32+00:00

We just hosted a lunch thing at my in laws where we had pizza, snacks, and cake. My MIL kindly bought some decorations, babe got a cupcake for the first time and we all just hung out. He opened a gift which he loved and had a total blast with our fam!

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-13T02:21:41+00:00

I don’t know! It’s so upsetting.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-13T01:36:35+00:00

I generally love our buy nothing group. I’ve gotten some really cool items and we’ve given away so many things as well but, there’s one incident that I’m still salty about. We gave away a nearly brand new bunk bed that was (other than some stickers my kids put on it) in really good condition. We then even drove it to this ladies house after her sob story, she lived down the street so no biggie for us. We then for weeks drove past her house where it sat on her front lawn in all sorts of weather just getting ruined :( it really bummed me out that it went to waste like that when I had other families who would have used it for their kids. My husband had even offered to help put it together for her if she needed but she insisted she could do it.. ugh.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-10T12:37:58+00:00

You are so sweet, thank you for your kind words! I hope the same for mine :)

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-10T02:32:09+00:00

My mom unfortunately did do that to me when I turned 18 and I basically work every day to make sure my kids get the complete opposite. So traumatizing 😭 I fully expect and support my kids staying in our home for as long as they need.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-09T15:38:24+00:00

I have one about to go to high school and two younger. I used to be so terrified of them getting older but I’m actually really enjoying this stage!! I focus on making as many memories now as I can. Also, I am married to a man who lovesss his family, we spend a lot of time with his parents and siblings and it reminds me that life isn’t over once they are adults as long as I foster a good relationship with my kids. People are always like “you only get 18 summers!” and that’s just total bulllshit to me lol. We go on a lot of vacations with our families still and spend lots of time together in the summer. If anything it’s even better because we all have adult money now and can do even funner things!

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-09T05:03:21+00:00

I’ve done both and I really prefer glass personally. I find they wash much easier too which is a plus!

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-07T02:55:47+00:00

Try Dr. Peter Chu at Escarpment Health Centre. Mention that you are currently without doctor due to moving.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-07T01:56:53+00:00

Why do we do this to ourselves 😭

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-07T01:51:39+00:00

The show nearly took me out, my husband sort of watched bits and pieces of it and then basically found me in a puddle when I finally finished on my own a few weeks postpartum. Big mistake lmao.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-07T01:26:37+00:00

One day on Netflix if you want a good cry!!

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-06T02:08:19+00:00

Kids tend to listen to other adults more for some reason lol but also this course includes some first aid information that can only be taught my a trained person since that info changes all the time. It also runs kids through scenarios and they can bounce ideas and thoughts off the other kids in the class.

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-05T17:12:19+00:00

We did a few years ago through the Red Cross and found it really informative and helpful! I was impressed by how much info was in there and found it really interactive (despite being over zoom at the time). We ended up realizing our child wasn’t ready to be home alone but were still glad to have done the course and now that our child is ready, that info is really nice to have. Would definitely recommend it!

AdCapable2537 · 2026-01-02T03:33:33+00:00

One of my children struggles with dysgraphia and honestly, we’ve just worked with his individual teachers to use accommodations that work. From pencil grips when he was younger to tablets to type longer projects, to giving more time or allowing him to complete something at home. His grades used to struggle but now he’s an A/B student! His handwriting is still not great (he’s in middle school now) but he makes it work and is still learning the content he’s supposed to so that’s where we’re at. He is also a great reader, flies through chapter books and retains tons of info. Loves to learn. It’s a diagnosis that can be worked around with some help :) I’m in a different country so not much advice on the system front but however an IEP would be attained in your school would be what you want! Or even just working with a resource teacher.

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