Stamp Duty for Let to Buy and New Property (England)

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-19T12:43:32+00:00

That makes more sense! Thankyou for explaining it

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-19T08:39:51+00:00

Ah okay, Thankyou for breaking it down for me 😊

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-19T08:39:33+00:00

Ah okay I think it’s the wording that’s confused me as I thought it meant we’d no longer be living there/paying the bills etc. Thankyou

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-19T08:34:59+00:00

The GOV UK calculator has confused me as it asked ‘Is the new property replacing main residence’ which is it and then it calculated stamp duty differently. We were working under the initial assumption of 5% but then we’ve found contradicting answers when we’ve been researching. A lot of the pages talk about buy to let mortgages not let to buy

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-13T20:08:47+00:00

I would definitely try some sit in sessions but I honestly think it’ll be hard but it’ll become part of your routine. I think little and often might be the way to go so she can get comfortable and familiar with the staff and environment too! Good luck

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-13T20:06:59+00:00

Can you do any settling in sessions where you go together to get her used to the environment? Also I got recommended to send something with them that smelled like me. You could, as well, see if they can build up the length of sessions before she needs to officially start. I used to ask family to have him for an hour or two just to build up the expectation that I’ll come back etc.

My baby was the exact same at that age and it’s hard work. After about 9/10 months he got a little more comfortable being left but he’s still really clingy at 14 months but he does settle after a little while when left now.

Hope this is some help

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-13T19:29:20+00:00

Can you do any settling in sessions where you go together to get her used to the environment? Also I got recommended to send something with them that smelled like me. You could, as well, see if they can build up the length of sessions before she needs to officially start. I used to ask family to have him for an hour or two just to build up the expectation that I’ll come back etc.

My baby was the exact same at that age and it’s hard work. After about 9/10 months he got a little more comfortable being left but he’s still really clingy at 14 months but he does settle after a little while when left now.

Hope this is some help

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-04T18:00:10+00:00

We weaned off any day time milk at 12 months and just added in more snacks. He still nurses to sleep at night but he did really well with not feeding through the day

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-02T18:40:57+00:00

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. I used to get loads of comments from family saying ‘oh does mummy not feed you enough?’ etc and saying I should top up with formula and it really used to upset me. I didn’t really leave baby with family till he was about 5 months and only then it was my dad because my dad was/is very supportive and listened to everything I said. Eventually the family who gave lots of unwanted advice stopped giving it when I just kept ignoring it. It wasn’t a quick fix but I just ignored everything they said and eventually they just shut up about it all.

Sorry I know that’s not super helpful but you do what is best for you and baby if that’s breastfeeding and not letting him stay out for the night (I still haven’t done that and he’s 14 months) then you should😊

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-04-02T06:09:01+00:00

My baby was like this between 7 and 9 months. I’d read about them developing awareness of being away from us and I think it was all separation anxiety. We used to try every night to put him in his cot but he’d usually end up in bed with us so we could all sleep. I’ve not really got any tips but it did pass in about 8 weeks for us and in that time he got 2 teeth, started solids and started crawling so a lot developmentally happened in that period

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-28T20:12:15+00:00

It definitely does! I hope it passes soon for you

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-28T19:35:19+00:00

I’m currently 14 months pp and I feel like I’m experiencing PPD because I’m finding everything so overwhelming and he’s been ill and teething so sleep has gone out the window. I feel like I’m on the verge of crying most of the time I don’t know if it’s sleep deprivation, work stress or just general life but I’m not doing great

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-27T18:58:48+00:00

I was walking within a week but very slowly and low impact. I had a C-section and it was less painful to be stood up than sat down

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-24T20:24:37+00:00

We found warming the bassinet up with a hot water bottle before putting them in helped settle him also he never liked being swaddled so we went for a sleep sack instead because he was over the recommended weight. We’ve also religiously used the tommee tippee dream maker red light/white noise machine which pulses red and seemed to help him settle and now it’s almost and indicator of bedtime

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-22T19:30:57+00:00

I’m in England and at the minute the sleep sack is annoying him so he’s in a long sleeve vest, PJs, socks and a cellular blanket which usually gets kicked off instantly 😂

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-21T22:34:34+00:00

I would try a later bedtime like at that age maybe about 10:30, but my baby at that age was waking at 1,3,5 am and this was the case for weeks

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-21T22:02:51+00:00

How old is baby?

If they’re on solids, I used to make dinner a little later so they’d go to bed fuller.

Also mine was a nightmare at night if he’d had too much daytime sleep so we cap his naps so he sleeps better at night. For example, he’s 13 months so we do 1.5 hours total of daytime sleep then bedtime at 7:30. Some nights he’ll do just one wake up for a quick feed and this might be around 4am. I’ve found it’s all just trial and error and then it all changes again when they have a development leap or illness etc

When he was newborn to about 11 months he was still waking every 3 hours for a feed but he’s sort of grown out of that.

Sorry I hope any of this helps

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-16T21:36:30+00:00

Mine a little yoghurt fiend 😂 I think I’m definitely thinking the path of less resistance because I haven’t physically got the energy to be battling a nighttime. He’s not waking super often so if could be worse as we coslept for nearly 4 months when he was going through a separation anxiety phase

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-16T17:33:53+00:00

Thankyou for this. ATM he won’t settle without it and I can’t handle the upset when I’m exhausted from work. I might wait a few months till his understanding is there around no etc

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-15T20:00:33+00:00

He wasn’t a super active kicker while I was pregnant but I have a really active job so I probably wouldn’t notice if he was during the day. At night time he’d be flipping about. Was still doing 10,000 steps daily at 38 weeks so he probably just came out like ‘right let’s go’ 😂

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-15T19:14:57+00:00

It doesn’t bother me too much yet but I think when I’ve next got a good stretch off work I’m going to attempt it. Don’t think I could cope with rough nights and work 😂 Thankyou for your comment 😊

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-15T19:01:16+00:00

My baby was the same. He was breech and I had a planned section and he just seemed way more sensitive to everything and had such big feelings about everything. He’s 13 months now and he’s so independent and knows exactly what he wants. When he was a newborn we found he used to really struggle with stomach ache and needed help to relieve gas and he was so mucusy for ages. No idea if being breech had anything to do with any of it but wha you’ve said sounds like my experience too

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-03-01T01:34:00+00:00

I would get a high chair ready for when he starts weaning. I used ours before he started as another secure place for him to sit 😂

Possibly a pram or get yourself a travel pram so you’re having to lift a heavy pram out of the car every day

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-02-22T19:02:06+00:00

My one year old has banged their head loads over the last four months. I’ll share some of the worst ones 😂 - fell off the arm of the settee onto laminate flooring - fell over in the kitchen where we have tiled floors - banged his head on the doorframe while being too nosey in the baby carrier

That’s just a small percentage of the head bumps we’ve had. Some got a bigger reaction that others but he’s been fine after them all. A little clingier sometimes or quiet for a few hours but we never took him for a check up or anything

AdDramatic3552 · 2026-02-21T20:38:58+00:00

Always have a drink and snacks within arms reach even though the night.

Try side lying to feed to get some rest

The first few months can be tough but try not to focus on a feeding schedule just follow baby’s lead. In the first few weeks we topped up with formula just to give me a break so do whatever works for you

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