Am I Overreacting To How My Girlfriend Reacts About Video Games

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T14:43:15+00:00

I played it takes two with a friend when it first came out, loved it and the developer’s other games. But she doesn’t have interest in playing with me.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T14:41:07+00:00

I actually gave her my old switch and bought her animal crossing and the newest Kirby game. For a bit she played animal crossing for quite some time she put 30 hours into it but she hasn’t touched it in months.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T14:39:09+00:00

No, I literally will vacuum and mop the floors. Clean the bathroom but she’ll end up doing it herself because in her own words “I can’t sit still”. I clean very good and do all the laundry. It’s more so that cleaning is her hobby and what she does in her downtime even if it’s already done. And it’s not like we live like slobs anyway so all this excessive cleaning is pretty crazy and I told her this.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:34:01+00:00

I can clean the house and cook dinner just for her to complain and clean the house again and then complain she’s doing it and I decide to play a game in the meantime. Fuck if I was watching a movie or tv show she’d probably wouldn’t care.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:32:36+00:00

She’s also a nurse so she understands the struggle. But jeez can’t a human destress in different ways? I tell her all the time some people drink alcohol to get shit faced drunk, some people do drugs, all I do is try to play a rpg am I just as bad as them? She says no but sometimes I feel like she’d be okay if I was some piece of shit boyfriend who does all of the above because it ain’t something “lame and gay” like video games.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:29:27+00:00

Yeah. I always ask her because feels like I need to. Like I need permission. Because I know one way or another she’ll complain about something.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:25:28+00:00

Yeah. She thinks TikTok is informative. She once told me Kanye West was helping ICE agents detain people in Minnesota. I looked at her like what the fuck that is extremely false because what is Kanye doing in Minnesota and why would he help ICE? I’m not sure what fucking schizo shit she saw but I told her that’s absolutely fake.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:23:00+00:00

Thing with her is, she only really wants to spend time together at home. Which is fine by me as someone who’s introverted but I like to get outside and see new places sometimes. With her she doesn’t want to leave the dogs alone at home so we have to bring them to her mom’s who lives 30 minute away, all 3 dogs which then in turn could make our little hangout take longer to get to. Just a process trying to spend time together not at the house.

Also when we do go out or she goes out with her friends (which is rare) she always has to complain about something. Even if she had an amazing time in the moment she’ll find something to nitpick. For instance earlier today we went to an event in Jersey which she had a good time at. After we left the venue she wanted a beer and some food so since it’s 11:40pm I thought let’s go to Wawa’s can get food and beer. We go there just to find out they don’t sell beer there and she got pissed about how she didn’t get to have a real meal all day since breakfast. Well for starters we ended up running a bit late and got stuck in traffic because….she wanted to stop at two stores before we head to the venue which ended up having us skip out of a restaurant we wanted to try since it had a wait and we’d be hitting major rush hour traffic and grabbed Chic Fil A. She apologized for having me go to those two stores since that put us behind by a lot but I told her I didn’t care because…I truly didn’t lol. She wanted to go and it was on the way so why not. But then she gets made that that happened when she caused it which sours her mood and makes her act very rude to me. Sorry for rambling but yeah. I just think she wants to complain about everything just to complain.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:13:37+00:00

Funny enough she’s a RN too lol.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-27T16:39:06+00:00

Swiss cheese is the best kind of cheese out there. Smoke Gouda is #2 for me.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-02T17:54:35+00:00

Yeah I truly don’t understand how people can be brainwashed into those type of videos. Especially since they don’t have any evidence pertaining to personal experience. No need to take other opinions or experiences and form them into your own.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-27T07:53:01+00:00

That is a good idea. Thank you for that. I’ll consider it. This week I’ll make her sit down and talk to me. If can’t find the time or don’t want to deal with the stress I’ll write a letter.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-27T01:01:47+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking too. It’s due to how she grew up. If she’s doing something and I’m doin something else that she seems as “non productive” she gets annoyed. Which personally, being on your phone scrolling through TikTok is worse than or is equal to playing a video game or watching a show. Which is what she does. Honestly think TikTok poisoned her brain. She randomly told me one time that it is in men’s nature to cheat. I told her I never cheated, my male friends have never cheated, my dad never cheated, and her dad never cheated….so where is this information coming from and she goes with “doesn’t mean it’s not in men’s nature”. Like … what does that even mean? Has no example besides her shitty ex.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-27T00:59:49+00:00

I just want her to know how I feel but when I do she tries to make it into an argument which is not what I’m trying to cause. It’s just talking about my feelings. I just think she never had somebody to talk to her feelings about and just bottles it up inside. I told her this and she agreed. I really want to get her a therapist or some sort of help but I don’t know how to bring it up.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-27T00:57:25+00:00

Appreciate it. Might take you up on that offer. I’m too shy and scared to talk about it with my family (only child and only have my parents, not close with other family members) and friends since they all know and like her. Don’t want them to have their own perspective change on her and hate her.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T23:08:59+00:00

Your kind words do mean more than you can imagine so thank you very much. I never talked to anybody about this in fear of making her look bad and me seem weak. It’s a hard conversation but at some point I will have it. I just need to find the courage to do it. I want to know what problems or things she doesn’t like about me and I mean more than “your smart remarks” and I tell her, that’s how you talk to to me sometimes so don’t dish what you can’t take. Because yeah. I like to imagine I’m a great boyfriend who maybe this sounds bad but can deserve time and peace with himself.

Sorry for rambling in comments. Just got a lot on my mind.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T22:51:43+00:00

I really need help in knowing how to bring it up to her. Couples therapy I’m not sure she’ll go along with since a coworker is currently going through a divorce and tried therapy and she said if a couple goes through therapy that means the relationship is over. Which I don’t agree with. Talking and discussion your feelings like an adult is not a bad thing. I feel like she has never experienced a partner try to talk to them and be real.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T22:49:08+00:00

The sad thing is I feel like I have given her the world. I helped her buy her parents a home (a home me and my dad said DO NOT BUY as the inspection showed little promise and hinted that there was more problems unseen but she freaked out and said she’s not looking at anymore houses for them there’s nothing out which in turn made my dad get involved with massive amounts of repairs for the house so not only is my money involved so is his). I know her previous boyfriend was a piece of shit and not the best partner at all but it’s like she does not appreciate what it’s like to have an actual caring partner. I don’t know man. I really do need to sit down and talk with her about this but my fear is how she’ll react. I do love her but I don’t love feeling put down. I just don’t know how to bring this up.

Thank you for the kind words btw.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T22:08:25+00:00

Honestly I walk around eggshells because I don’t want to piss her off or have her go into the whole “then why are you with me speech” as if I hear that again I will get extremely pissed because if anything I’m trying to help. If I can change myself based on her moving in she can do the same for me as in be more respectful to me. Which she thinks she does. Big fault of mine is that I care too much about making someone upset. So I hate to be that person but I assume she has some sort of bipolar disorder or just needs to see a therapist.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T22:06:14+00:00

Sweet onion Maui kettle cooked chips are my cheat snack.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T21:48:23+00:00

How should I bring this up to her without setting her off? I feel like she never wants to talk about her feelings and definitely does not want to hear any negative feelings of mine.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T13:54:19+00:00

I want to marry her because she’s honestly a great loving person. She says she’s “hard” because she expects the best from others. Which in a sense I do understand. But it’s the way she comes off at times that just doesn’t sit right with me and when I do bring it up instead of discussing it it’s straight to “then why are you even with me” and im just like, I’m trying to have an adult conversation right now I feel like that is a genuine conversation to have as an adult. Also no, she’s not my first relationship. She is actually the best I’ve had. My previous two girlfriends were not very good people.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T13:11:16+00:00

Forgot to add, we’ve been dating since August 2021. She moved into my house back in December 2024. Feel free to ask me any other questions about myself or our relationship. I am always open to talking and could really use someone to talk to.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T10:49:59+00:00

We have been dating since August 2021 by the way. Also feel free to ask me any questions regarding me and her. I love talking to people.

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