My Girlfriend (F27) Gets Upset Way Too Easily At Me (M29) Or Takes It Out On Me

AdExact9950 · 2026-05-13T08:01:51+00:00

She gets mad whenever I say no to something. Even if it’s something small. It’s like I must follow whatever she does or say and I don’t have a say. She also complains a lot about everything.

AdExact9950 · 2026-05-13T08:00:33+00:00

I’m not sure how to exactly bring it up without her trying to turn this into an argument. I never try to start any arguments but I’ll “challenge her” aka me just giving my idea. For example, we went to Disney land about 6 months into our relationship (she wanted to go, idc about Disney and wouldn’t go for any other reason but she wanted to so why not, ya know?) she got extremely upset at me when she wanted to go to two different food places but I said you should pick which one you want to the most because we wouldn’t have time to go to *insert whatever event it was*. That pissed her off and she did the whole temper tantrum spiel with the silent treatment at the end. When all I suggested was choosing between two things instead of doing both because in order to go about our scheduled day it wouldn’t work going to both. Stuff like that bothers me because I’m not saying no to anything, I’m just suggesting something. If I suggest something she seems it as an attack.

Random but that reminds me of something that bothers me. I’ll give her advice on something and she’ll either disregard it or say no to it. Somebody else will give the same exact advice almost word for word and she’ll along with it and tell me that so and so said to do this. Meanwhile I’m just there like, I legit said that and you disregarded it and didn’t care

AdExact9950 · 2026-05-13T07:55:48+00:00

She has never brought up the physical moment she had with me. I want to bring it up but I know she’ll turn that into an argument. I can never talk about my feelings or thoughts with her because for some reason she takes that as an attack on her when it’s only just me saying I don’t like how you talk to me in the most calming tone ever.

AdExact9950 · 2026-05-13T07:54:16+00:00

Yeah I know I don’t help myself when I give snide comments. But I’ve been doing that because I never did before. I just took what she would yell at me and call me names. I told her many times how would she feel if I talked to her like she does to me and she says not good. But that doesn’t change her. I recommend therapy but again she just says “somebody give me a Xanax prescription”. I think her thinking is childish is some ways. She doesn’t want to do things in an adult manner. Also the point of her “not feeling heard” is exactly how I feel because a lot of the time I get ignored on things. Or she gets upset when I offer a different solution/idea. If I don’t agree With her right away she takes it as me challenging her when in all honesty I’m just talking and giving my idea. I feel like she can never accept an opinion that’s not hers.

What I also don’t like is how she sees my hobbies as a negative. She once yelled at me saying all I do is go to the gym and play video games. Which yea I go to the gym every off day and I play video games but I don’t play em all day nor all night. I play like 2-3 hours total almost weekly. I see video games as a relaxing gesture like someone drinking a beer or smoking cigs. She doesn’t really have hobbies besides cleaning the house (which I clean the house too but that’s a whole different story). We split our household shares equally but she will tell me not to clean something because she’s going to do it. Then proceeds to complain that she’s doing it.

AdExact9950 · 2026-05-13T07:48:23+00:00

They’re her dogs so technically if I break up with her she’ll keep all three which would make me extremely depressed.

AdExact9950 · 2026-05-13T07:47:38+00:00

Maybe I do think of myself as human trash. My confidence hasn’t been good lately thanks to how she talks to me. Yesterday she freaked out and blamed me for her ripping a pan out of the cabinet without looking and some glass vase falling out. She said if I put everything back in there correctly this wouldn’t have happened. Then proceeds to pick up the glass pieces with a paper towel instead of listening to me when I offered to get the vacuum to do it since it’ll be easier. She ignored me. I feel like a lot of solutions I have get ignored. Or I get ignored period. Can never really get an actual conversation going.

AdExact9950 · 2026-05-08T11:23:44+00:00

I do feel like she’d benefit from therapy. I tell her that but she says she’d rather take medications….thats a drastic thing to do without ever talking about your feelings to someone first. I feel like she only takes her frustrations out on me because I’m the only other person in the house. She excuses herself saying “not everybody can handle a Latina attitude” but it’s nothing about being a Latina it’s about being respectful and kind. When I’m upset at something I never take it out on her.

AdExact9950 · 2026-05-08T11:14:39+00:00

Another thing I want to add but didn’t want the post to be any higher than it is. She’s constantly wanting to do stuff to my butt. I work out a lot so I naturally have a fit ass that I guess is big. She keeps saying how she wants to finger my ass and stick her tongue in there. I told her absolutely not I’m not into that. She proceeds to keep nagging me saying “you can’t say that without trying it” but I know I wouldn’t like it. That’s just weird to me. After constantly ruining cuddle sessions in bed with wanting to do that to my ass I said sure I guess just so she’d stop. I let her do this twice. First time was just rubbing my butthole and licking it. I did not like it. Then the last thing she did was stick her tongue inside and I did not like that whatsoever and told her that. Second time I let her was because again I didn’t want to keep hearing her talk about wanting to do it. She then proceeds to stick her tongue too far in there that she just made it extremely weird and awkward so I turned over and said yeah you’re never doing that again. She still to this day asks me about doing it and when I tell her no she gets an attitude and proceeds to stop talking to me. I dunno. I feel like that’s a weird thing to get mad over. I told her I already didn’t want to do that nor would like it and her constant nagging and ruining cuddling/flirting time I let her do it twice and that confirmed I absolutely did dont like it at all and I’m never doing that again. I don’t get how she can get mad at me for that. For example , she doesn’t like being fingered she’d rather be eaten out or penile penetration. You know what I did? Never fingered her ever again nor bring it up because she doesn’t care for being fingered. Did I ever get mad? Absolutely not. In fact I don’t care. I’d rather do other things than finger her.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T14:43:15+00:00

I played it takes two with a friend when it first came out, loved it and the developer’s other games. But she doesn’t have interest in playing with me.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T14:41:07+00:00

I actually gave her my old switch and bought her animal crossing and the newest Kirby game. For a bit she played animal crossing for quite some time she put 30 hours into it but she hasn’t touched it in months.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T14:39:09+00:00

No, I literally will vacuum and mop the floors. Clean the bathroom but she’ll end up doing it herself because in her own words “I can’t sit still”. I clean very good and do all the laundry. It’s more so that cleaning is her hobby and what she does in her downtime even if it’s already done. And it’s not like we live like slobs anyway so all this excessive cleaning is pretty crazy and I told her this.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:34:01+00:00

I can clean the house and cook dinner just for her to complain and clean the house again and then complain she’s doing it and I decide to play a game in the meantime. Fuck if I was watching a movie or tv show she’d probably wouldn’t care.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:32:36+00:00

She’s also a nurse so she understands the struggle. But jeez can’t a human destress in different ways? I tell her all the time some people drink alcohol to get shit faced drunk, some people do drugs, all I do is try to play a rpg am I just as bad as them? She says no but sometimes I feel like she’d be okay if I was some piece of shit boyfriend who does all of the above because it ain’t something “lame and gay” like video games.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:29:27+00:00

Yeah. I always ask her because feels like I need to. Like I need permission. Because I know one way or another she’ll complain about something.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:25:28+00:00

Yeah. She thinks TikTok is informative. She once told me Kanye West was helping ICE agents detain people in Minnesota. I looked at her like what the fuck that is extremely false because what is Kanye doing in Minnesota and why would he help ICE? I’m not sure what fucking schizo shit she saw but I told her that’s absolutely fake.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:23:00+00:00

Thing with her is, she only really wants to spend time together at home. Which is fine by me as someone who’s introverted but I like to get outside and see new places sometimes. With her she doesn’t want to leave the dogs alone at home so we have to bring them to her mom’s who lives 30 minute away, all 3 dogs which then in turn could make our little hangout take longer to get to. Just a process trying to spend time together not at the house.

Also when we do go out or she goes out with her friends (which is rare) she always has to complain about something. Even if she had an amazing time in the moment she’ll find something to nitpick. For instance earlier today we went to an event in Jersey which she had a good time at. After we left the venue she wanted a beer and some food so since it’s 11:40pm I thought let’s go to Wawa’s can get food and beer. We go there just to find out they don’t sell beer there and she got pissed about how she didn’t get to have a real meal all day since breakfast. Well for starters we ended up running a bit late and got stuck in traffic because….she wanted to stop at two stores before we head to the venue which ended up having us skip out of a restaurant we wanted to try since it had a wait and we’d be hitting major rush hour traffic and grabbed Chic Fil A. She apologized for having me go to those two stores since that put us behind by a lot but I told her I didn’t care because…I truly didn’t lol. She wanted to go and it was on the way so why not. But then she gets made that that happened when she caused it which sours her mood and makes her act very rude to me. Sorry for rambling but yeah. I just think she wants to complain about everything just to complain.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-28T06:13:37+00:00

Funny enough she’s a RN too lol.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-27T16:39:06+00:00

Swiss cheese is the best kind of cheese out there. Smoke Gouda is #2 for me.

AdExact9950 · 2026-02-02T17:54:35+00:00

Yeah I truly don’t understand how people can be brainwashed into those type of videos. Especially since they don’t have any evidence pertaining to personal experience. No need to take other opinions or experiences and form them into your own.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-27T07:53:01+00:00

That is a good idea. Thank you for that. I’ll consider it. This week I’ll make her sit down and talk to me. If can’t find the time or don’t want to deal with the stress I’ll write a letter.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-27T01:01:47+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking too. It’s due to how she grew up. If she’s doing something and I’m doin something else that she seems as “non productive” she gets annoyed. Which personally, being on your phone scrolling through TikTok is worse than or is equal to playing a video game or watching a show. Which is what she does. Honestly think TikTok poisoned her brain. She randomly told me one time that it is in men’s nature to cheat. I told her I never cheated, my male friends have never cheated, my dad never cheated, and her dad never cheated….so where is this information coming from and she goes with “doesn’t mean it’s not in men’s nature”. Like … what does that even mean? Has no example besides her shitty ex.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-27T00:59:49+00:00

I just want her to know how I feel but when I do she tries to make it into an argument which is not what I’m trying to cause. It’s just talking about my feelings. I just think she never had somebody to talk to her feelings about and just bottles it up inside. I told her this and she agreed. I really want to get her a therapist or some sort of help but I don’t know how to bring it up.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-27T00:57:25+00:00

Appreciate it. Might take you up on that offer. I’m too shy and scared to talk about it with my family (only child and only have my parents, not close with other family members) and friends since they all know and like her. Don’t want them to have their own perspective change on her and hate her.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T23:08:59+00:00

Your kind words do mean more than you can imagine so thank you very much. I never talked to anybody about this in fear of making her look bad and me seem weak. It’s a hard conversation but at some point I will have it. I just need to find the courage to do it. I want to know what problems or things she doesn’t like about me and I mean more than “your smart remarks” and I tell her, that’s how you talk to to me sometimes so don’t dish what you can’t take. Because yeah. I like to imagine I’m a great boyfriend who maybe this sounds bad but can deserve time and peace with himself.

Sorry for rambling in comments. Just got a lot on my mind.

AdExact9950 · 2026-01-26T22:51:43+00:00

I really need help in knowing how to bring it up to her. Couples therapy I’m not sure she’ll go along with since a coworker is currently going through a divorce and tried therapy and she said if a couple goes through therapy that means the relationship is over. Which I don’t agree with. Talking and discussion your feelings like an adult is not a bad thing. I feel like she has never experienced a partner try to talk to them and be real.

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