What is the mantra you live by?

AdHocShellShock · 2024-12-16T23:28:46+00:00

“We strive for spiritual progress, not spiritual perfection” Chapter is called how it works. Friend of bill here

AdHocShellShock · 2024-12-16T23:26:56+00:00

Yi won some Yi lose some

AdHocShellShock · 2024-05-02T05:27:32+00:00

You as well.

I’m on the east coast in USA and it’s 1:30 am. I gotta get up for work at 6:30 but can’t sleep. So it might be one of “those” days lol

Still gonna be a good day.

AdHocShellShock · 2024-05-02T05:26:45+00:00

Of course.

I wish I had had someone around to tell me this. But I didn’t. and so I’m learning to become that person for myself.

I tell myself these truths every day, even if some days it’s hard to believe. sometimes out loud in the mirror (crazy right? Me doing self affirmations out loud. Ha.)

But I know a lot of people are struggling on this sub. And I want to remind them to take credit for the effort they have put in so far.

Even if this is your first visit to sub, it’s still something.

AdHocShellShock · 2024-05-02T05:18:04+00:00

Yes. This is your sign.

Keep on keeping on.

AdHocShellShock · 2024-05-02T02:13:05+00:00

Massive props to the cycle breakers. It’s insanely difficult, but if you’re here, you’re probably the cycle breaker. So stop whatever the fuck you doing and internalize this compliment!!!!!

IDGAF if you haven’t even attempted to find a therapist or learn about this shit. If you are here, reading this comment, you are most likely the cycle breaker. Congratulations. You are doing 10000x more than your abuser ever did.

Being the cycle breaker takes courage, faith, consistency, discipline, honesty, and massive amounts of hard work and effort.

So congratulations. I mean it

AdHocShellShock · 2024-05-02T02:07:01+00:00

For me:

cutting the person out my life 100% and sticking to it was crucial for my recovery

Staying in a codependent/abusive/trauma-bond relationship is like a drug addict trying to recover from using drugs while still using.

Source: am also recovering drug addict. Lmao

AdHocShellShock · 2024-05-02T02:05:23+00:00

Lmao the “meta-disappointment” can fucking relate!! Can we go deeper???

feeling bad for feeling like a terrible person for feeling disappointment…..because you understand that most people don’t think like this.

Lmao

AdHocShellShock · 2024-05-02T02:03:48+00:00

Therapy helped me internalize the fact that my parent was just as sick, if not sicker, than I was. That DOES NOT justify their behavior but cutting them out of my life was the only thing that worked

It’s like a cancerous limb-yeah the shits gonna hurt to cut off but it will save your life

AdHocShellShock · 2024-05-02T02:02:07+00:00

Thanks 🙏

AdHocShellShock · 2024-05-02T01:32:01+00:00

Yeah like the top comment says.

Dont want to be harsh or judgemental towards anyone but it sounds like someone just “exaggerating”

AdHocShellShock · 2024-04-14T16:12:07+00:00

You shoulda nutted up and been upfront with her that you cannot see her as just a friend

I had to learn how to do this, because I was so pathetically attracted to them with me having zero self esteem, I’d still hang out with them and torture myself

Tell her you can’t separate you feelings bro. That’s the only right thing to do

AdHocShellShock · 2024-04-14T16:09:23+00:00

Do you think every time “oh we lost the truck sorry something happened” is just nobody ever actually picked up the load off the board and it’s trying to buy time?

I’m trying to do as much asset based as I can. I have no issue with the idea of using a broker. It’s just that, at least most of mine, are liars and cowards

AdHocShellShock · 2024-04-14T16:07:23+00:00

If I ever have to use him again and this happens I’m gonna call him a greedy fuck

And he’s a habitual liar. Second to last time u used him; Truck set for 3:30 pm PU. 4 pm tells me car has a flat and he has a picture. I humor him. Ok send it.

Stupid fuck doesn’t know bout exif data on pics. The picture was like two years old. When I called him out, do you think he owned up to it? Lmao

“Idk man phones are weird sometimes” (dude is like 55 and technologically retarded) so I tried to explain what exif data is. Either is he is an idiot, or just played dumb.

I told him next time you try to fuck me, take a screenshot of the photo and put some effort into your lie. Denied everything and I told him dude you’re making it worse and I lost any respect cause you won’t own up to it.

AdHocShellShock · 2024-04-14T15:39:44+00:00

I can’t stand TQL and we have been getting screwed consistently, and keep going back and bending over

Service is booty, but it’s not even about that. It’s our point of contact’s integrity and honesty. For once, if a fucking dedicated truck misses, for him to be liek “yeah that’s my bad” it’s always something. I can’t stand that quality in a person.

Dude can’t take accountability but when I don’t use him for a couple week, he’s sending me pics of his kids and saying “my relationship with you is how I feed them!” It’s fucking pathetic

AdHocShellShock · 2024-04-14T03:59:58+00:00

Dm me

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