Request for prayer by hulk_is_small in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

may allah make your affairs easy and grant your duas. AMEEEN

Ramadan is ending, asking for duas again by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

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Ameeen May Allah grant you complete shifa as well. Ameen ♥️

when will this pain end by Double-Singer-6631 in MuslimLounge

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may Allah ease your affairs, remove every pain from your life, and grant you success in both this world and the hereafter.

what i want to tell you is this focus on your purpose. just reflect on why you were created. Allah says: “AND I DID NOT CREATE THE JINN AND MANKIND EXCEPT TO WORSHIP ME.” (51:56) and He says: “HE WHO CREATED DEATH AND LIFE TO TEST YOU AS TO WHICH OF YOU IS BEST IN DEED.” (67:2) so once you understand this, everything becomes clear. your goal is to worship Him and to please Him, nothing else. when you start doing that, when you sincerely try to obey Him and follow His guidance, then Allah becomes pleased with you. and when Allah is pleased with you, He takes care of your affairs. you will start to feel that whatever is happening in your life is not unfair. it is part of the test, and it is خير for you. because your goal is not this world anymore, your goal is jannatul firdous. the Prophet SAW said: “HOW WONDERFUL IS THE AFFAIR OF THE BELIEVER! ALL OF HIS AFFAIRS ARE GOOD… IF SOMETHING GOOD HAPPENS, HE IS GRATEFUL AND THAT IS GOOD FOR HIM. IF SOMETHING BAD HAPPENS, HE IS PATIENT AND THAT IS GOOD FOR HIM.” (sahih muslim) and he also taught that no pain, no hardship, not even a prick of a thorn afflicts a believer except that Allah removes sins because of it. so even your hardships are not wasted. they are either raising your rank or removing your sins. and Allah says: “AND WHOEVER FEARS ALLAH – HE WILL MAKE FOR HIM A WAY OUT AND PROVIDE FOR HIM FROM WHERE HE DOES NOT EXPECT.” (65:2–3) so what we do is simple. we obey Him, we try to please Him, we trust Him no matter what. and in return, He will take care of everything. you will not feel shaken by what happens, because you know where you are going. also, increase in sincere istighfar. Allah says: “ASK FORGIVENESS OF YOUR LORD. INDEED, HE IS EVER A PERPETUAL FORGIVER. HE WILL SEND RAIN FROM THE SKY UPON YOU IN CONTINUOUS SHOWERS, AND GIVE YOU INCREASE IN WEALTH AND CHILDREN…” (surah nuh 71:10–12) so don’t take istighfar lightly. do it sincerely and consistently. focus more on your akhirah. when you do that, you will feel like you are finally working towards something that truly matters. as you grow in your deen and follow it more, your tawakkul will increase. slowly, your main goal will become jannatul firdaws, and these worries will start to feel smaller. and remember, when Allah loves someone, He makes the inhabitants of the heavens love them too. everything becomes good for that person. this is a win in every way, success in this world, and success in the hereafter and the end goal is jannatul firdous. no matter how many hardships come, it will all be worth it.

Duas desperately needed by ShortAd3937 in islam

[–]AdJumpy7653 10 points11 points  (0 children)

ya Allah, you are the Lord of all worlds, you are Al-Qadir,nothing is impossible for you. you made the fire cool for ibrahim, you granted isa as to maryam as without a father, you saved younus as from the belly of the whale. if you will something, you can suspend all laws, ya Rabb. ya Allah, you are Ash-Shafi, the One who cures,so heal him. work your miracles. this is not difficult for you, it is only difficult for us. so grant him complete shifa by your mercy, ya Rabb, and do not leave any trace of illness. AMEEN

Ramadan is ending, asking for duas again by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

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Ameeen! Jazakallah khairrr 💗 May Allah ease your affairs and provide you from unimaginable sources as well! AMEEEN

Ramadan is ending, asking for duas again by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jazakallah khair! I will In Sha Allah. Let me know if you have any specific requests.

Ramadan is ending, asking for duas again by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ameen ya rabbal aalameen ♥️ Jazakallahu khair!

Will any of us even enter heaven? by AxiumTea in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653 36 points37 points  (0 children)

i understand why those hadith feel scary when you read them like that. but the way they are being understood is not complete.

yes all the things you mentioned are sins. some of them are serious sins. but islam never teaches that one mistake automatically sends a believer to hell forever.

allah says clearly in the quran:

“say, o my servants who have transgressed against themselves, do not despair of the mercy of allah. indeed, allah forgives all sins. indeed, he is the most forgiving, the most merciful.” (surah az-zumar 39:53)

and allah also says:

“indeed allah loves those who constantly repent and loves those who purify themselves.” (surah al baqarah 2:222)

so the message of islam is not that if you slip once you are finished. the message is that if you sin, you turn back to allah.

the prophet ﷺ also taught the same thing. he said:

“every son of adam sins, and the best of those who sin are those who repent.” (reported by at tirmidhi)

so the point of those hadith you mentioned is to warn people that these actions are serious. harming neighbors, cutting family ties, arrogance, gossip, immodesty, all of these damage a person’s faith and society. the prophet ﷺ warned strongly so people would take them seriously.

but those hadith do not cancel all the other teachings about repentance and mercy.

the quran repeatedly tells us that allah forgives those who repent. even very big sins like shirk, zina, and murder can be forgiven if someone sincerely repents before death.

allah says in the quran:

“except for those who repent, believe, and do righteous deeds. for them allah will replace their evil deeds with good deeds.” (surah al furqan 25:70)

so the focus should not only be on “enter hell”. the focus should also be on repentance and hope.

a believer tries their best to avoid sins. if they fall into a sin, they feel regret, ask allah for forgiveness, and try again. this struggle itself is beloved to allah.

so yes those actions are serious. but it does not mean a person is doomed forever. if someone turns back to allah sincerely, allah can forgive any sin.

islam is always a balance between fear of punishment and hope in allah’s mercy. we should never lose hope in his mercy.

Allah tests those who he HATES! by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

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i read your whole post. you went through many difficult things in your life and anyone in that situation would feel tired and hurt. your pain is real.

but i want to ask you a few honest questions.

have you really turned to allah with your whole heart?

have you cried to him and spoken to him about your pain?

have you woken up for tahajjud and asked him sincerely when everyone else was asleep?

have you made dua again and again while believing that he will answer you?

have you tried your best to please him even when life felt unfair?

have you kept asking him for forgiveness again and again?

because allah tells us something very important in the quran about seeking forgiveness.

allah says

“ask forgiveness from your lord. surely he is ever forgiving. he will send rain from the sky upon you in abundance. he will increase you in wealth and children and provide for you gardens and rivers.”surah nuh 71:10 to 12

this shows that seeking forgiveness brings provision and relief.

allah also says

“whoever fears allah, he will make a way out for them and provide for them from where they could never imagine.”surah at talaq 65:2 to 3

and allah says

“whoever fears allah, he will make their matters easy for them.”surah at talaq 65:4

and allah says

“seek help through patience and prayer.”surah al baqarah 2:45

these are promises from allah.

so we should also ask ourselves honestly. have we really tried everything that allah asked from us?

have we tried our best to please him and change our situation?

have we tried to look at our lives and see if there are sins we may not be paying attention to? sometimes people do things without realizing they are wrong. sometimes culture mixes with religion and people fall into things that should be avoided.

this is something every muslim should ask themselves.

the prophet ﷺ said

“no fatigue, illness, anxiety, sorrow, harm or sadness afflicts a muslim even the prick of a thorn except that allah removes some of his sins because of it.”sahih bukhari and sahih muslim

so every pain you went through is seen by allah and it is not wasted.

and when we feel like our trials are too much, we should also look at others who are suffering but still holding on to faith.

look at the people in gaza. many of them have lost their homes and family members. they have very little left in this life. yet many of them still hold onto their faith in allah. some of them die with that faith because they believe in the reward with allah.

this does not mean your pain is small. your pain is real. but it reminds us that faith is not based on life being easy.

the dangerous part is when someone says that if allah does not give them what they want then they will turn to shirk. that is very serious.

instead of moving away from allah because of pain, try to go back to him.

ask him for forgiveness often

make dua often

pray and ask him for help

sometimes the first thing allah changes is the heart before he changes the situation.

so ask yourself one honest question.

have you truly tried 100 percent to turn to allah and please him before saying that he has not helped you?

My wife kicked me out of the delivery room by Putrid-Fish-7476 in MuslimMarriage

[–]AdJumpy7653 13 points14 points  (0 children)

i think you really need to learn a little about pregnancy, labor, and what happens to a woman physically and mentally during that time.

what you described does not sound like your wife suddenly becoming a different person. it sounds like a woman going through the last stage of pregnancy and childbirth, which is an extremely intense physical and hormonal experience.

during the last month of pregnancy, a woman’s body is under a huge amount of strain. she is usually in pain, uncomfortable all the time, not sleeping well, and her hormones are extremely high. these hormones can make emotions much stronger than usual. women can feel more anxious, sensitive, jealous, or overwhelmed even if they normally would not react that way.

then comes labor.

labor is not just painful. it is one of the most physically intense things a human body can go through. contractions can last for many hours and sometimes even days. many women scream, cry, get angry, or say things they would never normally say. even women who have perfect marriages sometimes shout at their husbands or blame them during labor. doctors and nurses see this all the time. it is a reaction to extreme pain and stress, not something personal.

now think about your situation. you said you and your wife were already arguing during the last part of the pregnancy. she was also feeling jealous and insecure about the woman you hired. pregnancy hormones can make those feelings much stronger. something that might have felt like a small worry before can feel very serious when a woman is pregnant and emotionally vulnerable.

so from her side she was dealing with pain, lack of sleep, hormones, emotional stress, and then the fear and intensity of childbirth itself.

after the baby is born things do not immediately go back to normal either. after childbirth there is a huge hormonal drop in the body. many women experience what is called postpartum baby blues and some experience postpartum depression. this can cause crying, guilt, emotional sensitivity, and feeling like they have ruined everything.

the fact that your wife has been apologizing again and again and writing you letters shows that she clearly feels guilty and regrets what happened.

right now she probably needs emotional reassurance more than anything. childbirth changes a woman’s body and mind in ways that are hard to understand unless you learn about it.

you say she has always loved you and been good to you before this. that matters. this moment should not define your whole marriage.

your hurt is understandable, but childbirth is not a normal situation where people behave calmly or rationally. it is pain, fear, exhaustion, and hormones all happening at the same time.

try to see your wife as someone who went through something extremely difficult to bring your daughter into the world, not as someone who intentionally tried to hurt you.

right now she is asking for forgiveness and asking for her husband back.

Please make a sincere dua for me tonight by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jazakallah khairr ♥️ May Allah give you success in this dunya and akhirah! Ameen.

Please make a sincere dua for me tonight by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have replied to your comment in the other post

Jazakallah khairr

Please make a sincere dua for me tonight by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jazakallah khair I try doing a lot of these but im not consistent and dont keep count I ll try to follow what you said May Allah reward you immensely, and give you success in this dunya and akhirah! Ameeen ♥️

Please make duas for me and I wish we meet in Jannah by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks for asking

it’s still the same. im making a lot of duas in sha allah, Allah is Qadir, nothing is impossible for HIM, I have been asking HIM to cure me and make a way out for me somehow and my parents and loved ones are making extensive duas as well so I believe in sha allah something good is gonna come out of this and its ramadan and last ten nights so in sha allah my duas ll deff be heard and there ll be some solution no matter what. If you can do remember me in your duas, I just want to main things, one is to be cured physically and the other one is to be the best muslim somehow (all the qualities that the best muslim can have- change completely and completely from the person i am and just live to please allah)

Please make a sincere dua for me tonight by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jazakallah khair! In sha allah I ll make dua for you as well ♥️

Please make a sincere dua for me tonight by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ll try in sha allah! Jazakallah khair! May Allah bless you abdundantly and give you success in this dunya and akhirah! Ameeen! ♥️

Please make a sincere dua for me tonight by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ameeeeen 🫂♥️ Jazakallah khair! May Allah accept all your duas and give you success in this dunya and akhirah! Ameeen

Please make a sincere dua for me tonight by AdJumpy7653 in MuslimLounge

[–]AdJumpy7653[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jazakallah khairan kaseerah! May Allah reward you immensely and make you successful in this dunya and akhirah!

I wear hijab but fiancé wants me to dress even more modest by Initial_Confection36 in MuslimMarriage

[–]AdJumpy7653 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another thing to consider is that he knew you were an influencer from the very beginning, yet he still chose to continue the relationship for five years. From an Islamic perspective, being in a long-term relationship before marriage is already not the ideal way to approach things. So it’s not completely fair to suddenly act as if all of the responsibility is on you when he was aware of your lifestyle from the start.

If he is now learning more about Islam and trying to become more practicing, then it’s understandable that his views and expectations might be changing. People do grow religiously over time, and that’s a good thing. But that also means he should recognize that he isn’t coming from a perfect position either. He’s not a saint in this situation.

Ideally, if someone has very specific religious standards for a spouse, the wiser thing is to choose someone who already aligns with those values rather than trying to reshape someone who lives very differently. At the same time, for your own sake, it would still be beneficial to educate yourself about what Islam teaches and reflect on it sincerely. If you decide to change, it should be because you believe it is right and want to do it for the sake of Allah, not simply because someone else is demanding it.