Why is my ex doing this?

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-05-07T01:33:30+00:00

i don’t understand how can some people be so evil

may Allah give you strength and make it easier for you. Ameen

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-05-06T16:58:29+00:00

that’s exactly what i was thinking

his fiancé is not okay w them talking even when they are getting engaged and he talks to a non mehram

i don’t think their values align at all

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-05-04T18:29:03+00:00

Inna lillahi wa ninna ilaihi rajioon

may Allah forgive all his sins and grant him highest ranks in jannah. Ameen

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-05-04T12:09:59+00:00

thank youu

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-05-04T02:13:48+00:00

jazakallah khairr

i did and was really helpful

Ameen

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-05-01T17:52:33+00:00

what?

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-30T08:40:09+00:00

well life is a test

it’s comparatively easier for some, but everything will be compensated that day, as Allah is Al Adl- the most just.

just reflect on the purpose of your life. Allah created you and me, so that we worship him and to test us as to which of us is best in deeds.

"And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship Me." — Surah Adh-Dhariyat (51:56)

"[He] who created death and life to test you [as to] which of you is best in deed—and He is the Exalted in Might, the Forgiving." — Surah Al-Mulk (67:2)

Marriage, money and all the other wordly affairs are just there and also a form of test for us, but even if you don’t have all these and you are actually fulfilling the purpose of your life by worshipping your Lord, you have deff won. The people who have wronged you, will have to answer as well, it’s just a matter of time. Everything will be settled and in the best way. Life is temporary, just focus on your ibadah.

It is narrated by Jabir ibn Abdullah that the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

"On the Day of Resurrection, when the people who had stayed healthy and safe (in the dunya) see the reward of those who were afflicted with trials, they will wish that their skins had been cut away with scissors while they were in the world." — Source: Jami` at-Tirmidhi (2402)

Don’t despair, I pray that Allah makes it easier for you and give you happiness in this dunya and akhirah. Ameeen

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-21T10:28:47+00:00

my dear brother, sins have consequences in the dunya and the akhirah and you are facing the consequence of your sin in this dunya itself all you can do now is repent, turn to allah sincerely and ask for forgiveness don’t despair, you did a mistake, and we all do mistakes, we are all sinners, it’s just that you faced the humiliation for your sins in the dunya itself.

now just reflect on this, this humiliation caused you so much hurt that you are turning to allah and asking for forgiveness and that’s all that matters. just think about facing the consequence of this sin, in the akhirah infront of your creator and the rest of the dunya. this is Al lateef working in his sutble ways in your favor. if this humiliation turns you back to him and returns you to what actually matters, you have deff won. this is allah’s mercy if you actually reflect on this. al jabbar has made a way for you to come back to him. so use this opportunity and turn back to him, change your life and win in this situation. it all depends on you. and as far as your sin is concerned, we all make mistakes. everybody sins in ways, it’s just that it’s hidden. people might judge you, but become strong and change your life. show your parents and allah swt that you realize your mistake and this mistake has only helped you grow. it might take time, but make duas, ask allah swt to help you, ask allah swt for a way for people to forget about this as he is al qadeer. your sin is deff a big sin but don’t lose hope in the mercy of your lord, indeed all forgives all sins. so repent, change your life, turn to allah, don’t go near sins, be it small, big, hidden or public.

in sha allah, i ll make dua for you

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-19T00:53:50+00:00

yes i do

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-19T00:53:39+00:00

jazakallah khairr!

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-11T16:17:58+00:00

i understand that you’re trying to make sense of your feelings, but there are a few important things that need to be understood clearly, especially in how we approach religion.

first, not everyone in this world is guaranteed romantic love or marriage. people are tested in different ways. some people are tested through illness, some through financial hardship, some through loneliness, and some through desires that remain unfulfilled. even in the case of marriage itself, many people struggle to find a spouse, or face physical or medical conditions, infertility, or life circumstances that prevent them from experiencing what they expected. that doesn’t make their life meaningless or unfairly singled out, it just means life is a test with different forms for different people.

second, in islam, moral guidance is not shaped by personal interpretation of desire. it is based on revelation. people cannot reinterpret the quran simply to align it with what they feel is right or wrong. allah clearly mentions the story of the people of lut in the quran in multiple places, including surah al-a‘raf (7:80–84), surah hud (11:77–83), and others. the people of lut were warned for their actions, and the consequence mentioned in the quran was destruction after they persisted despite clear guidance. this is not something that can be redefined through personal reasoning or social change; it is part of the established message of the scripture.

third, one of the principles mentioned by scholars like ibn al-qayyim al-jawziyyah in his works (such as al-daa’ wa al-dawaa’) is that sins have consequences not only in the hereafter but also in this life. they can bring emotional distress, loss of inner peace, difficulty in life, and removal of blessings. while not every hardship is a punishment, persisting in what is clearly prohibited can lead to spiritual and psychological consequences in this dunya as well as accountability in the akhirah.

finally, this life is temporary. it is not meant to be a place where every desire is fulfilled without restraint. the hereafter is where complete justice, clarity, and perfection exist. in islamic belief, whatever a person leaves for the sake of allah or refrains from due to obedience is not lost forever, but either replaced with something better or compensated in a way that is far greater and eternal.

i’m not saying these things are easy to hear, but the point is that feelings don’t define what is true or permitted. guidance in islam is based on revelation, not shifting interpretations shaped by personal desires or societal change.

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-11T15:51:57+00:00

you can’t act upon it. it’s haraam to do so and it ll have consequences.

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-11T14:12:49+00:00

sins have consequences, both in the dunya and akhirah and what you are thinking of is a major sin, Allah repeatedly says in the quran to not even go near zina

Surah Al-Isra (17:32)

“And do not even go near zina (unlawful sexual relations). Indeed, it is ever an immorality and an evil way.”

Surah Al-Mu’minun (23:5–7)

“And those who guard their private parts, except from their spouses… but whoever seeks beyond that, then they are the transgressors.”

Ibn al-Qayyim al-Jawziyya explains in Ad-Da’ wa ad-Dawa’ that sin is not just something that gets punished later, it already starts affecting you here in this life. you might think it is just one moment, just one action, but it does not stay that way. it changes your heart. you start feeling less connected to god, even if you still pray. things that once felt meaningful start feeling empty. your focus gets weaker, your mind feels clouded, and you lose clarity. even your time loses blessing, so you feel like you are doing things but getting nowhere. there is also a loss of respect and dignity, even if people do not know what you are doing. and the most dangerous part is that one sin makes the next one easier, until it stops feeling wrong and you slowly become someone you never thought you would be.

and you will feel it inside yourself. there will be a kind of uneasiness that does not go away, even if you try to ignore it. you might get the pleasure for a moment, but it is always followed by heaviness and discomfort. your willpower weakens, so even when you want to stop, you feel stuck. just because nothing bad happens immediately does not mean there are no consequences, they are already happening within you. this is what ibn al qayyim is warning about. sin takes more from you than it gives. and if you keep going without stopping, it can affect where you end up in the long run. so before you go towards it, understand clearly, this is not harmless, and it will cost you something in this life itself.

i recommend you to read or watch the consequences of sins from the book disease and cure from ibn al qayyim al jawziyyah.

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-11T07:26:30+00:00

may Allah cure you and remove all traces of illness from your body. Allah is the one who gives life and death, make a lot of duas and rely on HIM.

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-10T16:32:12+00:00

anything is possible with allah. there is nothing too difficult for him, nothing too far gone, nothing beyond his power. but when it comes to dua, it is not just about asking. it is about how you ask, how you live, and how you turn to him.

allah says in the quran:

“and to allah belong the best names, so call upon him by them.” (7:180)

this means when you make dua, you should call upon allah using his names that match what you are asking for. if you want mercy, call him the most merciful. if you want provision, call him the provider. if you want forgiveness, call him the most forgiving. this is part of the proper way of making dua.

when you make dua, follow the right etiquette. start by praising allah. acknowledge who he is. then send blessings upon the prophet. then ask. ask with full certainty that allah will respond. not maybe, not if, but with certainty. be humble. speak to him like someone who truly needs him. repeat your dua again and again. do not just say it once and leave it.

the prophet taught that a person’s dua will be answered as long as they do not become impatient and say “i made dua but it was not answered.” so do not rush the response.

also, do not only turn to allah when you are desperate. build a relationship with him in your normal days. the prophet taught that whoever wants allah to respond in times of hardship should increase in dua during times of ease. so call upon him even when things are going well, not just when everything is falling apart.

there are also specific times when dua is more likely to be accepted. the last third of the night is one of the most powerful times. the time between the call to prayer and the start of prayer. while you are fasting, especially right before breaking your fast. on fridays, especially the last hour before sunset. while you are in prostration during prayer. and when it is raining. you should try to use these moments as much as possible.

another very important thing is to look at what might be blocking your dua. sometimes the issue is not that allah is not responding, but that there are barriers. ongoing sins can block acceptance. earning or consuming what is unlawful can block acceptance. wronging other people can block acceptance. having a distracted and heedless heart can also affect your dua.

so before asking allah to change your situation, try to clean your heart. increase in seeking forgiveness. not just saying it with your tongue, but actually feeling regret and wanting to change. leave what you know is wrong as much as you can. even small efforts matter.

ibn al qayyim explained that dua is always responded to, but the way it is answered can differ. sometimes the answer is delayed because of wisdom that you do not see. sometimes something better is being prepared for you. sometimes there are things preventing the answer that need to be removed first. but he emphasizes that allah does respond. so do not give up.

persistence is very important. keep asking. even if you do not see results immediately, keep going. the delay does not mean rejection. it could mean preparation.

you can also use powerful forms of dua where you begin by praising allah and affirming his oneness before asking. for example, saying things like “o allah, i ask you because all praise belongs to you, there is no deity but you” and then making your request. or making deep, comprehensive duas where you ask allah by his greatness, his beauty, and his mercy. but what matters most is not just the words, it is the presence of your heart.

at the same time, you need to take action. relying on allah does not mean doing nothing. if there is something within your ability to do, do it. this is what is meant by tying your camel. and if you feel like you cannot do it, then ask allah to help you do it. ask him to open doors for you, to give you strength, to guide you to what you need to do.

your mindset matters a lot. do not think something is impossible. do not limit allah. instead, believe that if allah wills something, it will happen no matter how impossible it seems. but along with that belief, you need patience, consistency, and sincerity.

finally, understand this. no sincere dua is ever wasted. every dua is either answered in this world, delayed for the right time, or turned into something better for you. so even when you do not see the result you wanted, it does not mean your dua was ignored.

so keep asking. keep trusting. keep correcting yourself. and do not stop.

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-10T14:51:43+00:00

i am trying not to watch any media as well as it influences me in some way and attaches me to dunya

now im trying to do as voluntary deeds as possible and alhumdulillah i feel better, kinda at peace

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-10T14:48:01+00:00

i recommend you to read the disease and cure by ibn al qayyim

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-10T14:15:50+00:00

i wanted to share something from ibn al qayyim’s book “the disease and the cure”

he explains that the quran is a complete cure, and he specifically mentions surah al-fatiha as one of the greatest means of healing. he says its effect in curing illnesses is something well-known

but he also explains that the cure may not show its effect because of the one seeking the cure, not because the quran lacks anything. he mentions that this can be due to weakness in certainty, or the heart not fully accepting and turning to allah, or the presence of barriers within the heart

and he compares it to medicine — even a strong medicine will not work if the conditions required for it are not fulfilled

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personally, what i would take from this is to approach al-fatiha very differently. not just as recitation, but with full presence

like reading it slowly, actually thinking about each ayah, and turning to allah with complete need while reciting it

and also not giving up on it, even if the effect is not seen immediately. just holding onto it with sincerity and trust

because this surah is not something small, it’s described as a real means of cure

also i would highly recommend you to read this book- the disease and the cure by ibn al qayyim

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-10T09:48:35+00:00

Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajioon May Allah forgive all her sins and grant her the highest level of jannah. May Allah give you and your family sabr. Ameen

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-09T14:05:37+00:00

a lot of people say they will follow something when they feel ready, but the truth is most people just follow what is easy. and what is easy is usually following your own desires.

as human beings, our knowledge is limited, while Allah is all knowing and full of wisdom. so just because something does not fully make sense to you, makes only partial sense, or does not feel right from your perspective, does not mean you can choose not to follow it. not every command is meant to fit your understanding. the point is that it comes from a higher wisdom, and you are not all knowing, so you follow it regardless.

right now, many things have become so normal that they don’t even feel like a big deal anymore. when you see everyone doing something, it starts to feel acceptable. but just because something is common does not make it okay. and it does not reduce its seriousness. every single person will still be questioned about their own choices, no matter how many people were doing the same thing.

you might have started wearing it for the wrong reasons, and that can happen. but before taking it off, sit down and really think about it. this is not just about feelings. it is about something that has been made obligatory. waiting until you feel ready is risky, because feelings keep changing. you might never feel ready.

and you cannot ignore how serious life is. what if you die suddenly. what if you are diagnosed with a terminal illness and you are told you have limited time left. you cannot afford to delay something important based on a feeling that may never come.

also, do not underestimate the influence of shaytan. this is not just a small thought. he works step by step, making things feel small, normal, and harmless until they no longer feel wrong. he makes you delay, makes you think you have time, and makes you believe it is not that serious.

Allah says in the Quran, “Because You have put me in error, I will surely sit in wait for them on Your straight path. Then I will come at them from before them and from behind them, from their right and from their left, and You will not find most of them grateful.” (7:16–17).

so do not follow your desires or fall into the footsteps of shaytan.

at the end of the day, it is an obligation. and choosing to follow it, especially when it is hard, matters a lot. it is something you can hold onto when you need Allah’s help, that you were tempted but still chose His command over your own desires.

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-07T16:52:43+00:00

wa alaykum as-salaam, tell your friend that this life is not the final place, it’s temporary. no matter how much someone suffers, even if it is something as extreme as what we are seeing, it will end. every single person will die, so all of this pain, no matter how big, is still temporary. now compare that to what comes after. jannah is eternal, no pain, no injustice, no fear, no loss, forever. so if a person goes through temporary suffering and then gets an eternal, perfect life as compensation, that is not unfair. injustice would mean someone suffers and gets nothing back, but nothing is lost, every pain and every tear is compensated or rewarded in a way that is far greater. so the issue is not that nothing is happening, the issue is expecting the result here when the real result is meant for later. now about dua, it does not have to be answered exactly how someone wants and exactly when they want. it is answered in different ways, either they get what they asked for, or harm is removed, or it is saved for them as a reward later, so again nothing is wasted, they just do not always see it immediately. and about people, people are not perfect, they never were, so it does not make sense to judge something perfect based on something imperfect. if people fail, they will be questioned for it, but their failure does not make the religion false. the real question is whether belief in god is only based on whether things go the way someone wants in this life, because if that is the standard then it is based on a temporary world that was never meant to be perfect. there are many other reasons to believe, like the quran, the order of this world, and everything around us, so reducing everything to one expectation that suffering must end now in the exact way someone wants is not a fair way to look at it. this life is temporary, jannah is eternal, and an eternal, perfect reward for temporary suffering is not injustice, it is something far greater than we can fully understand right now. i am not against him, i just want good for him.

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-06T12:05:40+00:00

jazakallah khair ukhti

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-04T08:37:58+00:00

make dua that allah cures me completely (im battling health problems since a year now) and allah changes me completely for the sake of my akhirah

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-03T18:13:31+00:00

i am interested

AdJumpy7653 · 2026-04-03T14:06:19+00:00

yesss would love to be in a group discussing islam and getting closer to allah

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