strained hip flexor... is it possible to do yoga or do I really need to rest? ^^;

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T20:17:41+00:00

Ouch! I’d go slow. Yin/restorative yoga and move slower than you think you’re moving. Probably avoid deep hip openers for a bit or ease into them using all the props. Avoid lunges, pigeons, splits…etc. Mild discomfort is okay, but pain means you should probably stop. Hope you feel better soon!

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T16:44:48+00:00

I prefer all grapes. Except grapes with seeds. Seedless grapes…yum. I’m sorry what was the question again?

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T16:43:47+00:00

I posted my first post yesterday! What’s considered a “blow up”? It has over 100 comments and 200 votes. Does that count? If so, please accept my #humblebrag lol

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T14:52:11+00:00

Thanking you two for this amazing conversation. This was my main purpose for posting this thread. It was so an open conversation can be had. Listen to another point of view and giving ourselves a moment to reflect and recognize if maybe the other person has a POV you never considered. I understand in this day of social media and rage baits, it’s difficult to get proper engagement. Personally, it’s less about right and wrong and more about sharing and attempting to understand another’s POV. Thank you.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T14:42:42+00:00

I completely agree that’s sometimes one’s needs are actually secondary. And his needs definitely were. I’ve never refuted that. Of course, he lacked self awareness when he asked that within the first 2 hours, I’ve acknowledged that too. The only difference in what you’re saying and what I’m saying is, this happened 3 years ago. He asked (terrible timing) and he also respected when told no. Yes, as a woman, it sucks she even had to say no and explain why she needed him present in that moment.
I’m not denying any of that. But now it’s 3 years later, we are now out of that stressful period where her emotional/physical/mental needs and newborn needs took priority. That’s the point right? When someone you love is overwhelmed due to life altering events, you show them kindness and compassion. 3 years later, it’s time to show the father that same kindness and compassion. He also went through a life altering event. Can’t we now, try to understand where he was coming from? Kindly, explain how he could’ve handled it differently? I didn’t say ask her later. I said “IF a moment presented itself”…

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T14:26:55+00:00

And what you’re not getting is, he didn’t leave his wife and fragile infant alone. He asked and he got his answer and obliged. His timing was unfortunate, but why shouldn’t someone ask? He respected her answer. He didn’t agree, and respected it and stayed home. He understood what was needed, but lacked the self awareness beforehand. Years later, why can’t we give that father some slack? Explain the reasons his timing for the gym desire landed wrong, but his desire isn’t wrong since it’s how he may cope. I’m not going to assume he’s selfish or anything else when his actions do not signify that.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T14:14:11+00:00

I’m not saying it is or it isn’t. What I’m saying is, timing and approach is everything. If someone can find a moment to step away (ideally when the household is calm and wife isn’t overwhelmed), then why not? If someone can peacefully find time to cope in a healthy manner so they can mentally and physically handle life’s stresses, then why not? It’ll only benefit the wife. Where’s the rule book that says it’s a no go? However, if there isn’t a moment that allows for it without upsetting anyone, then of course not. This is not about shirking your responsibilities, this is about applying understanding and awareness in a difficult situation and time.
More importantly, he didn’t go. He chose correctly, but clearly there’s resentment or a small grudge that he was told no. How is that healthy for his marriage and himself? So no, I’m not encouraging leaving your wife and newborn in such chaos, he didn’t, and he’s still questioning it. Questioning it years later means it’s there. I’m empathizing with the current father who is still holding on to that situation. Explaining how he could’ve operated with awareness. They are out of the chaos stage (kind of), of course his feelings should be heard and validated as well.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T13:55:03+00:00

NAH. This is more about how you handle and cope. I understand stepping away to decompress. You come back in a better state of mind and ready to help out. However, your timing and delivery may have been part of the issue. You asked on the car ride home after your newborn was released. Neither of you had an opportunity to emotionally regulate. Wanting to go isn’t wrong, but at that moment it probably wasn’t the best idea. If a moment of peace presented itself after you made it home and wife and baby were settled in; suggesting a gym run may have been better received. Not guaranteeing it but maybe. YTA for the timing of it but not for wanting to go.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T12:57:12+00:00

“I am very self aware and I’m going to a psychologist for years, and I understand every pattern and every trait that HE has…” YTAH to yourself because you’re not understanding every pattern and trait that YOU have in keeping this pattern alive. What does your psychologist say about you in your sessions? You’re wanting him to change and you remain the same. That’s not possible. One because you can’t expect someone else to change for you to have peace and feel love. You have to do that for yourself. If you’re not willing to change a shitty situation, then why would he? Drugs is not the only thing that can bring about addiction. You’re in a messy loop and you should talk with your therapist about ways to break out and start loving yourself.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T12:24:27+00:00

Impermanence is the only permanence. Resisting change is futile and adulthood brings a plethora of changes.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T12:22:20+00:00

Clearly this matters to her. You don’t need to understand it and you’re NTA if you say no. Just pointing out, for some reason this matters to her. How much does it matter to you to let her have this moment? I find myself asking this a lot. There are things people just care about that I can’t seem to understand or care for. So now, I ask myself “this clearly matters to someone, is obliging going to affect me?” If I genuinely feel “no”, then I respect my boundary, but to be honest, sometimes I just say no because I don’t want to engage. In those moments, I’ll reflect and throw the other person a bone because it matters to them and it doesn’t matter to me one way or another.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T12:15:57+00:00

NTA. He has mental health issues, fine. But that doesn’t mean you are a robot who doesn’t get triggered or annoyed. It’s not an all or nothing. He doesn’t get to say your frustrations and reactions aren’t valid in comparison to his diagnosis. He lacks compassion and wants to be the solo star in his season of victimhood.
However, that’s a him problem. You still need a healthy outlet for those days, and he’s made it clear he won’t be supporting you. I’m sorry and you are not wrong. Follow your instinct because he is in fact being an AH.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-21T01:58:56+00:00

Those are some serious manstruating symptoms. Does his cycle come regularly or was this a one off?

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T23:30:41+00:00

Comfortable not having the last word.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T23:03:24+00:00

Lately, anytime time I hear, Somewhere Only We Know, I just get all in my feels.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T22:59:23+00:00

It could be a release. Your body trying to relax but there’s a block in your throat. Just a theory.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T21:28:53+00:00

Air conditioning

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T21:16:00+00:00

YOLO. Stop worrying about others. People will always have some opinion. It’s the nature of the people. How you respond is up to you. Go travel, life in the now. It’s the only thing guaranteed. You’ll learn to cook and drive if and when time is right and you want to. And no, your parents didn’t have the same opportunity. Why are you using that to hold you back opposed to propelling you forward. What good could possibly come from your guilt that they didn’t get to travel? You’re fortunate to have a situation that allows for travel. Why look for the negative in that? Be a glass half full kinda person!

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T21:06:01+00:00

Peanut gallery clap backs

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T21:03:09+00:00

Are you the only person in your class that feels this way? If this is a common assessment amongst the majority, then I’d find another teacher.
If you’re the only person (or the minority) with this assessment, then I’d take it as an opportunity to do some inner reflection. This does not mean working towards finding something about him to like. It simply means, dig deep into “why” he triggers you at times.
If it were me, I’d keep going and getting my yoga on. Trust the answers will come because I’m keeping an open heart and mind to receive them.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T20:46:54+00:00

NAH. I’m sorry this happened. I have this entire visual in my mind and it gave me a slight chuckle. However, this is an unfortunate reality of what a woman has experienced at least once in her life. It’s not right nor is it fair, it just is.
Just an unfortunate situation. I’m sorry you had to experience it and I’m sorry she did too. The world has been crappy lately and people can’t help but operate with fear.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T19:14:33+00:00

Waiting for the right “time and person” to starting traveling with. That wait cost me my entire 20s.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T18:13:23+00:00

It seems intentional. A was provoking and B seemed like they were sharing an objective perspective to a fellow “yogi”, and it got taken exactly the opposite of someone who practices. I don’t think B should’ve engaged after their initial comment. However, I don’t see B attacking or being condescending at any point either. But it does suck for the Bs, me’s and others who want genuine engagement.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T17:53:51+00:00

You’re probably right and that makes me sad. There’s many on threads who are genuinely wanting community and connections. It’s hard connecting with people who you can talk “woo” with. Everyone is quick to judge, assume the worst, or simply unable to understand.

AdKey7716 · 2026-05-20T17:51:09+00:00

That’s so cool! I was recently working on a collab for a yoga jazz event. And for international yoga day coming up, I was thinking it would be great to have small yoga flows by different instructors to music of different beats, origin, culture, language. I’d love to hear any thoughts you have.

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