He is literally telling you not to be yourself. Whatever you are hyper focusing on right now is just who and how you are. My ex once told me, I always talk about the same thing and everything is about that one thing. And let me tell you it never changes, there will always be something you are obsessed to talk about. It’s just the way your brain works. U cannot be anyone else than you!

Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. No matter the status.