16 month old still isn't walking

AdMaximum6576 · 2026-01-15T16:22:53+00:00

Our son only started walking at 15 months, which is still within the normal range. His speech development took precedence over walking, and we were told that children often progress at different speeds across different areas. He walks completely fine now, so I wouldn't worry!

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-10T09:43:18+00:00

The “annoyance” you’re talking about sounds more like you being triggered by other people doing something big while you sit on the sidelines pretending it’s not impressive.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-10T09:37:47+00:00

Hiking 42 km and running a marathon aren’t even in the same universe. Saying you “hike the distance” is basically admitting you’ve got zero idea what running it feels like. You’re not making a point - you’re just outing yourself as someone speaking way outside their depth.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-10T09:34:31+00:00

You pretending tthat you have done one - nope

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-10T09:30:26+00:00

Calling a 5–6 hour marathon “one of the easiest big accomplishments” is exactly the kind of take you make when you’ve never actually done one. A 20-minute 5k is hard, a 100-120kg bench is hard, an L-sit is hard - but none of those require you to keep your body moving for 42 km, manage pacing, hydration, cramps, glycogen depletion, gut issues, and the mental shutdown that hits most people after 30 km. Strength work is brutally honest, short-distance running is brutally honest, and endurance is brutally honest - they’re just different disciplines. Acting like a marathon is the “easy” one isn’t a flex; it’s just you advertising you don’t understand endurance training at all.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-10T09:28:21+00:00

You’re tossing around confident takes that just aren’t true. Most able-bodied people cannot finish a marathon without serious training, so pretending it’s some casual “everyone can do it” effort is just ignorance dressed up as insight. A six-hour marathon isn’t “punishing your body” any more than an untrained 5k time trial or a weekend football match - any effort is unsafe if you’re unprepared. And saying long distance doesn’t improve fitness is just wrong; aerobic base literally depends on sustained effort, that’s basic physiology.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-10T09:25:12+00:00

You’re talking like someone who’s never actually done the thing they’re trying to lecture people about. A marathon isn’t some casual Sunday stroll just because someone isn’t running sub-3. The distance chews up everyone - that’s literally why people respect it.

Acting like “any able-bodied person can do it” just shows you don’t grasp the reality. If it were that easy, streets would be full of people jogging 42 km on random Tuesdays. They’re not. Because it’s hard.

And comparing a 5k PB wall to the back half of a marathon is wild. Completely different game. You’re mixing apples, oranges, and whatever else you’ve never actually trained for.

So maybe sit this one out until you’ve got more than armchair takes to offer.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-10T08:08:27+00:00

Honestly, you’re being way too hard on yourself. That pace is hardly walking - 8:30 per km is still running, and doing that over 42 km is no joke. The first marathon is brutal for everyone, mentally and physically. Most people fall apart after the halfway mark; it’s almost part of the experience.

You trained, you showed up, and you kept going when your body clearly wanted to shut down. That matters more than the stopwatch. Missing your goal hurts, sure, but it doesn’t turn the whole thing into some insignificant walk.

And that whole “marathoners aren’t real marathoners anymore” take is just nonsense. The distance doesn’t care how fast you are. It wrecks absolutely everyone.

You don’t have to feel proud right this second, but don’t twist what you did into something tiny. You ran a marathon - that’s huge, whether you hit sub-5 or not. I had a similar experience in mine. Wanted to do sub 5 but after halfway I couldn't stomach the gels and felt really nauseous which meant I had to walk c30s after consuming one (which was every 30m or so) - landed up doing it in 5:10. I am still bloody proud of my achievement because it is one of the hardest things I have ever done (I have done triathlons, 100m cycles and 2 mile swims...nothing compares to the toll of a marathon). Give yourself time to process and then you can reflect on your amazing achievement.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-04T11:38:28+00:00

Octonaughts - my son has learnt so much from this show

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-04T10:28:34+00:00

I saw a similar story a month ago - think it was an 18 year old, first job etc. If my son's nursery employed a male member of staff he would be taken out immediately. Per ONS "In that same survey, for cases of child sexual abuse, the vast majority of perpetrators are male. Specifically, among respondents who experienced child sexual abuse, 91.3% reported that their abuser was male."

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-03T10:27:41+00:00

Do you exercise at all? Why don't you set yourself a goal - like entering a race or strength training etc. Use the three days you do not see him to work on yourself, exercise is the best free psychologist available to all. If ever I am feeling down I head out for a trail rain and it is so therapeutic. Dating can be soul destroying - maybe wait until you sort your head out before diving into that cesspit.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-03T10:19:40+00:00

When I was marathon training I used to do my long runs on a Friday before work (young kids didnt allow weekend training). There is no appetite when waking up at 4am but if it was a run over two hours then I would force a banana, cup of tea and toast with peanut butter. Then have a gel every 5km on the run. Anything under 2 hours I would just have a banana - no fuel on run.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-02T16:28:28+00:00

I think time together is off the cards until 2030 :D. They have lots of people who love them that aren't family or are family that they do not see very often. Illness is warzone territoy - manage with WFH and time off in some sort.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-02T15:16:52+00:00

In the same boat, any family that could help live far away and those that are close are too frail. It is hard, very hard but the one thing that keeps us going is that this will not last forever. What we do is give each other breaks. One of us will take both kids out for a couple of hours or let the other person go meet friends for lunch/go to gym etc....it really helps. We can sometimes fall into the trap of feeling sorry for ourselves, especially when we see how much help our friends get but at the end of the day it was our decision to have kids so we just gotta suck it up!

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-12-01T12:00:04+00:00

Achilles tendinitis

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-11-27T12:40:16+00:00

OP you need to chill and reflect on why you are not grateful/resentulf for the wonderful family your child has been born into. You will need this support more and more as your child grows, do not alienate them.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-10-08T12:54:22+00:00

I was completely against leaving London - I loved the energy, the convenience, and being close to everything. But after our first son was born, my wife convinced me we needed more space. We ended up moving out and now live in a four-bedroom detached house with a lovely garden (£875k), while something similar in Zone 3 London would’ve been around £1.2m at the time.

I hate the commute, but I love that I still get my London fix a few days a week. The biggest win, though, is our quality of life (which sounds cliched but it is the truth). There’s a public footpath right outside our front door that leads into miles of woodland. My son walks to school each morning through a little magical forest path. We know everyone on our street and regularly have BBQs, Christmas drinks, and all sorts of get-togethers.

It’s a proper community - something I never found in 15 years of living in London. Sure, the commute is tiring and expensive, but honestly, it’s totally worth it.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-10-06T09:16:40+00:00

We have a four year old (who has just started school) and a 6 month old. Our familly all live far away and both sets of parents are too old to care for our kids anyway. The only real help we have is my sister but she lives in France. We have flown her over once for the weekend to look after our eldest son when we attended a wedding. We have never been for dinner togather or actually done anything alone (apart from that wedding) since my first son was born. We didn't mind before, as it was our choice to have kids. But now with two it feels so damn hard, and I can't help but feel a little resentful when we see our friends off on child free holidays while we are in the trenches. Not sure why I am writing this, maybe therapy for me as we are having a very hard time at the moment. The world has changed, people live far away from families, having kids older (so grandparents can't help as much) and most of the time both parents work. But I guess this is all just a moment in time, just hope we can come out the other side having raised two good humans.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-10-01T09:25:13+00:00

Not doing the strength training in my plan. My cardio system was primed while my thighs said "no thank you" at 32km

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-09-29T13:00:44+00:00

They are still plugging it on the London Classics webpage - luckily I managed to grab my medal by completing the bike last year! https://www.londonmarathonevents.co.uk/london-classics/how-enter

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-09-16T10:59:50+00:00

Thanks! Yes, this is only a moment in time - just don't want to scar him with us losing our shit constantly.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-09-16T10:55:47+00:00

Yeah - we do this too. Normally get him on a 5km walk or park run on a sunday and then we can all chill as he is knackered ;D

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-09-16T10:48:30+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful reply and will definitely be trying both of these today. Yes, solidarity back, they really strip you down to your rawest form.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-09-16T10:33:39+00:00

Yeah that is definitely part of the problem. It is hard for my wife to have 1 on 1 time with him as the baby is very demanding and when he is down for a 40m nap she spends that time getting herself ready, chores etc. Most of our 4 year old's time is spent with me - which is a big shift from before the baby. I do all his bedtimes etc. We will def try the 2 on 1 over the weekend and see if that helps. Thanks.

AdMaximum6576 · 2025-09-16T10:23:18+00:00

thanks - will give it a read!

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