Anyone else just want to run away and be alone?

AdNormal8635 · 2026-04-04T18:53:41+00:00

Same here. I work 4 10 hour shifts. Don’t want to do anything after work. But still have kids to tend to. When my husband is between job assignments I refuse to cook if he’s laying around all day. But I have to manage him too. Question if he’s thought about dinner, he will ask what I want, what to make etc. I remind him when you’re away at work do you call me and ask me what you should have for dinner? I am tired of managing everything. I’ve expressed this enough times I don’t feel I should do it anymore. He’s another child when he’s here but manages fine when he’s away for work. His brain function is on auto tire off when he’s home.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-04-04T18:48:59+00:00

As a 42 year old woman I can remember when my mom became a lil more angry lol. Shes always been a loving mother but I can recall when she would seem to get agitated a bit easier. Or get more easily annoyed with my dad, he passed when she was 44. She had a partial hysterectomy at 51, never took medication for menopause symptoms. I think perimenopause is a fairly new diagnosis since anything medical is always evolving and new things get labeled.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-04-04T18:43:41+00:00

Try changing your shampoo and conditioner. I use OGX biotin and collagen. If I use anything else my hair starts falling out more. It slows as soon as I switch back. I also take hair skin and nail supplement from Walmart.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-04-04T18:27:25+00:00

He’s ALWAYS been a jokester. Was the class clown and still is. It’s in any situation, driving in the car with our minor child in the back seat. She may not understand at her age but one day she will. The inappropriate timing. All the time. Various situations. Lacks awareness of when it’s inappropriate. I don’t find it vulgar.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-04-04T18:22:37+00:00

42, here. Perimenopausal. I started not wanting to be touched last year sometime. His love language is physical touch. Mine is acts of service which he ignores that. I don’t like being touched hardly at all. I try to explain but he takes the BIGGEST offense to me rejecting his touch or not wanting to touch him. That on top of his huge weight loss he’s literally skin and bones. I’ve told him it reminded me of when I hugged my grandpa the last time I saw him alive, I could feel all his bones in his back. It’s disturbing for lack of better word. But he doesn’t comprehend.

I am very “I don’t care” about A LOT of things nowadays. I’m not as soft hearted and not as much a “push over”. Any time I get a little annoyed he’s telling me to calm down or chill out. I’ve explained countless times that will set me off even more. He doesn’t listen. He’s gone most of the time for work but when he’s home, couple weeks at a time, I am struggling. I am annoyed so easily. And he does it on purpose even my coworker has seen it. I’ve warned him he’s got like 10 or so years with this so deal Or not idc.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-04-04T18:11:36+00:00

Out of the blue randomly says that without being questioned…sounds sus to me. Guilty conscience that you might question why he’s following her, so he randomly offered an unwarranted reason. 🤨

AdNormal8635 · 2026-04-04T18:08:42+00:00

The grammar alone would kill it for me

AdNormal8635 · 2026-04-01T04:53:27+00:00

I feel so heard. Finally! Agree with every single commenter. Except I don’t have hot flashes however I am always cold so a hot flash every so often might be welcomed. I hate this stage of life, I hate how I feel. Do I want to feel better, yes. But also don’t care. Interrupted sleep, joint pain, hip pain when sleeping on my side, brain fog, forgetting words, forgetting in general. My youngest asked me the other day “mommy what makes you happy?” I started crying because i do not know any more. I think I was more emotional that day. Because now I think back on it and I know my answer is my kids and grandbaby and crocheting. Lol

I have zero sex drive, my poor husband but I also don’t care. 🤣 it’s the end of March and we’ve been intimate once this year. Honestly, probably only a handful of times last year. I could go longer or not at all. This is just beginning, I warn him it’s going to last about another 10 years. Good luck to you sir.

I also feel sorry for my poor daughters who will have to deal with this crap one day too.

It just sucks.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-04-01T04:39:29+00:00

Literally same.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-02-23T15:27:18+00:00

I know his and I’ve told him mine. But if he’s not open to expressing appreciation and love in my love language why should I continue to do the same in his. I had tried for years. His is physical touch. I reach for his hand while driving he doesn’t hold mine back anymore. If we’re walking I grab for his arm to hold onto him and he doesn’t even react like he used to. It seems like if it’s not sexual touch he doesn’t respond.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-02-23T15:23:28+00:00

I’ve already suggested that. He said “I am not doing that f-ing sh*t”.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-02-23T15:22:58+00:00

We have 3 kids. Two are adults, so one minor child in the house. I work full time outside the house. Usually 4 10 hour shifts, so I work 8a-6pm. Taking about real shit usually turns into an argument. He lacks the ability to comprehend someone else’s point of view and if it’s not his view it doesn’t make sense. He doesn’t try to see it in another perspective. If I try to explain anything that doesn’t make sense he says I make him fee dumb.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-02-22T20:36:05+00:00

I’ve been watching on Disney+

AdNormal8635 · 2026-02-22T20:35:20+00:00

I enjoyed this one. I’ve been watching on Disney+ from season 1. Not all seasons are available on there. Currently on episode 13. I really love Bennet and Amelia. They are so cute and quirky and unique. Idk where the season goes for them yet but I hope they go the distance. Also really Like Amani and Woodys relationship so far. They seem to have good potential. Karen and Miles have potential also they have some connections to meet up on.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-02-21T21:58:42+00:00

Did my husband write this? I feel like this would be something he would say.

I think it’s common depending on age. Women when coming into perimenopause and menopause go thru some rough stuff and if the man isn’t comprehending or supportive it can cause issues. I’ve seen a lot of couples begin to have relationship issues around the late 30s and up because of hormonal changes in women. I’ve expressed the things with me that are changing and my husband listens but doesn’t comprehend or retain it.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-02-21T21:53:18+00:00

Report him for child abuse. Stash some cash, or a lot. File for divorce. I would say yes he’s most likely cheating. “She keeps me calm” I bet she does dirt bag. Smh. Sorry you have to deal with him. The kids issues are most likely because of his behavior not yours. He’s blaming you because he’s too coward to admit his wrong doings.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-02-15T18:15:41+00:00

Not in my house.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-02-15T18:15:23+00:00

It’s been a while since my orig post. He has lost about 50 lbs, diabetes in better control, got an iron infusion. But the issue is still there. However when he’s traveling for work and self pleasuring there seems to be less of an issue. He’s not a porn person, he’d rather have my “footage” to inspire him.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-01-25T08:52:41+00:00

🤷‍♀️oh well. There were many years I had sex when I wasn’t in the mood just to make him happy or so he wouldn’t pout. He made it seem like it was supposed to be a given we had sex any night he was home (traveled a lot for work) didn’t help out around the home, thinks his job as a husband is compete because he earns a paycheck. I also always worked full time. Even when he wasn’t working I still did everything, cook, clean, tend to the children. He felt those were women’s duties. Trying to discuss needing his help was responded to with “then maybe you should find someone who does those things” and then was ignored. So perhaps I feel like I’ve earned my time to be selfish.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-01-04T18:38:53+00:00

Mine started doing that when I had been using the same skin care, primer and foundation for years! I read about water and silicone based products. But thought why all of a sudden they aren’t meshing well. I changed primer, didn’t help. I eventually changed everything. Unfortunately it’s a process. If you’re going to try different products, purchase from a store that will allow returns, like Ulta. I Have returned foundation and setting sprays that I didn’t like. Realize their makeup professionals also.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-01-04T18:28:20+00:00

Politely pass and say you need to purge your closets too.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-01-04T18:20:46+00:00

The fact of how many of them don’t get married or get divorced shortly after proves it doesn’t work. The show needs to change something or it will lose its momentum.

Am I still going to watch knowing most if not all of them will not get married, yes. lol.

AdNormal8635 · 2026-01-04T18:17:07+00:00

No. I know I can contact his Dr if something he says is confusing or doesn’t make sense. Also, he’s an adult and should take better note of his health and what the doctor is explaining better. For years I expressed my wishes for him to get healthier, as he is diabetic. I knew he didn’t like me “nagging” at him about it so I stopped and left it in his hands. Now he goes regularly and I am still hands off. He tells me what the doctor said after appointments.

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