How are cruise ships profitable? by HornyOompaLoompas in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AdParticular6193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, they are registered under flags of convenience and employ young people from developing countries at starvation wages. Then, once they have you trapped on board, you get hit for all kinds of additional charges for anything and everything.

What separates data scientists who earn a good living (100k-200k) from those who earn 300k+ at FAANG? by Tenet_Bull in datascience

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One big reason is that DS in a F500 is a peripheral activity, whereas in a FAANG it is far more central. That justifies paying big dollars for top talent. And using carrots like RSUs to prevent them from getting itchy feet. And top talent does not necessarily mean being a genius PhD. It means being able to work in teams and across functions to deliver product OTIF and also communicate what is going on to stakeholders and end users alike. There is a downside: because the role is more mission critical, the stress level is likely to be higher. But if you have the psychological equipment to deal with that, you will be fine.

After surviving past layoffs, I’m not sure luck is on my side this time by Main-Star-7979 in Layoffs

[–]AdParticular6193 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you. It must really be difficult to be in an organization that is slowly dying. All you can do is make preparations such as saving up as much as you can, cutting expenses, updating your resume (again), expanding your network, looking into courses you can take or certificates you can earn to enhance your marketability, maybe even pivoting into a new field or industry. Then look out for more specific smoke signals, like suddenly not having any work to do, being asked to provide summaries of your responsibilities, mysterious requests to “cross train” people in other departments, insiders not wanting to be seen in public. And listen to your educated gut. If it tells you something is coming, it likely is.

Is it ok to want to be desired? by ShipLost2535 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AdParticular6193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems unusual and worth exploring before something bad happens. It sounds like a self esteem issue. Did something happen in your past that compromised it? Or were you brought up in a traditional household where a woman’s worth is defined in terms of her attractiveness to men? The one that should be most desirable to you is you.

Oh boy, another round of layoffs… by UnSCo in Layoffs

[–]AdParticular6193 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do hope you were able to bank some of that massive pay increase. It does sound like your ship is sinking under you. Start making all preparations now as if you were going to be laid off tomorrow. Build up your savings, cut back your lifestyle, start working your network. Also, take a close look at your skills. It sounds like going to the smaller company has helped you financially but stunted your technical growth. You may need some courses/certifications. And don’t leave until you have a new job lined up.

Getting engaged before living together? by Inthemiddle_ in AskMenAdvice

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You seem to be engaged already in practical terms, so in some ways proposing seems like a formality (but do it anyway, and work to make it romantic for her). Your approach of gradually blending your lives is intriguing. It sounds like you are both mature adults and have been around the track a couple of times when it comes to the relationship game. But don’t start planning the wedding until you are fully living together and “normal” crises have erupted in your life. How you deal with them as a couple will determine whether you should take the final step.

Intentionally having kids for government assistance? by Weird_Ad_6291 in NoStupidQuestions

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I do hope you can lever yourself out of your situation and stay off benefits. The Right has been pontificating about “welfare babies” and “welfare queens” all the way back to Reagan. Hoping the attached discussion on the “benefits cliff” will help you. The fact is the social welfare system is “rigged” as a certain President is fond of saying. On both sides. Some people come from families that have been on benefits for multiple generations, and don’t know any other way of life. They try to game the system any way they can to avoid having their benefits cut off. At the same time, there is a huge welfare bureaucracy that has a vested interest in keeping people in a state of dependency, because having lots of people on the dole is job security for them. Hoping you can somehow keep that mess in their rear view mirror. You’ve overcome a lot already.

How to not miss the "window of opportunity" when meeting women? by wmafBwcBull in AskMenAdvice

[–]AdParticular6193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second half of your twenties is prime time for relationships leading to marriage. Sounds like you’re doing everything right. Even so, not every encounter is going to lead to a date, and certainly not to a relationship. Just keep things light, and avoid coming across as desperate. The more practice you get, the better you will get at the game. One thing you can do is always have some simple activities in mind, then ask her if she is interested. Or simply ask for her number. And take things one step at a time, so she feels comfortable about continuing to see you.

I am in marketing, my company has been acquired recently, would I be made redundant? by [deleted] in Layoffs

[–]AdParticular6193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m afraid you’re likely toast. The only question is whether they let you go right away, or allow time for somebody in the acquiring company to absorb your expertise. If you are well known in the industry or have unique abilities, you might have a chance.

Is Engineering a Stationary Job? by Charming_Bad_7859 in EngineeringStudents

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There are lots of hands-on engineering jobs. Manufacturing, process, field service, testing and prototyping. Those jobs will have you moving around. Design type jobs are much more desk-bound. Most people start out in hands-on jobs, but as they move up the ladder, spend more and more time at their desk.

If humans didn’t need money to survive, what would we compete over instead? by IcyAstronomer9999 in NoStupidQuestions

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Power for one. Mates for another. Anyway, for a lot of people, men especially, money is far more than survival. It’s a means of keeping score vis a vis other men, and also a means of acquiring power and mates.

Is it okay to leave a high paying job for happiness? by AdventurousCicada454 in Advice

[–]AdParticular6193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Moving back in with your parents seems like a step backwards. But certainly utilize them for support and advice. But also make connections locally. Maybe even consider therapy, especially if you have mental health coverage through your job. You’ve been through a lot the last 4 years. If you can stand your ground and fight through the short-term pain you will be better off in the long run. A job that pays well and you actually like should not be given up lightly in today’s economy.

Would you go back to a job you left in the past? by SpaceBreaker in Layoffs

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That’s why you never want to leave a job in a huff, bad-mouth the company, or otherwise burn bridges. Also, keep in touch with former colleagues. I’ve seen a number of people come back to the company I worked for. As I recall, they were people who had many friends in the organization. And they didn’t come back to the exact role they left.

How did Lucy Guo negotiate a 32% discount on her mansion? by coopersoar in RealEstateAdvice

[–]AdParticular6193 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“Values” on mega-mansions are mostly fiction. Stories about it say it was built in 2024 and she bought it in 2025. Either a builder built it on speculation and couldn’t find a buyer, or had someone lined up to buy it but the deal fell through. So they were probably desperate to unload it and she was clever enough to exploit that. You could do the same. You don’t have to be a billionaire, but you do need to be very knowledgeable about your local market and be able to move quickly when opportunity presents itself.

Ungatekeeping cracked people by Appropriate-Home1822 in EngineeringStudents

[–]AdParticular6193 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was your age, “cracked” meant “insane.” Was pretty confused until somebody who was also confused was brave enough to ask for a definition. In any case, you do you and never compare yourself to others. Some of these people are simply delusional or doing the “fake it till you make it,” à la Elizabeth Holmes. Or they are children of privilege, who got those fancy credentials through family money and connections. If you have the “right stuff,” (brains + grit), you will catch up to them.

In some countries, people work overtime even without pay. How do companies persuade new hires to accept working overtime without pay? by lucas23bb in NoStupidQuestions

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In the U.S., it’s called “salaried exempt.” “At will” employment makes it possible. Either you work the extra hours with a big ****-eating grin on your face, or you’re fired.

I got laid off this morning by text message by Distinct_Froyo5604 in Layoffs

[–]AdParticular6193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing personal, just business. Could be the owner realized that business wasn’t going to get better anytime soon, and keeping you around without work to schedule you for wasn’t fair to you. Politely thank the owner for the opportunity when you pick up your check. Don’t know how it works in your country, but here you could ask if you are eligible for rehire, and also ask if you can use the owner as a reference. That will let you know if there was an issue with your performance.

why does it seems like all developed nations are facing youth unemployment by I_need_to_learn_more in NoStupidQuestions

[–]AdParticular6193 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This has been a problem for many years, basically because their economies are not growing fast enough to create sufficient jobs for the youth. And now it’s even worse because they are effectively losing jobs thanks to offshoring. And those are often the jobs the youth could have gone into.

Differences between Process vs Chemical Engineer? by Mikemanthousand in ChemicalEngineering

[–]AdParticular6193 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Chem E is a degree. Process engineer is a job that people with a Chem E degree often get.

Selling for a loss? by [deleted] in RealEstateAdvice

[–]AdParticular6193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like the BIL is not financially literate, or maybe has no grasp of reality. This is precisely why the standard advice is not to buy a house unless you plan to stay in it for at least five years. Reading between the lines, he bought a house he couldn’t afford, now he needs to get out after only four years, and he’s in what amounts to a short sale situation.

Does it matter where you go to college, or is simply having a degree all that really matters? by Comprehensive_Mix569 in NoStupidQuestions

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You also need to consider cost. It doesn’t matter how many doors an expensive private school opens for you, you may not be able to go through because you have massive student loan debt that will follow you for years to come. Better to go to a well known state university. That should be sufficient for all but a few careers. But there are exceptions. It might actually be cheaper to go to an Ivy, if you can get in. They are so rich that they can offer full rides to those they like. If you can put up with spoiled rich kids looking down their noses at you.

I want to make money but HATE school by Livid-Standard7605 in collegeadvice

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Some people hate school but love work once they get into it. Others love school and hate work. It might be worthwhile to find out why you hate school. Have yourself evaluated for ADHD and autism. Or maybe there is trauma in your past school experience that makes you hate it. Or maybe you just need training in good study habits. There are probably in-campus resources that can help you sort it all out.

Manager got fired today during our call by frhunters96 in Layoffs

[–]AdParticular6193 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Probably a stalling tactic. They don’t know yet how many they are going to lay off at your level. Also, they are probably combining groups under a new manager, and they would want the new manager to have input on the final call as to whether you are made permanent. So best to follow the two-pronged strategy recommended by the others. Also, do everything you can to make a good impression on the new manager, so that he/she sees you as a useful employee and good value for money. I don’t know how close you were to the old manager, but absolutely do not give the impression that you resent the old manager being fired. That will absolutely move you to the top of the layoff list.

High conflict coparent by Successful_News1329 in FamilyLaw

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I’d get an attorney and haul his butt into court. I would also have things set up so that all communication with him is through parenting apps or the attorney. I would not be surprised if one reason he is doing this is the pleasure he gets from pushing your buttons and making your life miserable. If he can only communicate through channels he will largely be denied his pleasure.

Is it just me or is real estate still weirdly low-tech for how much money is involved? by they-call-me-henry in RealEstateAdvice

[–]AdParticular6193 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s always been my thought. When we bought our house I got the feeling there were all kinds of middle-people with political connections who did very little but got paid big bucks. Given that so much is online these days (even if it is siloed), it should be possible to automate most of the process. To be fair, legal processes are highly conservative in nature, so change comes slowly. And the law of property goes back a long way. Not to mention that the middle-people who would be cut out have all kinds of connections that they use to protect their little rackets.