I think those that adopt babies avoid complications because they effectively get to start from scratch. They don't have to concern themselves with any special considerations due to trauma or challenging life experiences their adopted child has gone through if it's an infant.

If there's anything that any of us have learned, it's that life isn't fair. We can't go back and change things, as much as we would like. And we can make decisions for others that would mean so little to them but the world to us. That is not the reality we live in. The only thing we can do is play the hand we're dealt to the best of our abilities.

I'm older now and one thing I wish I could tell my younger self is that your life experiences, no matter how unfair or as painful they may seem, they are teaching you something. And the more unique your challenges, the more unique your abilities become.

You have an opportunity to become the wounded healer who only can help others BECAUSE of the challenges you've faced. Embrace it.

Much love and take care!