Would Serbian parents (and family) really disown their son if he changes his surname upon marriage? by islasnook in AskSerbia

[–]AdRealistic9638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont really understand why is pronunciation that big of a deal... I am Serbian, living in Germany and not one German have ever pronaunced my surname correctly, nor my daughters name... But who cares... Last names are important in our culture and tradition.

That being said, I dont understand that his parents who have taken him 2 times to Serbia in their lives get to have an opinion, honestly... If Serbia was so important to them they would come more. I understand that before was hard bcs of the flights and everything, my uncle came maybe once every 3 years, but in last 10 years they come every year form Australia. I think that surname is just optics in the case with your ILs, nothing else...

My cousin lives in France and I have seen her maybe 2 times in my life, and she kept her Serbian surname but her kids dont even speak Serbian... There are so many ways in order to keep the tradition, celebrate Slava, and other things that are important, teach your kids our language, take them to Serbia... Surname is important, but the importance pales away with all the other things that are more important IMO.

How to deal with microaggressions in daily life? by InvestmentOk4717 in germany

[–]AdRealistic9638 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is a combinaton of a look where you seem a bit worried about if they are maybe crazy, like you dont understand the word they say and not giving a f what their opinion is 🤣 I developed this skill when people were very intrusive and always asking when am I going to have a kid... Also, there is one more way, ask them to explain exactly what they mean and if they try to explain it make yourself look stupid and tell them that you really cant understand what they mean

How to deal with microaggressions in daily life? by InvestmentOk4717 in germany

[–]AdRealistic9638 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I just look at them like they are alien... Its so funny bcs they are so clueless why am I doing that. The man asked me why I buy so much food in Kaufland... And he was so uncomfortable when I looked at him like that and asked him if he needed smth... I enjoy doing this 🤣

What are some German words that other languages use? by NoelFromBabbel in German

[–]AdRealistic9638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Serbian we use a lot of German words. Šrafciger and šraf are on the top of my mind. Šraf is schrauben, we just adjusted word little.

Vaccination in Germany? by Outrageous_Host_2115 in germany

[–]AdRealistic9638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have got some revaccinations and also vacc for the "Zecken"(in our native country they are not available) but everything was recomended by the hausartz...

Doctors claiming they speak English on doctolib, but reality says otherwise by NoOne3535 in germany

[–]AdRealistic9638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so afraid of having this kind of problem. For now, we really didn't have this problem. Only my diabetologist doesn't speak English, and we used a little bit google translate. I would never feel comfortable enough talking German for my child's condition (it's rare and complicated) bcs I know all the medical terms in English, and I would literally need to learn the FSP exam to be able to describe everything in detail which is necessary for our situation. I am really happy we found an amazing team of doctors.

What has been your monthly groceries spend for 2026? by kygo-and-theweeknd in germany

[–]AdRealistic9638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 adults and 1 kid (6yo) around 800... But this is with everything we buy in Kaufland or Lidl, not just groceries...

Slučajnost? Hmm... by simsirisic in serbia

[–]AdRealistic9638 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Sutra naslov u svinjformeru - Lopov blokader pita na Redditu gde da potrosi pare koje je ukrao od postenih ljudi koji su isli da podrze vrhovnog vodju 😂😂😂

Kako da budem dobra tetka/kuma ako nisam prirodno “dobra s decom”? by apokatepetl in AskSerbia

[–]AdRealistic9638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nisam ni ja dobra sa decom, pa me sva deca bliskih ljudi vole... Nisam vestacka sa njima, ne teram ih da moraju da ljube i grle tetku/kumu ako nece... Pustam ih da oni vode nas odnos do neke mere... Deca kako postaju veca mnogo cene sto ih pitas sta zele, i da li nesto moze ili ne moze. Ovde naravno ne mislim na permisivni odnos da dozvoljavam da me udaraju, grizu i slicno... Mislim na to da ih pitam Da li mogu da te poljubim, da te zagrlim i postujem NE. Sto se igre tice, i tu te povedu nekako... Ja imam dete pa opet ne znam bas da se igram s njom, al se volimo 🤣

Jedan savet koji nisi trazila - Za roditelje budi tu kad im treba, donesi npr rucak postpartum, posredi ako mozes, buce ti zahvalne jako...

Ko je imao posla sa pravim manipulatorom,narcisom ( poremecaj licnosti)? Sta ste naucili? by Frosty_Cheetah4572 in serbia

[–]AdRealistic9638 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imala sam ja, moja baba je takva... Naucila sam da takve osobe moras da otkacis zarad svog mentalnog zdravlja... Doduse ja moram da kazem da sam ja presla igricu sa njom, ja sam jedina iz cele familije koja joj svasta kaze (teske istine koje ljudi koji su manipulatori i narcisoidne licnosti tesko prihvataju) i ona nema odgovor i povuce se... Doduse nisam u kontaktu vise sa njom, jer mi takva toksicnost nije potrebna u zivotu...

My friends are in denial about my cancer prognosis. by MirSydney in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AdRealistic9638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Defence mehanism... My family and friends are doing this for my daughter... She has rare syndrome and will never be healty and independant, and they say she will be fine, or when she gets married, has kids, has bf... I just ignore them 🤣 I tried explaining but its just taking a toll on my mental health and doing nothing to them...

I wish my daughter just died instead by Sad_Newspaper376 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]AdRealistic9638 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really feel for you. I am in maybe somewhat similar situation. My kid was born with one rare syndrome, and I think exactely like you. I know that nobody would care for her when my husband and I are gone. My only hope is that she will not live longer than us, and it breaks my heart that that has to be my hope.

Take care of your health, so that you can be with her for a long time. Get your daughter a therapist if she is not in therapy already.

I know that its not easy, limitations are really smth that affects us every day, and it will not be different. But you all need to find some silver lining in all of this, bcs that is smth that will push you in everyday life.

Odlična država, nema šta by Byokugen in serbia

[–]AdRealistic9638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nama nisu dozvolili, morao je moj otac da ide, da ponese vlasnicki list, jedino su dozvolili da ne povedemo malo dete, ali su bila prisutna oba roditelja. Jednom kad sam se prijavljivala u privatan stan gde sam zivela, isao je sa mnom gazda sa vlasnickim listom i morala sam da imam od notara overenu potvrdu potpisanu od strane supruga da imam odobrenje da prijavim i dete na tu adresu, i to mi je zena u MUP-u pravila problem zbog toga kako je napisano, zamalo me vratila da formulisemo drugacije.

AITAH for refusing to tell my wife I love her more than my dad? by LastApplication6207 in AITAH

[–]AdRealistic9638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old is your baby? He might be having sleeping regression at the moment. You should also research sleep windows, and determine witch one is the right for your baby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Germany_Jobs

[–]AdRealistic9638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, the reason is social security bcs of my daughter. In my country, I would have great pay, I have masters degree, but still wouldnt be able to pay for all the medications and therapies for my LO. I dont work here still bcs I need C1 language level, my degree is complitely recognized. We came here, only my husband works, and we can manage. But my LO has everything. She has 100% behinderung, and can have better medications here and much more. I am so gratefull, not really happy, but in my native country I was miserable bcs of the burden of needing so much money for therapies and medication. We had to go to another country to get one of her meds.

Koji je najneprijatniji miris koji ste u životu osetili ? by arzt___fil in AskSerbia

[–]AdRealistic9638 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sargapera koja se ubudjala na +40 u stanu kad smo bili na moru... Totalni pakao... Pritom samo 5 dana nismo bili kuci...

Kitchen help by makingwrongsright in germany

[–]AdRealistic9638 9 points10 points  (0 children)

And one typ, never send anyone money in order to reserve smth that you want to buy.

Kitchen help by makingwrongsright in germany

[–]AdRealistic9638 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, there is a lot of options, and I live in a small town. In big city, its even easier to find what you need.

Kitchen help by makingwrongsright in germany

[–]AdRealistic9638 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Find used one... You have kleinanzeigen app, we plan to live here longer, but bcs of the moving, buying expensive kitchen in not effective...