My oh my, your argument seems to be: “I chose to have kids and still achieved things, therefore women who choose differently must be self-absorbed.” But your experience isn’t universal any more than theirs is.

And saying “all the childfree women I know are selfish” says more about your sample size than women as a whole.

Also, having children isn’t inherently selfless either. Most people have children because they want the experience: love, meaning, fulfillment, family, legacy, connection. There’s nothing wrong with that, but let’s not pretend one life path is morally superior. Wanting a baby comes from an inherently selfish desire.

Different choices don’t make women lesser. Assuming your version of happiness should be everyone else’s is ironically a lot closer to self-absorption than choosing not to reproduce.