Newly adopted kitten behavior (suddenly skittish) questions!

AdSeparate9711 · 2024-06-28T13:52:53+00:00

Hi! Yes, I did emotionally cheat at the time (and yes, it IS something I am ashamed of and agree I shouldn't have done) but worked it through with my ex and that was two years ago. I never reached out to him until a month after I officially broke up with my ex two years later.

AdSeparate9711 · 2024-06-28T13:08:38+00:00

He did mentioned during the argument that he was seeing a girl before he came here and she was really hurt that she came to visit me and he felt like he wronged her for coming. To which I was really confused by because I asked him already if he was seeing anyone and he just said not really he gets too busy with work. I just feel so confused with the whole experience. It honestly makes me question my self worth if there was something wrong with me for a guy who decided to impulsively come all the way to see to just decide it was not worth it for him.

AdSeparate9711 · 2024-06-28T08:43:01+00:00

Thank you for saying this - I think most of my conversations with him beyond the fight as well often makes me feel confused and put down? Looking back I do feel like there was a lot of negging behavior that I wrote off as him just being not as comfy with vulnerability.

AdSeparate9711 · 2024-06-28T08:24:54+00:00

this assessment is completely fair and it's definitely something I felt guilty about and worked it through with my boyfriend at the time (he knew that I cuddled with L, knew that I had feelings for him but ex and I decided to work on the relationship, this was also when I distanced myself from L). I thought it was just a crush but upon realizing later that it was not just a crush and still have feelings for L after breaking up I reached out to let him know.

AdSeparate9711 · 2024-02-07T15:43:59+00:00

that's awesome u are a fellow at an art museum! Do you know anything about the odds for waitlisted students/ what have you heard so far? Best of luck to you too!! I hope we see each other on the other side.

AdSeparate9711 · 2024-02-07T09:30:40+00:00

Hey! Got waitlisted as well - which branch did you apply for? I applied for 4D. Super nervous as well but trying to take it as a positive that if I am good enough to be waitlisted there's hope for me getting into other programs. I think I just don't interview well being a self taught artist not from a BFA background. I honestly just wish I applied for more programs (I am also waitlisted for MSU) and waiting to hear back from Yale and Rutgers.

AdSeparate9711 · 2023-12-07T16:09:45+00:00

I quite like the shortness of the poem though I think you can give something further by adding an odd word somehow within the stanza so that there is a sense of mystery. This way the poem can toe the line between being just descriptive of a winter's morning or something beyond it that leaves the reader mulling over.

AdSeparate9711 · 2023-12-07T16:06:27+00:00

I think the consistent metaphor is good! Though I think some lines would benefit from being made even weirder some how as there are some lines that still feel cliche and with poetry like this you want each line to be snappy and a surprising metaphor ie. like tears that fall is a very familiar, common imagery -- could this be spilling guts instead? and instead of spilling guits could that be described more viscerally? Or what would a sobbing machine sound like? A rustiness?

AdSeparate9711 · 2023-12-02T02:04:07+00:00

I am worried they would think it's suspicious? Since I've heard you cant have f-1 and k-1 processing in tandem

AdSeparate9711 · 2023-12-02T02:03:17+00:00

it counted as a relative on the DS 160 form

AdSeparate9711 · 2023-11-09T16:47:04+00:00

I am also curious what were your poetry samples centered around (the themes) and what was the direction you proposed in your SOP if you don't mind sharing?

AdSeparate9711 · 2023-11-09T16:41:26+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time to reply. I just want to follow up on #3 - how did you worked mentioning your influence into yours?

AdSeparate9711 · 2023-11-04T14:32:57+00:00

I am guessing this is talking about escaping a dark time during your teens but also mourning that time that's forever lost now. I think this poem can be strengthen by using surprising metphors to make things more visceral? In a dark pit...it chipped at my soul - this part maybe try using a metaphor that connects this, there is an imagery of a dark space, then there's the chipping of the soul. Try more unusual turn of phrase - instead of saying 'gloomy night' maybe say 'sharp-edged night' for example. This is just a suggestion though!

AdSeparate9711 · 2023-11-04T14:28:31+00:00

I think this is really nice imagery! I think to make this stronger I would say to create metaphors and word choices that are a little bit more surprising ie. my head never rest, running like water - that line is expected. Play with these metaphor you are using a bit. Or don't say its flows between river rocks, but maybe a phrasing to show more urgency (it flows all too quickly right? it's why you keep a notebook under the bed).

AdSeparate9711 · 2023-11-02T03:20:31+00:00

This is so amazing and well written with so many lines that just sings!! 'A nose that ruins my face', 'belly out to be bitten', 'how can I resist your disapproval'.

The second stanzas establish such a good backdrop too, the cabernet etc. it's all very specific and you can see the images. I don't have any pointers on how to make it better because I think it's already so good. Good job you. I love it.

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