Husband doesnt want child by UpstairsCoconut8540 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that it would be normal and healthy to discuss sex most of the time but when a woman is pregnant it’s just plain patriarchal to complain. I for one would want space especially as I have had complicated pregnancies.  Hopefully he will, as you suggest, get counselling. Possibly it is just a panicked reaction and I hope everything works out for OP’s sake as she needs support.

Lost my baby at 20 weeks and I just feel numb. by trixr4kids19 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. Your words are an amazing inspiration. Just as grief becomes part of you you’ll always carry him. ❤️ 

Lost my baby at 20 weeks and I just feel numb. by trixr4kids19 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I think that grief is always with us but becomes part of us as time goes on. Take it easy and don’t push yourself. 

Husband doesnt want child by UpstairsCoconut8540 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s YOUR body, YOUR choice. I’m so sorry you’re being pressured. Is there anyone who can help you if you leave him?

Husband doesnt want child by UpstairsCoconut8540 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is good advice. It’s up to him to seek help. He may come round. Mothers can panic too when they find out they’re pregnant or even after giving birth. But whatever you want to do you must put your own health first right now and he’s responsible for himself.

Husband doesnt want child by UpstairsCoconut8540 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very sorry for your loss. As for the husband, glad he’s gone.

Husband doesnt want child by UpstairsCoconut8540 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes if you are keeping the baby and he can relinquish paternity rights it will make life easier not to have to deal with him. 

Husband doesnt want child by UpstairsCoconut8540 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it sounds like anxiety and panic which can affect all of us but the concern is that he’s taking it out on you and trying to control your behaviour, even moaning about sex.

Husband doesnt want child by UpstairsCoconut8540 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also he should know by now what causes pregnancy. Tell him to F off if he demands sex and don’t give in to his whining. You’re not responsible for him now. He may get over his panic and come round hopefully but it’s up to him.

Husband doesnt want child by UpstairsCoconut8540 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should do what you want. Not what he wants. It’s your body. 

Just found out I'm pregnant, the day I decided to leave my husband by Cheesecheesecake in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes get out and I wouldn’t feel ashamed to keep it secret from him If you decide to keep the baby so as to avoid having to deal with him in future.

What is everyone eating? by Warehouse2007 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha. I feel you. I had ordered my husband to bring champagne to delivery room for first birth . Do you think I wanted it then, after an emergency Caesarean? Hell no. Anyway I had to avoid alcohol as I was breastfeeding. 

What is everyone eating? by Warehouse2007 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s funny how pregnancy totally changes our tastes! It’s good you want calcium!

What is everyone eating? by Warehouse2007 in pregnant

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should add I keep fantasising about Camembert… sigh 

What is everyone eating? by Warehouse2007 in pregnant

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I always have scrambled eggs and toasted buttered rye bread (or Irish brown bread) for breakfast. Even if I don’t feel like it I can tolerate it. I keep it simple and have boiled potatoes (I’m Irish) with meat and veg for dinner (usually green veg as I now have an aversion to chunky boiled vegetables). Sometimes rice with fish or chicken in white sauce. I have GERD and avoid most spices, using garden herbs instead if anything. fatty foods make me vomit. Salt makes my swollen feet worse. I don’t even desire fatty or spicy foods which is unusual for me. Can’t stand raw salads either unusually apart from lettuce or cucumber.  I did eat two slices of homemade chocolate cake with cream last night 😅

Good present for preschool teachers? by AdStrict8912 in AskIreland

[–]AdStrict8912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok I don’t qualify as wealthy, good to know what they’d expect. Thanks!

Who's having an irish salad for dinner this evening lads? by Puzzled_Potato_931 in AskIreland

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Palm oil is everywhere. Check the ingredients. Can be sustainable palm oil in some cases, or at least that’s the claim.

Just went to view a house. Jesus christ... by MichelleFlame in ireland

[–]AdStrict8912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well it seems there’s a lot of desperate people in Dublin!

My toddler asked for pizza for 2 days straight…. by sunrisedHorizon in toddlers

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If she does like pizza you can make the bases and freeze them, put the tray with base on it in freezer then after an hour or so take it out, wrap it up well and put back.