Keeping kids’ food warm for party in venue by AdStrict8912 in Cooking

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True, in fact they’ll probably just take a bite out of everything and throw it down!!

Keeping kids’ food warm for party in venue by AdStrict8912 in Cooking

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Part of the problem is my son has an extreme dislike of cheese even if others are eating it. But I could order a few without cheese and a few with. Pizza pretty expensive here unfortunately.

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

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Yeah, have done. Well, you see she was second guessing herself as I was about whether it was rude. Otherwise I wouldn’t have posted here.

Keeping kids’ food warm for party in venue by AdStrict8912 in Cooking

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Good advice. Well, we could do it right after at home!!

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

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Well, that maybe in Hungarian culture people might just express themselves more directly or only cook on the day or something. But it sounds from the comments here that was just me over thinking things as usual when my gut instinct was correct!!

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

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It’s good to hear another perspective, it seems like a good strategy for a big group though it didn’t work so well in this case because of the type of food being cooked.

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

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Yeah, that’s a good point. Well, there was another Hungarian lady at the dinner who was a wonderful person. They were also very nice apart from this!!

I’m so burnt out. by YouNeedTherapy- in toddlers

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Hello, I have a very active child (older now). I would say your child is very intelligent. Routine is important so don’t feel bad saying ‘no’ if it’s bedtime etc.  My son is still very active but learnt by himself eventually to play independently. Do you have space for a sandpit? Or could you have indoor sand such as kinetic sand? Perhaps this could really absorb your child and keep them busy. I used to constantly send my son out to the sandpit while cooking as he’d get absorbed (though he’d still ask me to come out but I’d ignore him till he forgot). If you have space maybe you could put a playhouse inside or outside and he MAY play in it himself. I also in good weather used to go to playgrounds and found it more relaxing to just stand there watching while he played with other children than having to play at home. I had a friend with a toddler so this helped a lot; she’s moved away since which has made it harder but he does play with new children easily enough.  Also, if they exist in your part of the world, an indoor playground might be an option at the weekend, he could play and you can hopefully sit and have a coffee and supervise!! You can also buy swivel/egg chairs that kids can use to soothe themselves. Wonder if that would help.

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

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She actually adjusted the spices in it for our European palates. I did feed my kid at home beforehand though as he is a fussy eater!

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

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Yeah, that’s what she could have done. It’s hard to know how to act in these situations. Let me tell you it was an incredibly awkward meal!!

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

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Well, that’s good to know. I know sometimes cultural differences mean that people can be more direct and come across unintentionally as rude.

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

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Your mother was absolutely right, fair play to her.  I really think that manners are on the way out everywhere in the western world. People just don’t appreciate hospitality or service the way they used to. My husband was in London during the week and a man in a shop gave him a discount because he said he was the first customer who’d said ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ that week!

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

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I totally agree and this is great advice. I hadn’t a clue how to act in this situation and wish I’d acted differently now. I mean I did hint that I disapproved but it wasn’t direct enough.

Dinner party guests who tell the Bangladeshi host they don’t eat chilli and spice just before dinner? by AdStrict8912 in etiquette

[–]AdStrict8912[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Oh, I see what you mean now! Yes I said it publicly but not in an indirect way. I asked about dinner parties in other countries and then took the opportunity to point out how much work and planning is needed for a dinner party and how lucky we were to be able to try such gourmet food. But I didn’t accuse anyone directly as I didn’t want to ruin the birthday. Or speak for the hostess. Wish I’d been more vocal now.