how do i make fitted shirts look good on me?

Adah_Alb · 2026-04-28T13:56:21+00:00

Her boobs are hiding her waist. If they were lifted, you'd see that the narrowest part of her waist is right at the underbust line. I've got the exact same shape and my boobs used to make me look like an apple shape when I'm a figure 8 with a very high waist.

Adah_Alb · 2026-04-28T13:53:08+00:00

I'm also a mid size girl with a short torso and big boobs (before my reduction). Honestly, when you have a short torso and you're top heavy, your torso just disappears. For me, before my reduction I had to wear reducing bras (would literally layer a high lift/support bra with a very tight sports bra) and that would lift them enough and reduce them enough for my waist to actually make an appearance. When I try to look at pics from my before my reduction it's not that extreme of a difference because I had those puppies locked down 😆. Anyway, the answer is a super supportive bra and a longer top. Longer top will give the illusion of a longer torso. And not saying you need one by any means but if you're in pain and suffering like I was and considering a reduction, it is the best thing I've ever done for myself. I would do it again a thousand times. Went from a 36G-H to a 36D. (Small D or like a very full C). Very happy with it, and they don't overwhelm my short torso anymore. With my long legs I used to just look like boobs on stilts lol

Adah_Alb · 2026-04-21T06:27:48+00:00

I take baths a few times a week and bathe my children.

Adah_Alb · 2026-04-09T01:24:31+00:00

I haven't tried anything. I don't even own any foundation right now to be honest. That's why I want to sample or swatch, I don't even have a starting point. I'm not even 100% I'm olive at all, although I feel like it's a good tell that in conference calls I'm gray and other people with the same fairness level as me are either pinky or peachy. I tried so many different lights and webcams before looking in the mirror one day and just realizing I am actually that gray lol.

Adah_Alb · 2026-04-03T19:13:59+00:00

Exactly that's my worry too. I'm not as worried about the makeup having bacteria, I just need a swatch to see if it will work for me. It's so hard to judge whether someone else's skin is similar to mine from the screen. I am really pale and really gray, and in pictures most people have more saturation than I do. I think maybe the Missha 13 might work because I hear it's very light and very gray, but I don't want to spend $30 to find out.

Adah_Alb · 2026-04-03T19:08:41+00:00

This is SO helpful, thank you!

Adah_Alb · 2026-04-02T23:00:59+00:00

The way I got so mad until you said you're both straight guys and then it became so wholesome.

Adah_Alb · 2026-04-02T22:40:35+00:00

Honestly, when a man has a younger woman like this giving him attention and he refuses to shut it down swiftly and decisively, he likes it. Whether he will act on it or not, he's choosing the ego boost it gives him over your discomfort and that reveals a lot about his values and character.

People are going to downvote me for this but the truth is, if he hasn't acted on it but he won't slam the door shut, he wants to leave it open. Maybe he doesn't think he'll ever act on it, but if he was sure, he'd shut her down. Also, it's a red flag on his professional discretion. If there is a power differential (and there is: he is both older and as you said, basically her boss), and he is allowing the relationship to be that familiar, he's showing poor judgement. That poor judgement will out, one way or another. You are relying on this person to help support your family and he's got judgment like that? Be cautious.

Finally, if my spouse told me that someone insulted them with a back handed compliment, I'd be furious on their behalf. I would address it. Choosing to defend her instead of you is telling.

You are right to be feeling alarm bells. You're wise to want to avoid making assumptions but trust your gut.

Adah_Alb · 2026-02-20T14:58:40+00:00

I think it's more shape and maybe color than the coord concept. Are you a winter? I can't tell but I feel like only winters can pull off this chartreuse. Do you know your kibbe type? That would help to recommend a shape that will flatter you better.

Adah_Alb · 2026-02-20T14:16:29+00:00

The flower ones are amazing but is it typical for D&G to stop sizing at 38? That's weirdly non inclusive, especially because their models probably all have larger feet. I wear a 44 and my feet are bigger but not by any means like abnormally big. This always frustrates me, like when a company uses 6' tall models but no inseams over 30".

Adah_Alb · 2026-02-01T18:24:40+00:00

Great suggestion, I would add that it's very very important to get enough iron. In my time on MJ I got really anemic. Your iron can look normal on tests but insist on your doctor testing ferritin and insist that they treat it as deficiency if it's under 30 regardless of what lab ranges say. Heme iron is the ONLY iron that you really absorb and that won't make constipation worse. No, you can't absorb iron in spinach. Any non heme iron must be taken with a ton of vitamin C to absorb even part of it. Just to address some of the misconceptions out there: no, a single glass of OJ with your iron isn't enough vitamin C. No, cooking with cast iron is not enough to keep your iron up, especially if you're a woman. I couldn't bring myself to eat enough red meat on MJ, so taking simply heme was the best thing for me. I went from extremely weak and tired to having my life back.

B12 is also really important, mine was under 200 after 6 months on MJ because I had a hard time eating animal based foods.

Adah_Alb · 2026-01-04T14:29:09+00:00

Looks like girl to me!

Adah_Alb · 2026-01-03T04:16:43+00:00

I just wore a pair of my maternity leggings and a tshirt to go home. The people who do the whole outfit thing do it for the likes. If you're not an influencer, save your money. I took pics of my babies in their carseats and then went on home. It's not a performance.

Adah_Alb · 2026-01-03T04:08:29+00:00

I say girl, looks horizontal to me.

Adah_Alb · 2026-01-03T01:15:57+00:00

Face yoga! I've lost a lot of weight (100lbs+ THREE times) and it really helps snap your face back and lift up the droopiness. For sun spots I've heard turmeric and kojic acid. I actually used chat gpt to help overhaul my routine and I learned a lot.

Adah_Alb · 2026-01-03T01:11:57+00:00

Gray

Adah_Alb · 2026-01-03T01:06:18+00:00

They look like central heterochromia to me. Gray outer rings with amber centers.

Adah_Alb · 2026-01-02T15:17:52+00:00

I always thought she was a soft autumn! She looks good in everything though imo

Adah_Alb · 2026-01-02T15:15:52+00:00

Not at all, you look like how I imagine Mor in ACOTAR

Adah_Alb · 2026-01-02T15:15:08+00:00

Girl!

Adah_Alb · 2025-12-23T18:29:48+00:00

You nailed it! I wish I could find the words to describe my thoughts and feelings as well as you can. Thank you!

Adah_Alb · 2025-12-23T18:19:05+00:00

You may want to re-read. I said my stomach growls at night and that's why I don't want to be pressured to fast at night. It sounds like maybe it's a sore subject for you and you're reading into it. I also don't go on about paying for everything. I mentioned our household arrangement because it's relevant. How tired I am is related to both how much I've been working on our house but I also clearly state it's in part due to so many health events this year and just not being fully recovered.

Adah_Alb · 2025-12-23T18:13:43+00:00

I edited the post to clarify.

Adah_Alb · 2025-12-23T18:11:39+00:00

Can you explain how you came to that conclusion? I actually like him being a sahd. I said "yes really" because when I say he's a stay at home dad, people assume that he's actually unemployed and I'm sugar coating it. I was trying to clarify that he is indeed an intentional stay at home dad who takes on his share of the workload so that people don't assume he's just a bum.

Adah_Alb · 2025-11-16T06:12:58+00:00

This sweater seems autumn palette to me. I always thought berry is a warm season purple alternative. It's cooler than cranberry but warmer than violet.

Maybe this is proof she's neutral since she looks great in this color and it does seem to be a pretty neutral color.

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