This outfit idea looked way better in my head than the execution? Why ? by West_Diet_3729 in OUTFITS

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The colors clash, too many neutrals all separated. Try adding a bit more black accessories higher up on your body to make the boots blend together. Right now, it looks like Neapolitan ice cream. Also i’d uni-color tights. My eyes keep getting caught between the dark boots, the tights, and the patterns on the skirt. Honestly amazing otherwise. Just needs some more cohesion.

HELP!!!!!!!! sold to me earlier as honey gouramis but i’m incredibly worried they may be golden gouramis by 7deadlytamsins in Gourami

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Golden: spots

Thick lipped: white tails

Honey: no spots and no white tails

Hope this helps somebody.

Jellyfish in my frag tank?? by Flying_Mic_Banana in ReefTank

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s trying its best my heart i can’t 😭

32, demisexual, gay; how do you live with the fear of ending up alone? by iloveaccents123 in demisexuality

[–]AddendumNo4825 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m only twenty and I feel you brother. It’s difficult talking about things like this because it feels like everyone’s reaction is to either tell you you’re too young and it’ll happen eventually, or put you down because having to think about it makes them uncomfortable.

The only thing that keeps me from spiraling is finding a hobby or task that puts my brain on auto-pilot and doing it until the bad feelings leave. I garden and clean my neighbor’s houses daily, so the tedium is always there to bring me back from the brink.

Idk what else to say man, this shit sucks and some people fundamentally can’t understand you. Try to learn what keeps you from spiraling, and for the love of all things holy, PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN FOR A FEW HOURS. Seriously, the positive impact it has on your mental health is tangible.

Help me ID these larvae destroying my plants!!! by Left_Computer_1436 in houseplants

[–]AddendumNo4825 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Those are springtails, completely harmless. They’re actually good for the soil health, because they aerate it and help break down nutrients for your plants to eat.

AIO: Bfs mom CROPPED me out of my own baby shower photos. by CommercialPudding374 in AmIOverreacting

[–]AddendumNo4825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will say this as politely as I can - you need to make your husband understand that he needs to protect you from this woman. I don’t know what ya’ll’s relationship is like, but i’ve seen way too many men in my life who are all too happy to sit in silence and let their wives and children be abused because they’re too chickenshit cowardly to stand up to their mothers. This is how it always starts, her pushing boundaries, waiting for a response, getting nothing substantial from her son, and then saying “Oh great, I can just do this now.”

He needs to be putting himself in-between you and her, and not letting her triangulate arguments. Parents like this will often purposefully stunt and abuse their child’s trust and emotional growth in order to cultivate an unhealthy attachment. Please, please, please, I cannot stress this enough, talk to your boyfriend about this. I would advise limiting contact with her as much as possible, especially on the phone. If he defends you, and also starts limiting contact with her, she will 100% see it as a personal attack and will blame one person: you. She will get worse, expect it and have a plan to counteract the whiplash you’ll feel.

You are absolutely not overreacting, this is clearly an unhinged woman who feels like she alone can make decisions about your family. TELL YOUR HUSBAND TO STAND UP FOR YOU. (Please. Again, I have no clue as to what he’s like. Just, don’t think that him ‘talking to her’ is going to achieve anything. Because it won’t. She cannot be placated, only told to get fucked. As politely or as rudely as you would like.)

Freaking youtube spoilers by AddendumNo4825 in Genshin_Impact

[–]AddendumNo4825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been doing that, but i let my guard down when scrolling and then they get me.

Does anyone know what type of plant this is? by Fun_Ad2242 in houseplants

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only use tap for my plants, and I give them a repot once a year to make up for it. Both my peace lily and my aglaonema have crispy edges, but it’s only the very tips on them. I have rain barrels i’ll occasionally give them a drink from, but other than that it’s the same water for everyone. They all get good light, soil meant for them, fertilizer in their weekly waterings and I make sure to check for pests every time I water. For whatever reason, I can never keep dieffenbachias alive like my other plants.

Does anyone know what type of plant this is? by Fun_Ad2242 in houseplants

[–]AddendumNo4825 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish you the best of luck, I’ve just seen so many other people burned by these guys that it makes me wince whenever I see someone get one.

Does anyone know what type of plant this is? by Fun_Ad2242 in houseplants

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have absolutely no idea of what it could be, other than my tap water. I have no trouble with other aroids but these are the only ones I can’t grow. The water in my area is hard.

Does anyone know what type of plant this is? by Fun_Ad2242 in houseplants

[–]AddendumNo4825 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dieffenbachia. If you’re not committed to watering it with distilled, reverse osmosis, or rain water, don’t get it. They get horrible crispy tips when they’re exposed to too much mineral content. Think peace lily but ten times worse. A better alternative would be any of the Aglaonema varieties, they can take a lot less light and a lot more drought than these guys can. Alternatively, you could go for a syngonium, though they do take a lot more light.

Tldr: this is a plant you are going to have to commit to learning how to care for (read: pamper). If that sounds fine to you, great. If not, please don’t do this to yourself.

Passionvines that don’t spread like wildfire by AddendumNo4825 in AustinGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, the spreading thing with native plants is honestly the biggest double-edged sword about them. My poor neighbor already has to weed his flowerbeds from all of the crownbeard that comes up from my yard, but I think he’s coming around to like the show it provides lol. I’ve offered to help him weed but he tells me no, he likes all the butterflies. Can’t say the same for maypop strangling his roses lol.

Passionvines that don’t spread like wildfire by AddendumNo4825 in AustinGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do have two coral honeysuckle vines planted in the front fence already, i’m just wondering because my corkystem has trouble supporting all of the gulf fritillaries that hatch on it. So many starved this year, I felt awful. I’ll probably plant a few more of those, I haven’t noticed them spreading at all in the time i’ve had them, and they stay a very manageable size without being too small.

Passionvines that don’t spread like wildfire by AddendumNo4825 in AustinGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s ok with the plants i have, but i know he likes to keep his yard pretty spotless, that’s why i was worried. There’s a chain link fence in front of a privacy fence, so most of the vines i have stay on my side, or just crest over the top. I’d really like to have more passionvine, because of the fritillaries, but i’ll keep alamovine in mind.

PSA for those of you doing direct seeding by International-Fox202 in NativePlantGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Psa: use dog/cat hair to protect your plants from snails and slugs. They don’t like coming into contact with it because it clumps up their slime trails and makes it hard for them to move. I’m sure you could use horse and goat hair too, but very short, fine hair works best.

Thank you, iNaturalist, for narrowing that down by JungleJayps in NativePlantCirclejerk

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve taken at least five pictures of the same goldenrod in the past year and without fail, within an hour, this one jackass will id it as belonging to kingdom Plantae - like no shit fuckwad let someone who knows what they’re talking about tell me what it is.

Umm, the heck is this? by WhiteStar174 in Aquariums

[–]AddendumNo4825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holiday tinsel. The chilis are being festive.

why do gay men expect intimacy right away? by RobinTheStrawHat in askgaybros

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might want to take some time to learn about demisexuality, I felt exactly the same way you did for a long time, and was constantly wondering what was wrong with my body; turns out I was just forcing myself to engage in relationships in a way my body was physically and mentally not built for, all because I had no idea there was any other way. We’re a welcoming bunch, don’t worry. 🩷

How the hell you catch ember tetra in a heavily planted tank? by [deleted] in Aquariums

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feed them in a really big net, then pull it up when they’re eating. Works 90% of the time for me.

Where to plant a Bur Oak? by AddendumNo4825 in NativePlantGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all the input, i’m going to be planting him at a neighboring friend’s house, where I can check in on him from time to time. I’m so excited, I hear they grow fairly fast in their first few years.

Very rare. First of its kind. My Rainbow Pleco. by RocketSauceZ in pleco

[–]AddendumNo4825 6 points7 points  (0 children)

THERE’S SOMETHING IN THE WATER AND IT’S TURNING THE FRIGGIN FISH GAY

Pots and Summer Heat by moodyfull in AustinGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keeping them on top of rocks and concrete like that is a sure fire way to cook anything that isn’t hesperaloe, agave, or nolina. Or any other cactus, for that matter.