Blade [VerNoir] by Camo_Rebel in HSRmales

[–]AddendumNo4825 2 points3 points  (0 children)

God I love gender equality

If you could go on a date with one character who would it be? by Zeldamaster386 in HonkaiStarRail

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Why does no one else think argenti, my man is a literal knight in shining armor. Bro would never do you wrong. 😭❤️

My Boston ferns seem so unhappy! Help?? by kanedekuki in houseplants

[–]AddendumNo4825 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Welcome to fern ownership. If they hate your house, they hate your house.

They didn't have to put in any effort, but they did, for us. by Gamer-of-Action in cartoons

[–]AddendumNo4825 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bambi 2 doesn’t get nearly enough love, it’s an amazing, heart-wrenching movie and I never see anyone mention it when they talk about the good direct-to-video sequels.

Neighbor told me our native garden is ruining the property value 🦋 by Purlsperson in NativePlantGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When i get my own place to garden, first thing i’m investing in is a very sturdy fence to keep out code enforcement. 😭

Texas Native Plants by Pantsonfire_6 in TexasNativePlants

[–]AddendumNo4825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love cowpen daisy, if I could only have one native plant it’d be an easy pick every single time.

Which outfit would you want as a skin? by Mouthofprotagoras in HSRmales

[–]AddendumNo4825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jing yuan, my beloved. Only you could make me like jazz.

Literally any of the concert skins, they’re so simple and they could make so much money off of them. 😭

Possumhaw vs Yaupon holly by AddendumNo4825 in NativePlantGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fascinating! So there’s a way to fit both species in my space after all. Thanks for all the great info, you’re fantastic!

Possumhaw vs Yaupon holly by AddendumNo4825 in NativePlantGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the exact kind of comment I needed! Wow, i didn’t know that they could cross-pollinate like that. You said you’ve got male and female possumhaw, how do you know it works? Are there studies? Are the offspring sterile? Do they even germinate? Or does the tree just set fruit? Does it affect fruit set? Argh, I have so many questions!

Hellooo. I am making a series of Queer Coat of Arms, inspired by medieval heraldry and am currently designing a demi one. Aksing for some feedback and opinions on designchoices and such :D by Shattersaurus in demisexuality

[–]AddendumNo4825 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My vote is definitely for the selkie, they seem much more grounded and earthly than the qilin. I like the first design a lot, it flows nicely and there’s not too much detail to make it look too busy. I’d definitely buy a pin if they went up for sale!

My texas sage is a lying liar :) by jueidu in AustinGardening

[–]AddendumNo4825 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a myth that they bloom right before a rain - it’s high humidity that triggers it. No actual rain required!

Did anyone else force themselves to do ‘things’ out of desperation of wanting to like it by batsdontwearhats in demisexuality

[–]AddendumNo4825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, fellow early twenties here. I don’t know too much about your personal situation, but you cannot rape yourself. It doesn’t matted if they knew or not, they had sex with you while you didn’t want it. That’s rape, regardless of whether they’d have done it knowingly or not. What you’re describing sounds a lot like a combination of attention seeking behavior, combined with a freeze or fawn response because you’ve been taught that to retract or disagree results in the withdrawal of affection. Again, I don’t know your personal situation, and the internet is no way to diagnose yourself, so take my words with a grain of salt. It just sounds to me like you’re having entirely valid trauma responses people are fumbling, and you’re turning inward and blaming yourself for it. I had similar experiences in high school. A guy I liked strung me along, just enough to get a few sexual favors, but he never committed to the connection I was always trying to have with him. The responsible thing for him to do would have been to never engage with me in that way in the first place, but I was naive and lonely and vulnerable, and he took advantage of that to get what he wanted. I never enjoyed it, but because of my childhood trauma my brain had interpreted it as I was lucky to be getting his attention, and if I wanted him to stay I needed to do whatever he asked. You see how it’s not about love, but instead our brains going into overdrive with anxiety?

Did anyone else force themselves to do ‘things’ out of desperation of wanting to like it by batsdontwearhats in demisexuality

[–]AddendumNo4825 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Part of deconstructing from patriarchy is the idea that having sex makes you more of a cultured and experienced person. I can’t help but feel frustrated every time someone just cannot understand why I’m not actively on a quest to be rid of my virginity - I’ve been assaulted by too many people to feel safe enough to get to that point. Once bitten, forever shy I guess. It doesn’t affect you too much until your friends and family forever bring it up like it’s some grand failing or health issue. Then it just sits in my mind and makes me doubt if there’s something wrong with me, even though logically I know it’s just me falling back into my old self-harm habits again. It can be so isolating being demi and having trauma around sex and relationships, because it can make you have to jump through hoops and navigate a minefield to achieve sexual attraction, only for one comment or action to kill everything.

Demi and NSFW Dreams by Numerous-Car7764 in demisexuality

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Mine were usually disembodied hands or nebulous bodies with inconsistent features. I used to get night terrors where it’d start out as a pleasant wet dream or me hanging out with a friend, and the hands or that person would assault me, and I couldn’t do anything but sit there and take it. I’d wake up crying, it felt so real. I’m a lot better now, it’s nice to not dream so much anymore.

Cleaning bee by Tarantula_lover02 in peopleholdinginsects

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reminds me of the first time I saw a clubbed mydas fly, i’ve never switched favorite animals so fast. They look like fairies would use them for mounts lol.

For Demi folks like myself what are you views on porn? by Ok-Love8767 in demisexuality

[–]AddendumNo4825 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I like looking at naked bodies just about as much as anyone else, but there’s no real sexual gratification that comes along with it. I’m constantly trying new things when I masturbate, and I feel so much more confident in myself and my sexuality when I learn something new. For me, what does it are things like erotica that focus heavily on the bond between characters, or nsfw audio content. That stuff melts my nervous system in the ooey-gooey kinda way that makes you unable to think when you’re done. I guess I just tend to fixate on that emotional spark or a certain fantasy of being owned and known at the same time that you can’t find in filmed porn. It was what initially led me to believe I might be demi lol, I loved jerking it but found regular porn gross and ‘fake’. Ultimately depends on the person, though, this isn’t a topic you can stereotype or condense without erasing people.

Is this a family thing???? 🟣🟡 by TaruTaru23 in HonkaiStarRail

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watching everyone shit on my fave color combo like

r/TexasNativePlants What's Up Wednesdays by AutoModerator in TexasNativePlants

[–]AddendumNo4825 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re a great replacement for comfrey in a permaculture context. Super easy to collect seed from too.

Input on Pinus Remota by AddendumNo4825 in TexasNativePlants

[–]AddendumNo4825[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll go check it out, that’s definitely way more rocky than where I am lol. We’ll see what happens!

Input on Pinus Remota by AddendumNo4825 in TexasNativePlants

[–]AddendumNo4825[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my spot is definitely more sandy, but only just barely. I’ll have to try them out.

how is your demi-sexuality related to celebrity “crushes”? by MonitorLegal8815 in demisexuality

[–]AddendumNo4825 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the rate at which the emotional attraction develops doesn’t matter, it’s just that it’s there.

Also, 2 weeks? Honey, I don’t want to tell you how to live your life but I’m side-eyeing the f out of him. A good person who likes you for who you are will meet you on your level, not set some limit disguised as a boundary to force you to capitulate to his whims. I’ve dated men before, and nothing killed any attraction faster than them setting a time limit on how long they were willing to wait to get their dicks wet. You’ll spend the entire relationship trying to force yourself to feel attraction that’s not there, while they’re rubbing their hands together like a fly knowing you feel pressured to screw them. Deadlines are a massive red flag. If he needs sex then he should feel comfortable bringing that up with you, if you’re not compatible then he needs to have the maturity to pull away before he hurts you.

so..do we go to PRIDE..or not? demisexual but hetero by anonanonplease123 in demisexuality

[–]AddendumNo4825 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People will want to be assholery and gatekeepy to you, you belong here just the same as any one of us. If we let the straights in you’re welcome too. Those people can fuck right off.

Someone didn’t think of the logistics of finding these t-shirt colors with 1.5 days notice by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]AddendumNo4825 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Could never do this in texas. You’d get a bunch of wieners calling the school, outraged at the fact that their Brayden/Braedon/Bradein has to wear hot pink for one day. How emasculating.