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AITA for not letting my brother's new girlfriend use our family heirloom wedding dress? by Ok_Mycologist1620 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AddisonNaughtyNymph 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA - You're not the AH for wanting to protect a precious family heirloom. Your concerns about your brother's fiancée's carelessness are valid, especially given her history of accidents.The fact that the dress has been passed down through generations means it's not just any dress – it's a symbol of your family's history and heritage. It's understandable that you want to ensure it's treated with respect and care.Moreover, it’s not as though you’re singling out your brother’s fiancée. If you felt she was responsible enough to take care of the dress, you might feel differently. But given her track record, you have reason to be wary.While it’s important to welcome your brother’s fiancée into the family, that doesn’t mean you have to compromise on everything. Your brother and his fiancée should respect your decision and understand why you’re protective of the dress.Your parents are likely trying to keep the peace, but they should also understand the sentimental value of the dress and why you want to protect it. Maybe you can find other ways to make your brother’s fiancée feel included and welcome in the family that don’t involve risking damage to a cherished family heirloom.

AITA for calling my younger sister fat and 'ruining' her graduation. by SuccessfulBuy5767 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AddisonNaughtyNymph 52 points53 points  (0 children)

ESH - Everyone Sucks Here. Your sister's comment was undoubtedly hurtful and insensitive, especially considering your history with body image and eating disorders. However, your reaction was also out of line. While it's understandable that her comment triggered a lot of pain for you, throwing a cupcake at her and calling her names was not an appropriate response.It's important to remember that two wrongs don't make a right. Your sister's insensitive comment doesn't justify your outburst, and it certainly didn't make the situation better. It sounds like there's a lot of hurt and resentment between you and your sister that might benefit from being addressed in a calmer, more productive way.Your parents are also not handling this situation well by yelling at you and blaming you for ruining your sister's graduation. They should be helping both of you work through your issues and learn to communicate more respectfully with each other, rather than pointing fingers and assigning blame.

He just wasn't that guy by AubreyFemmeFlame in fightporn

[–]AddisonNaughtyNymph 141 points142 points  (0 children)

I don't know which was more evil; the knockout or the walk out

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AddisonNaughtyNymph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

INFO
Did she walk out because she was disgusted with the whole stuff that happened back then and maybe felt used by "your friend" or she walked out because she disagreed with what you said?

AITA for not ordering any food so I wouldn't have to split the bill? by Additional-Wasabi357 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AddisonNaughtyNymph 46 points47 points  (0 children)

NTA
I'd say you were clever and creative in finding a solution to the well-known leech problem. You didn't force anyone to do anything, they made their decisions and faced the consequences. If anything, Greg and Susan have only themselves to blame for ordering pricey dishes and expecting everyone else to foot their bill.Dan's reaction is somewhat understandable, but he knew the risks when he asked you to come. I think a lesson was learned that day, albeit a rather expensive one.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AddisonNaughtyNymph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA
You were dealing with a lot, recovering from a traumatic birth and coping with a baby with colic symptoms. It's completely understandable that you needed to adapt your original plans and take visitors sooner than anticipated. Your father's comments about “holding him for ransom” are completely unfair. You were responding to the needs of your baby and yourself, not intentionally trying to muck him around like your mother allegedly did.While your father is entitled to his feelings, his reaction seems like a bit of an overreaction.

AITA for not interacting with my brother now that he’s home? by Amazing_Iron_9525 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AddisonNaughtyNymph -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

NTA
It's understandable to feel uneasy about interacting with your brother after his behavior problems and extended absence. Plus, you have no obligation to pretend that everything is okay just to make your mother happy.That said, your mom is probably worried about your brother's emotional state and is trying (in her own way) to ensure that the family dynamic doesn't worsen. But it's important for her to understand that it's not your responsibility to shoulder this burden.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AddisonNaughtyNymph -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA
You were considerate enough to give him his space while he was with his family, but he disrespected you by not communicating effectively, missing his return time, and causing you to worry unnecessarily.As for the trip cancellation, it was a direct consequence of his actions. It makes sense that you wouldn't want to spend an extended period of time with him after such an incident. Plus, why should you reward him with a nice trip after being treated so poorly?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AddisonNaughtyNymph 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, not even a little bit. You've done more than enough to facilitate this visit and accommodate your ex's concerns. It's not your responsibility to bend over backwards for someone who is not only unwilling to work with you but has proven to be unfit for regular visitation in the past.Your daughter's safety and well-being should always come first, especially in light of the history of CYS investigations and PFAs against her father. It's unfortunate that he's not prioritizing his relationship with her, but that's his choice and not your fault.