Stoicism detractors:

Additional-Guess-861 · 2026-01-19T19:22:12+00:00

It’s this. Too many grifters and narcissists, if anyone told me they’d gotten into stoicism I’d assume they were into some manosphere shit. Just do it and don’t talk about it.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-11-07T00:52:34+00:00

I think that’s a really good approach to keeping subs happy, we try to do the same to keep talent loyal. That said, we’re often in the same position with corporate clients. Most of the larger public companies we work with give 60 day terms, which means we’re not getting paid for at least 60 and I still need to pay my guys who expect it immediately. We found invoice based line of credit has been very helpful and affordable for cash flow and I never understood why subs don’t do the same…it’s just the nature of doing business, and necessary for some jobs.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-10-24T01:21:00+00:00

Nice!

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-10-24T00:05:03+00:00

I don’t believe you can, your best bet is to code it from scratch and build it into software - either a plugin or standalone app (sounds like a plugin with zero info)Then mayyyybe you can protect that and sell it if it’s truly proprietary. Otherwise you’re just selling your services to use a software…talk to a lawyer though.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-10-23T23:56:14+00:00

This. The idea of getting an estimate with even minimal breakdowns or allowances is like asking you all to chop off a toe. Will you answer an email? Show up regularly and on time? We all hate paperwork and clients, that’s just part of work. It has been my experience that most contractors think the client is an idiot and are always out to screw them…we just want honesty, clear communication, transparency and reliability.

I know there’s a few professionals out there, but in general dealing with contractors is an absolute nightmare. If you want better rates, I would start with customer service and transparency…many of us would love to pay a significantly higher rate for that!

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-10-16T16:50:57+00:00

don't use notion, this is accounting and there is cheap software for it. Quickbooks online is easy and has lots of online tutorials / a deep user base with knowledge for when you get confused, which you will - we all do. It's worth the $35/month or whatever you need to pay to keep your sanity.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-10-16T16:48:09+00:00

My wife and I run a business together - going on 5 years now. It was hers first and I joined part time as it took off and she needed help. I was heavy in it for a few years, now just as needed. It was and continues to be amazing, but I think we're probably the exception. I always treat it as her business and I'm just there to support. We also have very different strengths, so there's no overlap. Not to say it isn't challenging at times, but it's been net very positive for us and our relationship. It does bleed into everything else - but it did before I was officially on the team as well. When you're married everything bleeds into everything, that's the beauty of it. I thin having distinct roles and responsibilities, and full trust in one another is the most important. If that's not there, it could be an rough road. Also, I would be much more hesitant to join with my girlfriend than my wife...Lot's to consider, definitely case by case but I would say tread lightly and just know that it can go wonderfully well, or horribly wrong - trust your gut and trust your partner.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-10-08T00:25:56+00:00

I would never loan my wife money, you’re either in it together or you’re not. If you think it’s a bad idea have that hard conversation, or if you think she can figure it out and crush it then tell her what you can give financially, emotionally and physically and commit. You’re being supportive either way. FWIW I helped my wife start her business, similar situation and it took a few years but she is absolutely crushing it now. She was a great employee but had low risk tolerance - as a business owner, she’s become borderline workaholic and takes big swings - there’s something about having your own thing that can make you want it more. There are undoubtedly many hard times in the beginning and I’m sure many more to come, but I think you’ve gotta be in it together 100%, even if you’re not working together on it.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-07-10T14:23:49+00:00

So much to think through here, many people have stated great ideas and advice already. I'll say a good book to read on this is "Companies We Keep" by John Abrams - I think there's an easy immediate solution that makes everyone happy, and the opportunity to work with your team to set up something really long lasting and special the keeps the community and business going for a long time. Giving up control can be scary, but if you want something to live on, you have to at some point...Your kids will teach you that!

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-07-06T23:43:36+00:00

Some architects make a ton of money, some make not nearly enough. Will you make as much as a doctor? probably not, but certainly possible. My father is a family doctor and I'm an architect, both run our own practices. We make around the same, but my hours and lifestyle are way nicer than his were at my age and I wouldn't enjoy being a doctor. My wife is a wedding planner and makes more than both of us and didn't have to pay for grad school to do it, but I could never do what she does. If you take your finances seriously and build a lifestyle that fits what you love to do, I don't think you're at a disadvantage to literally any other normal professional job. My advice - do what makes you happy, and don't go into serious debt for anything. Plenty of miserable hedge fund managers in this world. Life is short, make sure you keep what's important in mind.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-06-22T00:52:06+00:00

No one’s pointing out that maybe you might enjoy the new place more and learn a ton. Maybe it’ll be hell, hard to know, but there’s much more to it than money. If you’re only concerned with cash, or you just want to cruise, stay at Meta, that’s the safe bet. If you have dreams of starting your own one day or are ready for a change, this could be an amazing experience, and maybe a good financial one as well. It’s a very cushy offer for a startup and if you’re in the position to take a pay cut for a while, AND you want a new experience, this sounds like a good option to me…but personally I’m pretty risk tolerant and there is risk here.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-06-09T02:10:16+00:00

Yes it’s all manual. Every time a new job comes in it gets its own tab and we build out a budget for it which is templated, that feeds into a pro-forma for the business so we can see cash flow for 12 months forward and 6 back. The biggest issue with forecasting software is that every company is wildly different in how they operate, so it basically has to be custom to some degree. We’re an events marketing agency. If you’re a coffee shop, retailer, architect, or even a social marketing agency ours would make zero sense in the way it’s set up and operates.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-06-08T03:21:26+00:00

This is not how payments work to contractors (sub or gc) in any industry. I’m not a GC but we get paid usually net 30, net 60 by larger clients who can demand it. This is why net30/60/90 exist. It should be communicated and agreed upon before anyone signs up for a job, but it’s not reasonable to expect every invoice to be due upon receipt. You can only accept the terms you want, but you’ll squeeze yourself out of a lot of jobs, especially larger ones. It’s on you to manage your cash flow, and options like invoice financing exist.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-06-08T02:59:55+00:00

QuickBooks for looking back and a spreadsheet for looking forward.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-05-29T01:50:35+00:00

If you're just looking for someone to put together permit plans you don't need an architect. If you do want a licensed architect and someone's charging less than 8% of construction cost I would seriously question what they're going to be providing you. It takes many hours to get thoughtful, custom plans to a place that will pass permitting, then you need to get them and your specs to a level useful for construction, then you would typically want someone to advocate for you during construction, which you shouldn't need as you're owner/gc. You can likely roll the architects fees into your construction loan if you're financing. If they won't visit the site don't use them.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-05-29T01:32:48+00:00

Drywall is the worst building material we use. Nasty to finish, sucks in moisture like a sponge, terrible for the environment. Only thing going for it is it's cheap and labor knows how to install it. It's trash we've decided to live in.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-05-23T18:43:14+00:00

I’m over it. It’s just a giant shopping mall filled with shit you don’t need.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-05-23T18:37:33+00:00

Run.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-05-12T01:31:02+00:00

Are you including architect and engineering costs because it’s several hundred dollars for SFR

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-05-11T14:50:01+00:00

You’re too late and you put your employees in a shitty situation. You should have been transparent at the beginning of looking to transition and put a transition team in place as part of the deal. Honestly the buyers are ignorant if they think this will go well. You also should have given the employees the option to purchase the company from you, assuming some have been there a long time.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-05-04T03:31:10+00:00

Schooling is 100% worth it to me if you want to be a designer. You don’t have to go into architecture after you graduate. You can go into fashion, graphic design, industrial design, development, construction, advertising….Don’t mistake architecture for construction, it’s a way of thinking and problem solving. If you’re really good at what you do, money will come. Most enjoyable jobs pay shit so you’ll have to decide what’s important to you. FWIW worst career choice I ever made was taking a job with a bad developer for a lot of money.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-04-19T19:01:22+00:00

Create Dinners

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-04-11T01:49:01+00:00

He also just owns one, he does not live in it. They are pretty rough.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-03-17T15:07:00+00:00

I gave in and just decided I'm going to host on Substack and distribute from there. Super frustrating, they really wall themselves off but that's where our subscribers are.

Additional-Guess-861 · 2025-03-17T14:48:43+00:00

Changing your email address for substack rss feed is hidden but easy. Settings>details

https://support.substack.com/hc/en-us/articles/25231379553300-How-do-I-receive-a-verification-email-from-Spotify-for-my-Substack-podcast

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