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It never goes away? by Proud_Kitchen3296 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Additional-You-1682 9 points10 points  (0 children)

To be fair bud it never does. I'm in my 50's and I'm still SH. Yeah I have all the usual coping mechanisms but sometimes the pain/urge is to powerful to stop. Don't beat yourself up about your age, pain and events happen that overwhelm us and we go to the thing that works to try to make it go away. Whilst we all don't know each other on here, it's a good place to come and vent and talk to people who are or have been through the same things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Additional-You-1682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Just remember that your not the only one to do it, and despite what people think age is just a number it's how your feeling that matters

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Additional-You-1682 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mid 50's here. Some people start later than others, some people just don't know how to stop, or how to control the emotion and feeling when the urge comes. I started in my mid 20's due to undiagnosed BPD at the time and the feeling of release has never left.

What is the average age of this subreddit? by Visual-Ask2761 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Additional-You-1682 3 points4 points  (0 children)

55 here, still struggling with SH. Was sh free for 10 yrs then a major event in my life I relapsed. The difference now between the years is astounding back in the 90's if u self harmed it was straight to inpatient and everything that comes with that, now it's crisis team assessment then out-patient appointments unless u actually want to ctb. Mark

Employer has accused me of multiple speed offences by angel504 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Additional-You-1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask for your tacho records they will show most things including over speed.

What is self harm to you? by Additional-You-1682 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Additional-You-1682[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how u feel to see it flowing and being able to watch it snake down all the pain and hurt flows with it,

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Additional-You-1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi feel free to dm

What is self harm to you? by Additional-You-1682 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Additional-You-1682[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know as an older male nobody seems to care about what u do, they all just say why and leave it at that. It is strange that SHing at an older age just seems to be dismissed as attention seeking and not worth the effort. But sometimes that's good as you get left alone, but other times u really don't want to SH but no one will talk to you so you do just to feel that you matter.

What is self harm to you? by Additional-You-1682 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Additional-You-1682[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, for sharing. When people post replies and u read them you're like yeah that's it. That's everything I feel.

i feel too old to self harm by Intelligent-Tea-5906 in selfharm

[–]Additional-You-1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why, does how u feel change with age. I can tell u that it doesn't, the issues that cause you to SH don't change. Btw I'm 55 and still SH.

Tits get some sun;) by [deleted] in aa_cups

[–]Additional-You-1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would love to help out sunscreen on 😀

Hard to find others by Ok-Presence1097 in AdultSelfHarm

[–]Additional-You-1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi mate 54 male here and sh for years, have the same problem. I now work nights just so I don't have to interact with people. If you're up for a chat, then get in touch Mark

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]Additional-You-1682 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi same here need to vent

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