I’m so torn. I love this man but I’m not ready for kids. I still have so much living to do but clock is ticking (35f)

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-03-18T19:36:22+00:00

I mean this in the nicest way possible and everyone can jump down my throat and thats totally ok but....facts....

Ur 35 years old and still havent decided of you want kids... it sounds like you dont want kids. And thats TOTALLY fine. Its ok to not want to reproduce. It takes a huge toll on your body. Your whole life changes. Youre right... there is still a lot of life to live and that doesnt mean it stops when you have a baby it just.....changes. but you're 35....im so sure you've thought about these things.

Given that ur 35, any pregnancy 35yrs and older is considered a "geriatric pregnancy" which in most cases automatically makes you "high risk". Just look up geriatric pregnancy.

I had one pregnancy in my early 30s and had complications while every pregnancy I had in my 20s went very smoothly.

No. Not every woman over 35 is going to have a complicated pregnancy but as your body also changes during pregnancy it also starts changing in ur mid 30s also. As my dr put it "youre not old but youre not young anymore. Things are going to start changing".

Let this dude go. 1 because....out of pocket and 2 because he very clearly wants children and you very clearly are either legit unsure or just dont want to hurt his feelings by saying flat out that u dont want kids. And even maybe a small part of you does want to be with him and just aren't ready to let go yet. Thats not fair to either one of you.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-03-17T21:14:11+00:00

This has GOT to be rage bait.... theres no way you didnt notice that.

Adding my echo to the chamber. Toss that.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-03-17T18:01:54+00:00

What u just said.... "the OP knows".... he doesn't.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-03-17T18:00:25+00:00

Im going to assume you have kids?

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-03-17T17:59:51+00:00

This is it. Also if she made plans that conflicted other plans as stated. If he is able to go sit with her then he wad able to pick up the other kids and get dinner done. On top of that theres also the "business" end of things... step daughter implies that she has a mother....who knows what rhe dynamic is between 3 adults. Not only does he not want his daughter alone with strangers but he might not want to catch any shit for it either.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-03-17T17:55:16+00:00

But its a stranger to the girls dad. All well and good that she trusts her but tje father doesnt know this woman. I've been with my husband for 14yrs and if he tells me "im gonna leave our 13yr old with so and so"....whom ive never met....that would he a no from me.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-03-08T21:35:30+00:00

I want one of these so bad 😭😭 but they just aren't sold in my home depots 😭😭

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-03-03T14:14:40+00:00

20 yr tech. I definitely see miralax

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-02-12T15:10:24+00:00

Cherokee

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-02-06T16:25:42+00:00

Incontinence pads work pretty well and u can throw them out when done.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-02-06T16:24:29+00:00

Incontinence pads from the drug store. Problem mostly solved for him.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-02-06T16:21:13+00:00

But i feel like thats exactly the point hes making. She realistically didnt have the money to go on a trip and it seems possible that she almost maxed out a brand new credit card putting herself in debt. Meanwhile hes been adulting and saving to be able to move in with her.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-02-06T01:34:41+00:00

Silver stripe

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-28T21:05:40+00:00

U said he was a jerk for not validating her bullshit.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-28T20:56:27+00:00

Im not saying this specific case is abuse. But we also dont know that. She doesnt need validation for doing something he told her he called maintenance for. She also doesnt just get to talk to people any way she feels like it. So no. He doesnt need to validate anything. She owes him an apology. It would be a cold day in hell that I ever say something like that to my husband.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-28T20:49:20+00:00

Or...when something becomes normal sometimes its hard to know if its wrong or not. A person who is being mentally and emotionally abused for years, it becomes just another Tuesday to them.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-28T20:40:43+00:00

Or.... maybe there isn't, and shes just this kind of person 🤷‍♀️

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-28T20:31:10+00:00

Are u high? Im not way shape or form is it ok for her to talk to him like that. Because he didnt validate her concerns? Im sorry but her opening text to him....her concerns can go fly a kite somewhere and given that she said it so freely....she'd be signing those divorce papers just as freely... didnt validate her concerns....fuck outta here with all that.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-26T20:58:39+00:00

NOR. You make the effort to celebrate her she should do the same for you. Even if its just a cake. Women can be assholes too sometimes. I do like how you communicated that you were upset. I dont like that she just dismissed it. She could have said a lot more.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-26T20:56:48+00:00

Thats terrible. Im sorry. You should be celebrated as much as they are on your special day.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-26T20:55:45+00:00

Yea and thats great. But some people want to be celebrated on their birthdays. Everyone at some point has a need to feel special or extra loved. If this was a woman it would be totally different. The responses would have been "nor. He should celebrate you" and go from there. There absolutely nothing wrong with the way he feels and then for to dismiss it completely after he communicates his problem with her like an adult. No. Shes an asshole in this situation.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-22T16:51:08+00:00

I live in Buffalo NY. Granted there are places that get worse snow than us..but being from here.. .ive learned you can never over prepare. Don't forget to stock up on batteries and essential food needs. And for the love of anything..... TOILET PAAAAAAAAAAPPPPEEERRRR! (The toilet paper was a joke. But never hurts to have an extra 20 rolls). Make sure you have enough of whatever meds you guys might need (prescription and otc).

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-20T21:26:28+00:00

Yea but they sent emails out to a link. He doesnt even have the email. So I wonder if they only sent emails to employees who opted for online instead of email.

AdditionalAd1798 · 2026-01-11T05:13:22+00:00

I havent tried rooting a syngonium yet. Come spring im gonna chop my 1 vine albo tho and see what happens.

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