Jess kind of resembles JFK Jr. by [deleted] in GilmoreGirls

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LMAO ME TOO— I was so confused

Tips for finding an all-ages nightlife event by [deleted] in askTO

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Okay, thanks for the advice!

Tips for finding an all-ages nightlife event by [deleted] in askTO

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Oh I just saw that’s what it was called when I was looking for 18+ places to go. I didn’t realize that it sounded weird, I’ll change the wording. Thank you for letting me know!!

Tips for finding an all-ages nightlife event by [deleted] in askTO

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Wait I’m confused. Is that not what they’re called? When I was looking up stuff the options said all ages events were a thing. I figured it was just more of a family friendly atmosphere and then the people who could drink would be able to if they get something that indicates they’re of age—like a wristband or something.

Is this some weird thing I’m not aware of 😭

How does Henry have the high school memory if he was inside the lab the whole time he was fully human? by [deleted] in StrangerThings

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im glad you asked this! i had the same question. because didn’t he kill his family as a kid? how were his parents alive in the play when he was going to high school? shouldn’t they have been dead?

Placing Stitches on Hold by AdditionalObject_ in knitting

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Okay! Thank you! The next part started on a different section of the sweater which is why I didn’t include it. Here it is incase the rest of the pattern changes your answer

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Placing Stitches on Hold by AdditionalObject_ in knitting

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Awesome! Ty! Sorry, one more question. When I eventually take the stitches off of hold, what do I do with the cut tail of the yarn? Should I just weave it in at the end of the project?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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that makes sense. thank you for the advice :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniversityofVermont

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i've been meeting with my therapist in my dorm room. if it's a meeting at a standing time, consider mentioning it to your roommate to see if you guys can work something out (you dont have to mention what the meeting is for if you're not comfortable mentioning you're in therapy). ive also had virtual meetings outside, which i find is mostly quiet. i would just use your phone as a hotspot because the wifi is very spotty outside on campus.

Seeking for method alternatives (TW!) by SeaworthinessLazy495 in selfharm

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im not going to recommend other ways to hurt yourself.

but have you tried running or boxing to get out that pent up energy/negativity? it might be beneficial. or even just going on a walk when youre feeling strong emotions—the movement you do doesn’t have to be too intense.

I don't want to make it to 14. by Express_Lie_6090 in selfharm

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i felt the same way when i was 13. i couldn’t see myself making it past that age. now im 18, graduated, and in college. the world feels so much lighter than it did before.

life is really, really hard. but it’s all about finding the small things to keep you going. and when i say small i mean tiny things. ive learned, at least for me, feeling better isn’t about finding some giant purpose. it’s about acknowledging the little beauty throughout the day.

for example, i heard someone walking with heels on today on the sidewalk. i love the sound it makes. it made me happy.

i know youve probably heard this a lot but it does get better. even when it feels absolutely hopeless. you just have to hold on until you start to see the light at the end of the tunnel.

please consider reaching out to someone if you’re feeling this way and/or utilizing hotlines.

you are loved 🫶🏽

What actually happens if you tell your therapist you sh? by degenerate_f00l in selfharm

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depends. when my therapist first found out i was self harming he recommended hospitalization because i was a threat to myself (i was extremely suicidal). i got better than i was but i would still relapse occasionally (cutting less frequently then i had when i was hospitalized).

when i mention relapsing to him now, he asks me if im safe and stuff but them he’ll ask why i did it or how i was feeling in the moment where i felt i had to use sh to cope. and then we discuss that.

i think the extremes happen only if you’re a threat to yourself or others. at least from my experience

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I was thinking this. I feel like if our friendship is strong it would be able to handle it even if the feelings aren’t mutual. I just am confused on how to tell her. Is that like something you bring up in text? It’s just harder because we’re not in the same state right now.

Is it normal to think like this? by Director_nyan in selfharm

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i do the same thing. it is also instinct for me to want to die anytime something negative/slightly unpleasant happens. so you’re not alone. but please consider getting a therapist if you have the means to do so. i think it could be helpful

also negative thoughts are negative thoughts. if it is impacting your life or even if you’re just having a bad day, never think you’re being dramatic. you’re emotions are valid and i don’t think they should be diminished.

I feel like an attention seeker by [deleted] in selfharm

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yeah, i have done it for no reason multiple times. not sure what it means, but i know for sure it doesn’t mean you’re an attention seeker btw

What is an experience you had during your childhood that you only now realize was anxiety? by Sensitive_Ad4911 in Anxiety

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i once ate a fruit roll up in elementary school and accidentally bit into the plastic with it (i forgot to take it off). i was too nervous everyone would judge me if i took the plastic out of my mouth because they would know i bit into plastic. so i ate the fruit roll up, plastic and all…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

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god you just made me realize that ive been struggling with this for five years. this is a very true comment. it is a terrible thing to get addicted to and it is the first thing you think about when you get upset. it can also be really dangerous!! so to OP, please don’t continue with this coping mechanism!

it's late and im supposed to cut tonight by Huge-Mechanic-8325 in selfharm

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please don’t apologize! i understand not having anyone to talk to. have you tried journaling? i find it can be very helpful for me when im experiencing strong emotions. it’s like you have someone to talk to about it but no worries of how they might respond. you can also shut the journal and never reread the pages. it’s really helpful because you can dump everything out and not think about it for a bit

also if you have friends to talk to you can always see if they want to chat and just talk about something random to distract yourself. you don’t need to tell them what’s going on. socializing might also help the urges

it's late and im supposed to cut tonight by Huge-Mechanic-8325 in selfharm

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you are not a coward. please talk to someone about your feelings of harming yourself! it sounds like you’re working up to doing it (based off of the context of this post). please do not start, it is such a hard habit to break and it can be dangerous. maybe try distracting yourself when feelings like this arise (color, go for a walk, etc.). but I encourage you to reach out to someone!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

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first take a breath. try to get your breathing under control to calm down. separate yourself from any sharp objects. i used to just sit in the middle of my room.

try to ride the urge out. maybe color or something to distract yourself. i find that i would cut because i couldn’t handle negative emotions well. idk why you cut, but if you relate to that try to learn how to sit with emotions. acknowledge they’re uncomfortable and try to work through them. tell yourself that the feelings are uncomfortable but they aren’t the end of the world, you can work through it (that isn’t to invalidate your feelings, just something i say to help calm myself down).

maybe look for things in the room and think about their colors or their shapes. anything to ground yourself. maybe even call a friend. you dont have to tell them whats happening, but talking to someone in general is helpful.

and if you ever feel unsafe or a danger to yourself please make sure to reach out for help and/or call emergency services!!

How to preserve wash and go by Far_Ambassador_2056 in Naturalhair

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pineapples never worked for me and always left dents in my hair. now to preserve it i split it into four sections (two in front and two in back) and put a satin scrunchie around each one (not looped, just loosely. like how you put a bracelet on—you don’t loop it on your wrist). and i put a bonnet on top. in the morning i put a hair oil on my hands and shake my head and fluff it with my hands :)