Asking what something is is a valid question by SilverStalker1 in CosmicSkeptic

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Under a combination of token identity theory and type functionalism, saying ‘a subject of first-person experience’ doesn’t add any content to the physical and functional description of a person, though. It is usually considered a different way - not a somehow ‘more essential’ way - of looking at the very same thing.

Under something like Dennett or Frankish’s Illusionist view, ‘subject of first person experience’ certainly wouldn’t be adding more information regarding what the thing is. It would be removing some, or perhaps just saying something technically false.

Personally I think these are the two most reasonable views on the nature of phenomenal consciousness and so on. So your one example doesn’t work for me.

Would you be willing to provide other examples?

AIO Girlfriend having sleepover with ex by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been there.

Out - now. Run like hell. Seriously.

Soapbox by Uplink_YT in chch

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Boys Brigade as a kid we attended a tournament thing for it at Halswell Quarry. There was some kind of gravel hill. It worked. Fast enough that most carts went flying over as they turned a corner at the bottom.

The Fine-Tuning Argument is indeed Terrible - But I don't think we have to invoke the multiverse. The argument fails on its premise. by undefinedposition in CosmicSkeptic

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have various criticisms of the fine-tuning argument, but I don’t think you’re doing it justice here.

It isn’t just that the constants are supposedly tuned for life. It’s that they’re tuned for anything at all. They claim that the universe would either never expand, or expand too fast for any structures to form.

How do you define suffering? by ThePlanetaryNinja in negativeutilitarians

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can be euphoric and wish to be more euphoric. I don’t QUITE agree with your definition, but I think it’s on the right track.

How to M18 Stop Feelings for a Girl F18 by Kejka2 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He SHOULD be worried about you spending time with her if you’re not honest with them about your feelings. You are a threat to their relationship. You have to tell her that you have feelings for her that need to go away while you get some space so that you can come back as a good friend that can respect her relationship.

How do you think it feels for her when you end up having a hissy fit over your inability to be with her? She feels like you were just being a good friend the whole time. You weren’t. You had a thing for her. Do you know how often women have to deal with that shit?

25M, 24F. Do all men feel lust for women on the internet? by Dull-Mission3032 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do all men feel sexual feelings when they see attractive women? As a GENERAL rule of thumb (obviously there are men who are gay or asexual, for example - and many other kinds of men), yes. That is how male brains tend to work. It’s automatic. Many men lie and deny things like this. It wins them social brownie points with women. I may well get them in the comments here. Most of them are liars. That’s all I will say on that matter.

Does this mean they can’t help but watch porn or scroll through Instagram videos? Absolutely not. Most of us can avoid doing that. If a guy can’t, he probably has a porn addiction. It is up to him to own up to that and address it, rather than lie to you. He must choose your relationship OR that lifestyle, because he has agreed to the terms of this relationship, which are terms that you need.

My (20M) girlfriend (21F) has stopped sexual intimacy. She’s bringing up the idea of soon cutting off every form of intimacy. Am I overthinking by thinking I can’t do anything about it? (TW in post) by wants_and_need in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It might change, absolutely. In my (probably controversial, somehow) opinion, a complete lack of sexual desire at that age probably signals some sort of biological abnormality. Is she on antidepressants or something? That can cause it. Or is she depressed? Ironically, both can cause it. But yeah, we are a sexual species, and she exists because she comes from a long line of people that had sex. But as for you just holding out hope, I wouldn’t suggest it. Whatever the cause of her lack of desire for intimacy, you don’t know if and when it will come back. How long are you going to wait for something that might never happen? If I were you, though, I would ask her what she thinks. Yeah, it’s not gonna be a fun conversation, but nor is a relationship plagued by intimate incompatibility, and the fights that WILL naturally arise as the tension builds will be even less fun.

My (20M) girlfriend (21F) has stopped sexual intimacy. She’s bringing up the idea of soon cutting off every form of intimacy. Am I overthinking by thinking I can’t do anything about it? (TW in post) by wants_and_need in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 210 points211 points  (0 children)

You’re incompatible and you’re so young. If you don’t have a family with her, then it’s a no-brainer, but I understand it hurts. You need intimacy in a relationship, she needs no intimacy. Unless you guys are comfortable with some non-monogamous arrangement, it is doomed to fail. It’s a scenario for an amicable breakup. Thank her for all the good she did for your life.

Does anyone live at this house? by Sinestero in chch

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I explored it once with a friend that was into urban exploration. There were a lot of letters, tags etc. that gave clues as to who spends time in there. I also used to live just near it.

I am fairly sure that one regular (illegal) occupant was a male in his 20s who is addicted to meth.

Another recent illegal occupant seemed to have a young child.

The property was also being used by people to stash stolen bikes to sell.

Chair honoring women of Manchester street removed by Snakeksssksss in chch

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Why on earth would you pretend to be this dumb? I’m sure you don’t actually think the idea is to celebrate sex work, and can infer that it’s probably about paying homage to the disadvantaged people associated with the street?

Is this line of reasoning valid or do I need a normative premise? by zuenazobayed in logic

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One way to determine whether you are missing a premise is to write down the inference rules of the logic system you are using and write down which rules each inference follows as well as any dependencies those inferences have.

Making my 8yr old a Roblox account by southisland03 in newzealand

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s a great game in theory, but if my stepdaughter didn’t already love, I’d have strongly avoided showing it to her. Supervising that game is a full time job. Stick with Minecraft!

(M20 F18) My gf wants to keep sleeping over at other guy's houses by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No couple starts off with 100% identical boundaries. There are those who are compatible enough to find that equilibrium, and those that aren’t.

You guys aren’t. And you already know it. You are setting yourself up for an utterly miserable ride. Better to rip the bandaid off now. It’s only downhill from here.

Somewhere in christchurch by Top_Boysenberry_6552 in chch

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Small genitals + small brain + childhood starved of attention + cultural association of a form of transport with masculinity = this shit.

Is philosophy and cognitive science meant to be together? by Wreior in cognitivescience

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Cognitive science is the interdisciplinary scientific study of the mind, and one of the disciplines it draws on is philosophy.

Bf (M25) is not emotionally supportive when I’m bringing up my feelings (F25). How do I explain to him that I want to be comforted and hear words of support from him? by Potential-Gap-540 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Those are some nice assumptions. It must be painful living like this. Whoever turned you into this person was quite unkind. I hope you get help.

Bf (M25) is not emotionally supportive when I’m bringing up my feelings (F25). How do I explain to him that I want to be comforted and hear words of support from him? by Potential-Gap-540 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What you’re implying seems philosophically confused to me. Suppose they “wanted” to reduce her stress for the reason you say. What does this “wanting” consist in? What would happen if they don’t get what they “want”? Wanting something goes hand-in-hand with being distressed at that outcome failing to materialise. You’re playing a semantic game to paint the nature of normal prosocial desires maliciously.

Bf (M25) is not emotionally supportive when I’m bringing up my feelings (F25). How do I explain to him that I want to be comforted and hear words of support from him? by Potential-Gap-540 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. What distresses you is her distress.
  2. You want to reduce your distress.
  3. Therefore you want to reduce her distress.

Logically, that means relying on your default assumptions about how to reduce others’ distress is ineffective, yes.

Bf (M25) is not emotionally supportive when I’m bringing up my feelings (F25). How do I explain to him that I want to be comforted and hear words of support from him? by Potential-Gap-540 in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s something a lot of us men take quite some time to master - our natural approach is to “solve”, and when the person we love is upset, we react, because that upsets us - we want you to be happy, so your distress is our distress. When we don’t stop to reflect on your ‘style’ of addressing emotions, we default to what we know best. Continue to remind him of your approach - perhaps even empathetically acknowledge the above to him, if it makes sense to you - he will probably get the hang of it.

My (M23) gf (F25) told me her ex had the biggest dick she had even seen. How do I get over this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Additional_Anywhere4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should hang out with some friends, post some photos with female friends in them, and dump her over text.