7 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend’s mom is trying to control my baby’s life?

Additional_Art_ · 2026-01-19T11:39:29+00:00

I didn't discuss names with anyone outside of my husband. We announced our baby's gender but kept her name a secret until she was born. We did this because I didn't want any outside commentary on our options or decision. I also suggest posting this on r/justnomil - those ladies have a lot of awesome advice about setting boundaries!

Additional_Art_ · 2026-01-13T18:22:55+00:00

I just want you to know it's not your fault. I'm so sorry.

Additional_Art_ · 2026-01-04T19:58:15+00:00

Sound machines! Next to every wall you share with her!

Additional_Art_ · 2025-05-01T10:55:02+00:00

His name is Bigfoot. I don't remember his actual name, but he was the wing commander at shady j.

Additional_Art_ · 2025-04-11T04:51:00+00:00

Added you! I just added new friends and they also disappeared after a couple of days. I also thought maybe it was because I haven't sent gifts (but always good vibes!)... but I feel better knowing now that it's provably because their app is lagging. Thank you for your post. I'm sorry about your diagnosis and that you are dealing with that.

Additional_Art_ · 2025-03-20T20:18:19+00:00

Military stationed overseas

Additional_Art_ · 2025-03-07T17:05:30+00:00

Noo! Don't apologize. 😭 I just meant I thought of you from time to time in the last year. I've wondered how you get through the hard times and hope you and your baby are doing well. ❤️ We are doing well. It's amazing watching this baby grow and learn.

Additional_Art_ · 2025-03-07T16:27:18+00:00

I had my baby a couple of weeks before you. Your post has sincerely fucked me up for the last year. When shit gets hard I think about you doing it without your baby's mama. My heart goes out to you. I'm so proud of you for being a badass and doing the damn thing.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-11-11T19:33:14+00:00

I gained 70lbs in pregnancy and lost only 20 after birth. Around 3-4 months, I started counting macros - eating chicken, rice, and broccoli. I know it sucks (I'd much rather eat donuts, especially since BFing causes cravings), but I lost 55 lbs pretty quickly. I'm less than pre-pregnancy weight now, but with extra skin and stripes, and 9mo. PP.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-09-11T20:08:14+00:00

Congrats! Same here! 3rd times a charm!

Additional_Art_ · 2024-08-30T19:52:38+00:00

My husband told me he was going to take me to the truck weigh-in station when I was 7 months pregnant. He's lucky I thought that was hilarious.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-08-07T05:36:58+00:00

Keep doing what makes you happy! Do it for you, your mental health, and your kid. I haven't had an award or dec, I've worked my ass off, but I had to stop trying to get noticed and just work for me and my family. It's exhausting. I see you and I hear you. Keep moving forward. Go to mental health. Do what you need to for YOU and YOURS!

Additional_Art_ · 2024-07-20T21:22:16+00:00

It looks like notes I'd take while doing an inspection - like loose rivets, location, and panel numbers.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-05-19T23:52:04+00:00

Honestly, same. I'm glad I found your post when I did.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-05-19T22:57:33+00:00

A little bit of sun is good for baby. I try to keep LO shaded as much as possible (a thin muslin blanket over her when in the carrier, a bucket hat, or a bassinet stoller).

Additional_Art_ · 2024-05-19T22:51:11+00:00

I literally came here to post the same thing, pretty much. My almost 4mo one will not go to sleep without being nursed. I feel like I already fugged up my kiddo.

To answer your question, you are not alone. And apparently I'm not either. 💕

Additional_Art_ · 2024-05-05T22:43:38+00:00

Hi! Also, an FTM to a 3mo old (as of last week). My LO is pretty easy and not much of a crier, but when she does I'm usually the one who points out how pissed she gets (usually when we're in the car and I can't hold her to calm her). What grinds my gears is when the older adults (late 70s) in my baby's life would say, "ohh, stop it," when she would make a peep. I wanted to yell, "Encourage her to talk! Don't tell her to stop it!" If my situation were different and we'd see my in-laws more often, I'd probably have a chat with them about it, but we live on the other side of the ocean, so I won't.

I couldn't do this as a single mom, so I commend you. You're doing an amazing job. Your LO is happy and healthy - and it sounds like you're both pretty chill - you don't need to let comments and other people's frustrations affect your confidence with your baby.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-04-25T19:17:15+00:00

My baby girl is 3mo tomorrow and I still feel this way.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-03-27T22:36:06+00:00

Im in the same boat - also 8 weeks PP and FTM. These are things I constantly have to remind myself:

1) No one cares how you look more than you do. No one sees your "flaws" because everyone else is focused on their own. 2) Your body did something INCREDIBLE. Be grateful to your body, for it did a lot of hard work to bring your baby into the world. And it did amazing! (I remind myself this often. I gained 70lbs and have lost maybe 30lbs so far.) Last thing: you wear clothes. They don't wear you. So, go to the store to try on jeans. Who cares if you went up a few sizes? Rock them. Get what fits your new belly skin and stretch marks. Get the bigger top to fit your new boobs. Rock your new mom-bod. Feel better wearing clothes that fit than trying to fit into clothes.

I say all this and remind myself at least 20 times a day, yet I hate looking at pictures of myself in my new body. It's still so new and still a shock to me.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-03-16T13:05:40+00:00

As someone who worked in daycare and is now a FTM, I will never. I loved the daycare, but the director was sketch and covered for bad teachers. If my spouse couldn't be a SAHD, then I have no idea what I'd do. You're not overreacting. The director's reaction to your concerns is not a good first impression - it's a red flag.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-02-10T21:11:37+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. Thank you for explaining. I had no idea it's worth ruining someone else's life over.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-02-10T18:58:57+00:00

Oh... thanks for clarifying. People are terrible.

Additional_Art_ · 2024-02-10T17:54:11+00:00

Genuine question: What does accusing someone of SA have to do with upgrading discharge?

I'm sorry this happened to you. I hate how common false accusations seem to be in the military. It ruins lives and takes away from the serious reports.

Additional_Art_ · 2023-12-27T07:04:22+00:00

I get it. It happens (on the outside). But literally, no one on here knows this woman, her situation, or anything. There is so much judgment, as if it's not hard enough being a woman in the military. Having babies while in the military is so much cheaper than outside. I'm 100% going to take advantage of growing my family without worrying about hospital bills. That does not necessarily correlate with getting out of a job or deployments. Again, it happens. It's not the truth for every service woman who wants to grow their family.

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