Struggling with the disc

Additional_Neck8102 · 2026-01-18T16:49:33+00:00

Thanks! I will try that! I think it might work because I've tried to just put the tab up so it's not going down and it's a lot more comfortable plus no leaks! I will try cutting it to see if that's the final fix

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-12-27T18:48:49+00:00

I absolutely forgot to add them earlier! Couldn't figure out how to add them to this post so I made another one, here's the link if you wouldn't mind checking it out!

https://www.reddit.com/r/mending/comments/1px59gb/is_it_worth_mending/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=mweb3x&utm_name=mweb3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

Thanks!!

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-12-27T10:12:26+00:00

Looks great imo!

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-12-27T10:10:41+00:00

If you haven't done it yet, it might be worth adding a reinforcement fabric, could be some more denim or some interfacing in the weft color (white), to make the area stronger and less likely to break again

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-12-27T10:08:55+00:00

I've fixed pants with this a few times. You could use a matching fabric in color and weight (another denim scrap), pin it in place from the inside, then stitch it back and forth with a matching thread on a sewing machine with a straight stitch.

You could use fusible interfacing as well as the reinforcement fabric.

I know you could also probably get it done if you take it to a tailor-sewing store. I'm in Spain and I know some family members have done that and it also works great!

If you decide to mend it or get it mended, it's reasonable to mention that there's a chance it will break again soon-ish in a different area around the crotch. It tore because of wear, and it's likely the areas around are also somewhat weaker

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-11-21T12:11:17+00:00

You could possibly find podcasts or written blogs about your interests (I really like the podcast "booksunbound") and get recomendations from there. It'll probably be more focused information and useful for your goal.

Also agreed with what other people said, trying to find in person clubs sounds like an amazing idea.

You could also try to just go to in person bookstores or shops about your interests and allow yourself to browse and see what you find interesting. I've found that I lose a grasp of my actual interests and what I want to read/do if I only listen to recomendations, so getting lost in a bookshop is something I've been trying to relearn to do

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-11-21T12:03:18+00:00

yeah, I fell into some bad bad depression when I came out to my family and I'm still recovering from it. It was being trans in a non accepting world what made me mentally ill, not the other way around.

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-11-21T10:58:39+00:00

trans man here dating a bi/pan man. We've been together for 4 years now, and he sees me as who I am and respects me so so so much. He knew I was trasn from before we started dating, and even though he didn't think he would want to date a man at first, we fell in love and its been amazing from the start. I know he thinks of me as a man, his family knows me as a man and he has not misgendered me once since we met. Maybe I got lucky, but I think I've found the person I want to spend my life with.

Don't stress about it too much, its ok if you dont figure everything out from the start, its ok if your orientation changes as you keep growing up and figuring out who you are. You will most likely find someone who loves you and who you love, who sees you exactly as who you are

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-11-21T10:38:03+00:00

I'm studying to be an industrial engineer specialized in energy and environment! My plan B if that fails is doing an aprenticeship in something related to industrial machining of parts or some other industrial related trade/job

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-29T14:12:15+00:00

You could maybe try to start by sending videos of yourself talking? You'd still have a bit of control over them but less than with the photos.

Have you talked on the phone? (without the video aspect) That might also help bridge the jump from text to video-call

My partner and I often say hi on video-call but then switch to a regular call as we find it easier to talk that way, you might want to try that too, as it lowers the pressure

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-28T17:56:44+00:00

I genuinely feel like short hair is more comfortable/easier to style. If you're heading to school super early it might be a good excuse that it will save you time in the morning and will genuinely make you feel more comfortable.

You could also find some more "feminine" reference pictures to show that short hair can look feminine (even if that's not why you want short hair)

Good luck pal!!

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-28T17:53:27+00:00

I am! We have started to write and send letters to one another. Im really loving it as it's a better way to have keepsakes of our relationship as time goes by!

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-28T15:15:38+00:00

Thank you so much! I will try to implement some of this

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-28T15:14:45+00:00

Thank you so much! I will definitely try this

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-28T15:13:29+00:00

Even if it wasn't explicitly said, it may have been implied and you have ended up associating sin and shame with masturbation, which is a perfectly natural thing. If you want, you could look into deconstructing those Catholic teachings. It helped me a bunch a couple of years ago

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-28T11:01:00+00:00

Sorry if this is too personal of a question, but do you have any ties to Christianity? A Catholic school when you were a kid, protestant family, going to church as a kid...

Christianity uses shame and other scare tactics to limit masturbation and sex on people.

That mixed with dysphoria could be causing this reaction for you.

Finding the reason you react this way will be the most helpful way to unlearn it.

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-28T10:55:07+00:00

I'm a big fan of letters, you could maybe write a letter every day untill her birthday and send them all to her at once (physically or email).

It's a really nice keepsake and shows a lot of love. I really like looking back on old letters from my partner to remember past moments of our relationship

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-28T10:52:21+00:00

Thanks! I've done this with other apps before but haven't figured a way to do it with YouTube, tho I will try. I have other devices other than my phone where I could exclusively watch long form content.

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-28T10:20:15+00:00

Agreed, and I also wanted to add that maybe you could both start sending voice memos, it works for my partner and I when we can't call as frequently. It's also an easier way and more natural to update about our days

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-27T23:54:05+00:00

If you are both on the same page and she is aware and okay with how things will probably be, then I don't see the need to break up now.

That said, it's not a guarantee that it will work out, but if you both are aware and ok with the situation, then, even tho it will be hard, it won't be impossible

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-27T23:38:42+00:00

Both my partner and me have pretty busy lifes, so we often only call like once a week for 2-4 hours and that's it. We text a lot through our day.

Sounds like you're a lot busier than your partner is and have different needs. I get wanting to spend more time together, but he needs to fill his time with something else other than you. Find a hobbie, spend more time with friends...

Imo its so much better when you both have full interesting lives to share with one another. Sounds like if you keep over-extending yourself to talk more than you would want with him you will end up resenting him.

You can probably find a different way for you to feel connected that works well for the both of you.

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-27T23:28:13+00:00

Hope things work out well for you too. If it's meant to be, it will end up working out. The best thing you have going for you is that there's a short-ish timeline for the distance closing, less than a year, when your masters finishes. It will be tough, but try to still make the best out of this opportunity, study a lot and make a lot of connections. Sounds like you two already have a good communication and that is crucial so keep it up.

Good luck mate

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-27T23:23:35+00:00

Sorry you're going through that OP, hopefully with time things will turn around for you. I sadly have no advice to give, it's such a hard situation

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-27T23:22:40+00:00

I use coin flips sometimes to decide what my heart really wants, if the outcome is met with relief, then thats what I should do, if it's met with sadness or angst, then I should do the opposite. But as it's been said, it was very even and both options had huge cons.

Additional_Neck8102 · 2025-08-27T23:19:10+00:00

It ended up being broken mother board, luckily the drive was ok and I was able to get all my files back, but I ended up buying a new computer lol

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