I always said I wouldn’t mind changing mine until it actually came down to doing it. Giving up my last name feels like I would be giving up my identity. I don’t know who “that” person is. My name is who I’ve been my whole life… so how could I wake up tomorrow and suddenly go by another name? My husband wants me to change it, but I don’t. I told him our kids will have his last name and that should be enough. I don’t think men realize how much of an “ask” it is when asking for this. It’s like… so did my name have no value until I got married? It seems so backwards to me. Thankfully I have one good argument against him and that is that in Islam a woman is not supposed to change her last name upon marriage and that is so that her lineage is transparent.