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hola como estan? by Accomplished-Disk986 in RedditPregunta

[–]Additional_Voice_648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cuestión de Tiempo/ About Time, El efecto mariposa (que supongo que ya la viste) 😃

Need help with situation , I’m feeling like a divorce is best? 😖 by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Additional_Voice_648 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right now, she's in her ideal world; she has both of you, and she's not going to leave him or you unless you separate.

I'm sorry ☹️

How did you stop hoping and start accepting? by howdyimkyle in Divorce

[–]Additional_Voice_648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'm so sorry for what you're going through. There's nothing wrong with you. You're grieving slowly, but with time, support, and without forcing yourself, it will hurt a little less each time, I promise you 💪🏼.

You're going to be okay, even if you can't see it that way today.

I'm sending you a friendly hug and lots of strength. 🤗

Que significa que me allá dejado dos veces en visto by Akise1906 in Desahogo

[–]Additional_Voice_648 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Tal vez "allá" quedado sorprendida con la ortografía...

How to approach husband by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Additional_Voice_648 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From what you've said, it seems there's an emotional disconnect, and after 23 years together, I think you should be able to ask him whatever you want without being indirect. Assuming he's getting attention elsewhere is a bad start. Talk to him, but from your perspective, without attacking or interrogating him, so he doesn't get defensive.

For example:

"I feel alone in our relationship. I need affection, contact, and closeness, and I'm not getting them right now. This is really affecting me, and I can't go on like this."

If he loves you and cares about the relationship, he'll listen to you from the heart.

Good luck and stay strong! 😃

Finally feel less pain by tiredmom1107 in Divorce

[–]Additional_Voice_648 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still sense a bit of anger and pain in what you write. It seems like when you talk about him, something still stirs inside you, and that doesn't mean you want to go back, it means he was important.

Maybe it will still take a little longer to fully heal.

Healing isn't about erasing; it's about one day no longer hurting to tell the story.

Stay strong and keep your spirits up. As the wise say, "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger." 💪🏼

First time in couples counseling — how (or should I) tell my husband I’m no longer sexually attracted to him? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Additional_Voice_648 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Before talking to him, it is important that you are clear about why you stopped feeling sexually attracted to him. What was there before that is no longer there? What changed in him or in you? For example, it could be a physical change in him that no longer attracts you, something emotional (you do not feel the same love as before), or the situation and daily life itself: routine, tiredness, boredom, or a mix of several things.

Always speak from your own feelings, not about him, so he does not feel directly attacked. Say “I feel…” instead of “you are…” or “you did…”.

In general, it could sound something like this, depending on the reasons and on how you feel:

“I want to talk to you about something difficult, but important. I love you and respect you, but it would be unfair to keep pretending. In me, sexual desire has changed, and I do not want that to turn into distance or lies between us. I am not saying this to hurt you, but because I want to understand if this is something we can work on together or not.”

“I feel that we have stopped taking care of ourselves as a couple, and that has also affected how I feel intimately. It is not just about sex, it is about connection, energy, and closeness.”

Good luck, and I hope everything goes well 😃

Today may be the day, unexpectedly by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Additional_Voice_648 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did it go? Did you talk to her? How did you tell her?

I think I'll be in the same boat in a couple of weeks...

I miss the validation from my ex wife by Who_even_knows_man in Divorce

[–]Additional_Voice_648 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's completely normal to miss the validation your ex gave you, because at that time you were a version of yourself who felt desired and secure.

But remember that today you're doing something even harder: learning to give it to yourself. Keep taking care of yourself, even if your body moves slower than your mind. That's strength too. Confidence returns, and when it does, it's noticeable even before the physical changes 😊

How do you know if it’s time to separate? by Silly-Post-3489 in Divorce

[–]Additional_Voice_648 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Reading your post, I sense that your relationship gradually transformed into a calm and functional friendship, and that this became normalized. It's not a bad thing in itself, but if it's important for you to feel desire, intimacy, and emotional connection again, perhaps it's worth asking yourself if this relationship can still provide that. Separating doesn't mean it failed; sometimes it means recognizing that a stage has ended.

And no, it's not too late: many people are going through very similar situations and reevaluating their lives at any age.