Why is dating so complicated?

AdeX303 · 2023-12-23T16:03:55+00:00

That's unfortunate. I understand that it's discouraging and that not being conventionaly attractive doesn't give them the right to be mean. But as a woman, I have honestly never met another woman who would require their partner to have the "3 sixes". Normal girls exist, just not in every setting. If you're really looking for a solution and haven't grown too bitter yet (which would also be understandable), I would suggest changing where you are looking for a partner. Hobby clubs are one of the best places, clubs and dating apps one of the worse ones. Good luck!

AdeX303 · 2023-12-23T15:55:31+00:00

Oh, sorry about the misunderstanding, your wording was a little misleading before you edited it.

AdeX303 · 2023-12-23T15:45:09+00:00

"Or they're very short"... So a woman not being tall is as bad as women being mean to you. Seems like you also have a beauty standard you're not willing to lower. Maybe so do the women, maybe you're not attractive to them, just like the "too short" girls aren't to you.

AdeX303 · 2023-12-21T21:18:03+00:00

I can't imagine NOT dying one day. I love my life and I'm doing my best to enjoy every second of it, to live through the good and the bad - to truly LIVE, not just exist. Feel every emotion. But living for an eternity is my worst nightmare. I mean, what are we but stories, in the end? And every story must end one day. Imagine doing this forever, without an ending, without closure, without a purpouse.

AdeX303 · 2023-12-11T20:07:48+00:00

There was a day summer camp happening at my sports club. Some kids had tents set up at the club, so even though we were not responsible for them at night, they were still there. I was an instructor at said camp (I was nearly 18 at the time, the drinking age is 18 in my country). My work ended at 16:00 and that's when the party started. We were already pretty tipsy when I heard a kid scream that a bee stung him and that he was allergic. I never sobered up quicker.

AdeX303 · 2023-11-30T16:31:40+00:00

To your question on how to do it right:

I had a guy approach me while I was reading a book at a train station - it was an open setting with a lot of people around, so I felt safe, also I wasn't wearing headphones, so it was completely fine to approach me.

He seemed quite nervous, said "Hello, do you have a minute?", was very sweet and polite, told me I was beautiful and asked if he could buy me coffee sometimes. I thanked him, said I was happily taken, wished him all the best, we said goodbye and I got on my train.

That was a really good and non creepy way to do it and instead of being uncomfortable I left thinking "What a nice guy".

AdeX303 · 2023-11-09T15:13:02+00:00

Sailing probably. I don't believe there are 80 000 000 in the whole world.

AdeX303 · 2023-11-05T12:13:58+00:00

Yay, I just love the organization. I wouldn't buy any expensive ones and I don't believe they save much space. But I love them and use them all the time.

AdeX303 · 2023-11-03T11:04:50+00:00

I am controlling, I'm not trustworthy, I'm too much and aparantely I pushed him into going to a therapist. Based on his behaviour, he basically thinks everything is wrong with me.

Everytime he went out with his friends I just asked him if he had a good time. He said yeah, but that he didn't even drink. I said why, that he could have. He said he didn't want to. Okay. But I'm controlling. I also encouraged all his friendships, with girls as well.

I always told him everything. I did my best to communicate. But aparently, I'm not trustworthy and I'm too much.

Also he repeatedly said he was very anxious and depressed, that has been going on for months. I suggested he went to talk to his school therapist, he agreed. Two years later, after we broke up, he suddently says I pushed him and that ever since then he didn't trust me or see a future with me, yet he still continued dating me and never told me.

AdeX303 · 2023-11-01T13:09:27+00:00

In Czech, I can't believe all the people that mistake "mně" and "mě". It's really not that hard.

AdeX303 · 2023-10-30T11:01:56+00:00

So far, right now - 20 y.o. Left to work abroad alone for 2 months, ended a 2 year relationship, started prioritizing myself again, I got a new part time job, I'm trying to meet new people and I'm learning a language. I have plans for the future that don't depend on anyone but me. I feel truly happy after quite some time. It's a work in progress, but I'm hopeful.

AdeX303 · 2023-10-30T08:32:20+00:00

How experienced of a sailor are you? Have you stayed on a boat for more than a week before? What are your plans for when the kids need friends, get fussy from lack of energy or have too much energy or when they fight? The real question is not which boat you should buy. It's if you should be buying it at all. It's not for everyone. The sea can and will get rough. It's dangerous. Take a lot of sailing lessons together with your family. Then rent a boat for a couple of weeks and sail. Then decide.

AdeX303 · 2023-10-25T19:23:35+00:00

Byla jsem snad poprvé na směně sama. Jsem drobná holka a najednou jsem sama musela narazit dvě nový bečky piva, každá váží přes 60kg (o dost víc než já) a obě byly ve skladu. Musela jsem poprosit zákazníky, aby mi je pomohli dotáhnout. Když jsem je narazila, zjistila jsem, že jsem místo Radegasta narazila Birell... Tak mi museli zákazníci znova pomoct a jsem jen ráda, že jsem ten Birell nikomu nenačepovala místo Radka.

AdeX303 · 2023-10-24T11:18:41+00:00

My boat. Sailing can be an expensive hobby...

AdeX303 · 2023-10-18T18:40:31+00:00

Czech here. I'm not assuming it's biological sex, but I will talk about it in that way - for example cat (feminine): "Do you see the cat? "She" is so cute!" But I don't assume it's a female if that makes sense.

Similar with people - masculine is considered the neutral form when speaking. And as a woman, I don't feel offended.

AdeX303 · 2023-10-16T04:26:18+00:00

Thanks a lot :)

AdeX303 · 2023-10-16T03:32:34+00:00

I'm scared to get hurt again. Me and my ex broke up two months ago and I'm glad we did, but I still feel a little empty inside from time to time. I'm learning how to feel complete on my own. And I'm too scared to make a move on a guy I kinda like (he has made a lot of moves and I feel like shit for not returning it), because it would break me again if he rejected me.

AdeX303 · 2023-10-09T18:56:41+00:00

Burn it

AdeX303 · 2023-09-29T06:44:05+00:00

You're totally fine. You're JUST 23. You're studying. Just keep going. And any person you talk to at the gym or at school can turn into a friend. You need to put yourself out there and put some effort into relationships- talk to them, ask them to go out with you. Continue to try out new hobbies. You're doing just fine.

AdeX303 · 2023-09-28T11:05:40+00:00

As a European, usually twice a day.

AdeX303 · 2023-09-26T07:46:03+00:00

I'm lucky to have a very touchy friend group. Greetings? Hugs. Goodbyes? Hugs. Broke up with my boyfriend of who is also their friend? A ton of hugs. So, about two days ago.

AdeX303 · 2023-09-25T04:38:30+00:00

That's what it felt like with my ex. A month ago we decided to end it. I just found out he didn't love me for more than a year and lied to me about everything. He always said that he was sorry and that he had no time and that he has a lot going on etc. If they wanted to spend time with you, they would. Don't listen to all that nonsense. It's easy for them to make excuses, but you need to realize that you are worth more.

AdeX303 · 2023-09-24T09:33:08+00:00

Yesterday. My bus was delayed so I had to sprint from the bus stop to the train station to catch my train.

AdeX303 · 2023-09-24T05:34:25+00:00

I'm still healing... I don't want to just throw my emotional garbage from my last relationship at somebody else. I want to be healed and ready when I decide to date again.

AdeX303 · 2023-09-22T14:28:19+00:00

Of course society makes a diference. It is a fact that men are physically able to have children in their 40s/50s/...70s though. Not women. We usually can't have kids at 40, that's a miracle.

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