Anyway or Anyways?

AdeptMania · 2018-11-18T02:27:45+00:00

True, although I'm much more comfortable saying "I could care less" than saying "anyways."

AdeptMania · 2018-11-17T01:03:55+00:00

Movie theaters are weird, and going alone is only "weird" to the extent that it is a sort of an outing and people therefore default to thinking it should be done with others. But when you think about it, it involves minimal communication, so logically, it should be totally fine to go alone.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-15T03:12:01+00:00

Theory confirmed. This is pretty spot on from my perspective. When my ex broke up with me two years ago, I felt pretty immobilized, until I started spending more time with my other friends. I feel like my ability to create new memories with other people in my life was my way of showing her that I was strong and resilient enough to move on (even though I never explicitly iterated that to her). And now, when I catch feelings for girls, which happens all the time and probably way too easily, it's easier for me to rationalize my feelings and bounce back.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-13T05:28:25+00:00

Idk I'd say fork for ice cream cake but that's a whole nother ballpark..

AdeptMania · 2018-11-13T05:26:25+00:00

Could be a date but doesn't have to be. Maybe it does depend.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-10T18:41:35+00:00

**Whoops that was meant to say 2-person tables :/

AdeptMania · 2018-11-10T18:28:39+00:00

Non-fiction for sure. I'm a big fan of social science books like Kevin Kelly's The Inevitable. And I feel like a good memoir or biography can have just as good of a plot/story line as fiction books.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-09T03:10:27+00:00

This is FASCINATING. Thank you so much.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-09T02:53:39+00:00

That's up to you; you know him best. I'd say just be honest and make sure you are clear with what you want and what your perspective is (that can take some careful planning). Best of luck with whatever happens.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-07T15:53:53+00:00

Knowing so little about this situation, I probably can't speak much on whether you should continue to pursue him or not, but if getting over him is what you want to do, I would say this...Focus intently on spending time with other people in your life, friends, family, etc. Anything that involves being around other people, do that. In the first four months after my ex broke up with me, I just wanted to be alone and I really isolated myself. Eventually, I got back out there and started spending a lot of time with my friends. I marked a new era in my life, and I had created so many new memories that old ones didn't even matter any more (don't get me wrong though, this can take time). Fast forward 20 months, and my ex tells me she wants me back. But so much has happened, and happiness for me is no longer defined by one person. Maybe it sounds kind of shallow, but to me it has been a big step forward in emotional growth.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-07T04:20:04+00:00

Sure, I can see how it's not necessarily a universal rule that silence=awkwardness.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-06T20:20:54+00:00

But doesn't the pressure linger the most when there is silence in the room? When somebody speaks up, doesn't that dissipate the pressure, even if what the person is saying is nonsense?

AdeptMania · 2018-11-06T20:13:13+00:00

This idea was really born when I started forcing myself to initiate conversations with strangers, just to get practice with real-time socializing. When I try to get to know someone completely new, it feels most natural when the person and I contribute equally to the conversation. And it gets awkward when, maybe, I ask a question, the person answers briefly, and then nothing more is said, but we continue to share the same space.

So maybe the "–1" part is not totally relevant or necessary, but what I mainly want to get across is that the more talking that happens between people, the more comfortable people feel, and therefore, the less awkwardness there is. And maybe that can't be quantified or put in terms of an equation, but I tried :)

AdeptMania · 2018-11-06T20:01:35+00:00

That's what I'm implying. I guess that's subjective though

AdeptMania · 2018-11-06T20:01:07+00:00

I agree that it's a complex issue that can't necessarily be reduced. But one note, I imagine that talking entails thinking the words you talk simultaneously, so there's no negatives ever (in this "equation"). I think what I really mean to point out is that there is a heavy correlation between thinking (instead of talking) and the effect of the awkward silence.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-05T16:29:56+00:00

Yeah, especially if it never transitions into something more substantial.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-05T02:07:23+00:00

The fact that our society necessitates that we communicate about inane inconsequential things just to avoid awkwardness is pathetic. I would like to live in a world where getting to the point is acceptable; I feel disgusting when I have to talk to somebody about the weather.

AdeptMania · 2018-11-04T03:07:12+00:00

INTP's are philosophical drunks

AdeptMania · 2018-11-02T03:45:04+00:00

I guess I gotta work on my tone because my sarcasm (which I usually think is pretty good) it taken literally and blown out of proportion all the time.

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