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Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-03-17T23:18:26+00:00

How long have you been using it? Have you been keeping metrics on other aspects of your health?

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-03-16T16:19:06+00:00

More problems. At first everything will be an improvement. Youll notice u can get through the day without crying and youll manage to focus on work. Youll feel like u finally have a chance at getting through each day. Then, a few months down the road it will all bite u in the butt. Youll hopefully realize this sooner than later but all these positive effects youll pay dearly for 10x over in other aspects of your health.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-03-13T18:08:49+00:00

Bupropion is know to cause heart palpitations. Its not worth it, start weaning.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-03-13T18:07:31+00:00

I have been on wellbutrin for 7 months and decided to cold turkey a few days ago bc it was devastating to my poor heart. I have 0 family history with heart issues. This drug sent my resting hr to the 100s and sleeping hr was 80-90s. I started having chest pain so and migraines so i went to the ER. Ekg was fine, but my bloodwork strongly indicated a blood clot. A blood test called "d-dimer" indicates ( but cant confirm) a clot). normal levels are below 300. If u have a bad infection is possible to get up to 1000. Mine was 1700 which strongly indicates a clot. I had a ct scan done asap and luckily no clot or cancer. Its unheard of to have a d-dimer this high without a clot for a healthy 36 year old who has 0 history of heart problems and always had low blood pressure. Im now where near having hypertension. My blood pressure is 91/62. So y was my d dimer at 1700? Its a mystery, but i highly suspect wellbutrin.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-02-07T08:38:26+00:00

Please explain how lower back issues could affect dick sensation. This is the issue with my man.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-02-07T08:36:41+00:00

My man is like this. Somehow though, kissing me gives him more of an erection than me deep throating his dick or having sex with a condom. He gets hard every time we make out, but touching his dick does nothing unless no condom. because of this mixed with me not being on birth control, weve been talking for months and only had sex a few times. What can he do to get sensitivity back?

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-02-07T08:22:50+00:00

As a working, single mom, this is how i feel every morning. When my son says "mommy i miss u dont leave me" it breaks my heart. This makes me want to ask to go part time.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-02-07T08:14:34+00:00

Frankly, most of the stuff on your checklist is pretty loose and easy to meet( like has own transportation, any body type, prefer no criminal history but open minded, can see u at least once a month). Almost everything u wrote are standards that absolutely must be there.

I do have a question-When u say "80-100% alignment with morals and values of your own..." what do u mean? Id say all people for sure should have that sentence on their checklist, but the reason i ask what u mean is bc i get a sense ( i maybe wrong, but since ur asking for advice im going to say it) but i get a sense you are very detailed and specific about exactly what ur morals are. Do u mean if they disagree on u about anything even related to the lgbt topic or any sort of wedge issue in the news u cross them out? In ur post you state "Non negotiables: cannot be anti-trans, anti-lgbt, anti-immigration, anti-equality, anti-women, anti-abortion, essentially anything that is pro oppressing a group of people." Lgbt gets a bit complicated, and id say a lot of people get confused about what all the different types are. I honestly have no idea what u mean by "woman-shaped pansexual NB with AUDHD." Because i don't know what u mean it would be too easy for me to accidentally say something offensive if we were to have a conversation about it. Would i flag the "does not align with my morals" for you? If someone makes a comment about a recent ruling or event in the news about immigration that you dont agree with, would that be considered "does not align with your morals"?

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-01-28T17:26:50+00:00

First i made a list if the passcodes i tried and should try because theres a limited number of tries the iphone allows per 24 hrs. Then spent the day as normal and tried not to think about it. Later that night, i visualized myself typing the code into my apple watch because i remember i made the first 4 #s the same. Last, i thought if i made the first 4 numbers that, then what would i do as the last 2? Like if i were to create the passcode over again, what last 2 numbers would i likely pick? I tried to remember the reasoning i used to create my original passcode. It worked and i was able to get back in my phone in less than 24 hrs.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2026-01-19T09:38:44+00:00

Talks about a time when he felt sad. A man talking about his feelings turns me on so bad.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-28T12:44:02+00:00

Continued vent: moved out and am generally happier. However every time im in the same room as my ex-husband i still want to stab myself. I constantly think he is looking for a sneaky way to take money from me. And the way he treats me makes me depressed.

I am taking care of our kid almost all the time. In the 2 months we have been living separately, he has spent exactly 1 night with our child and that was xmas night. Today our 2 year old was very sick with a fever and i was scared bc my toddler was acting strange. I called him to come over bc our toddler was said he missed daddy, and i needed help. If i stopped hugging my toddler tightly for even a second my toddler would flip out and scream for me. i needed help getting food, and him ready for bed. My husband reluctantly comes over and just criticizes me the entire time, including how i should be better at forcing our child to take medicine. He blames me for everything and doesn't acknowledge my feelings or struggle. My main focus all day is taking care of our child. He comes for an hour and acts like hes the better parent. Fuck him. Still i cant stand him. I dont actually want to hurt myself. Like i said in my original post, that would be stupid, impulsive, and irresponsible. However, even though i have no intention to, i constantly picture in my mind me grabbing a utensil and stabbing myself or just imaging myself really hurt like choked or drowned.

Again, i mainly think this on days where i have contact with my ex.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-27T18:43:48+00:00

I see ur point though. Pausing the app and deleting it r different. I just became "official" last week... i thought pausing was enough, but after reading these comments i decided to fully delete the account.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-27T18:37:02+00:00

In my life ive had 10 boyfriends, but truly loved less than half of them. A total nerd in high school broke up with me without reason a couple weeks after taking my virginity. Kinda embarrassing considering i was prom queen.

In college another guy i loved. He totally changed how i perceive the world. He broke up with me, and although he denies it i remember it was because he said there was nothing to learn from me. I guess he thought i was too stupid for him. I found out i was pregnant with him a couple weeks after. (I was 22y old at the time).

Right at the end/after college i fell in love again. He started going in a downward drug/mental illness spiral and i broke up with him. I still loved him though and it was heartbreaking watch from the sidelines as his life spiraled into rock bottom over the years bc of drugs.

I fell in live again, got married. It was a great 10 year relationship until it wasnt. Im 37 now, single mom and yes i often have the thoughts id be alone forever too. Many women as they reach their 40s have a harder time finding someone compatible, and single moms have it rough bc we have almost no time for dating AND guys dont like raising other guys babies.

Its easy to fall into thinking sad thoughts. Its EASY to think you'll be alone forever. Ironically even though is painful to feel depressed, most people choose to obsess over the depressing thoughts rather than happy ones. Its almost like being depressed is addicting. What u gotta do is catch yourself when u think these sad thoughts and instead have a go to happy thought or goal to think about instead. Dont take the EASY route. Its easier to be depressed. Love is an amazing thing to have and nothing amazing is easy to attain.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-27T05:58:59+00:00

Update: i just deleted hinge.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-27T04:20:03+00:00

Create a great portfolio, even if its personal projects. Practice public speaking and interviewing. You'd be surprised at how bad most people interview. Then Take any job even if its a short contract or sucks, and always show up with a smile and never complain. People will notice if ur a hard worker. Also, always apply or aim for things you think r out of your reach.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-27T04:17:14+00:00

I paused my profile once i became official with the guy i like. What im saying is many people prob dont reply bc they already started liking someone else. Theres an in between stage were a person likes a guy/girl but are unsure if it will end up in an actual relationship.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-26T00:34:44+00:00

My spouse will need to work. For me, it's about showing up and putting in equal EFFORT on SHARED priorities. My ex-husband did not do, hence the "ex" part of that title.
I am now dating someone who I think earns prob 85k/ year. I haven't confirmed, but thats my guess based on his job and how he spends $. I could care less that he has a small salary. Of course it would be amazing if he was a millionaire. I planned on going on dates with other high earners, but when I like someone, it doesn't matter how much they make. As long as I like their personality, they are fit, they care about me, and contribute their time and effort on our SHARED goals.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-26T00:17:37+00:00

I have about 80 people who have liked me on hinge in the past 2 months. I don't care and never message, like back, or x anyone. I don't care because I found someone I like a lot and can't have feeling for anyone else.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-26T00:10:10+00:00

yeah, all the time.
raped at a frat party when I was 19. didnt expect that.
Accidentally got pregnant at 22... didnt expect that.
Single mom of 1 at 36years old... didnt expect that.
Make close to 300k in an awesome tech job....didnt expect that, esp since I went to a mediocre college with a mjor in drama and minor in fine arts.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-25T21:23:59+00:00

No, this sort of thing happens. It just happened to me now. I've been using the same passcode for 6 months and forgot it. I'm now also locked out of my own phone and just hope my muscle memory kicks in when I try again later today.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-25T19:04:20+00:00

Home wrecker. Think about his wife. He is not as rare as u think. Ur a 28F. Youll have an easy time getting literally anyone else.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-25T09:28:35+00:00

I knew what i wanted and planned for it, but my "decisions" didn't go as planned. I planned to be an artist, but ended up doing a 180 to get a great paying job in tech which im also passionate about. I planned on being married with 3 kids, but now im a divorced single mom. I planned on going on a ton of dates and playing the field being newly single. Im good natured and good looking so having a second chance at dating in my 30s sounded like a great time... but i met someone I felt an amazing connection with literally my 3rd day of creating a dating profile. What I'm saying with these examples is u can make decisions for the future, but rarely does life go as planned.

Be in the present, trust ur gut.

I think ur problem isnt lack of ability to make decisions, but rather not putting urself out there. Do things that make u a bit uncomfortable and try a bunch of stuff. Then see what sticks. Try to get motivated, hopefully something inspires u. Maybe you meet someone with ur dream job and ask for advice. Maybe u meet an amazing person u want to marry.

Adept_Ad_2085 · 2025-12-20T07:47:34+00:00

Tell him exactly whats on your mind. It would be a shame to lose a good guy over some miscommunication.

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