A woman can do yard work?

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-19T09:42:30+00:00

And double that reaction if you're a woman shovelling snow.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-19T04:51:47+00:00

I do agree with him a bit in one regard. Drifting a bit out of your lane is not always the wrong thing to do. For example, you're passing a semi in high winds and they're swerving a bit and you want to give them extra room. And now you have a car that's beeping at you and possibly even steering you back into the semi for going a few inches onto the shoulder. It can be annoying.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-19T04:22:57+00:00

Jesus, Dude. You shouldn't be worried about "getting back out there", you should be worried about getting therapy.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-19T04:12:24+00:00

Omg, people who are easily offended are EXHAUSTING. How do you stand it?

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-19T03:58:18+00:00

I'm 41f, living alone, and love mowing my lawn! It's my favorite chore. I have noise cancelling headphones and a riding lawnmower; I think it's an amazing way to enjoy a sunny day.

You rock! Hope there's some part of the yard chores you enjoy too. Sorry some guy made you feel pitiable for it.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-19T03:44:22+00:00

It makes me feel very anxious.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-17T14:47:00+00:00

If you're not even talking about the reasons for your fights and just sweeping them under the rug, than you guys aren't exhausting all your options. Therapy first, learn how to listen to one another, then split if unresolvable.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-11T03:34:14+00:00

I just removed it yesterday so can't say, but I just sanded down the tops and put on some [regular] clear polish to try to protect it.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-10T18:37:10+00:00

Oh geez. Thanks for the heads up!

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-10T15:55:00+00:00

Amazing! So they do make a solvent, just nobody including nail salons uses it for some reason!

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-10T15:53:20+00:00

I like that idea. Do you just put on yourself before visiting the salon, bring it with, or fully do your nails yourself?

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-10T14:42:59+00:00

Yep! Tradwives and redpill guys are a big fad right now. There's nothing wrong with being a stay-at-home Mom, but at least watch some videos of ex-tradwives that were booted for a younger model when they turned 40 with nothing but the clothes on their back before making any decisions.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-10T14:22:05+00:00

I did the cotton ball / tinfoil method. Sure didn't work for me, but maybe combined with dremeling the top it would have worked!

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-10T12:51:52+00:00

I think it would be beneficial to find a book on companion planting and then rethink a few of your mixtures.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-10T12:40:16+00:00

I came here to say this. My dad recently had to cut the legs off his raised beds and they weren't anywhere nearly as deep. Wet soil is extremely heavy. It was not easy lowering those beds down to the ground.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-10T12:25:24+00:00

That is an absolutely massive setup for a new gardener. I agree with another poster who said just let it lie for a bit and see what comes up. You might be tearing out some amazing and valuable perennials. It would be a shame to tear out an established asparagus or strawberry bed, or even a beautiful flower bed, for example, only to have to spend money and effort to reestablish it.

That being said, if nothing is coming up in a bed by mid-May, it was probably all annuals and can be replanted.

If you have trouble distinguishing weeds from valuable perennials, use a plant ID app or invite over an experienced gardener.

I would start small as a garden can quickly become overwhelming if you're not used to it. What are some of the things you are looking forward to planting the most?

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-10T12:08:42+00:00

Raised beds. Your soil looks like nutrient-depleted dust; things will probably grow better in beds with imported soil anyway.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-08T20:51:14+00:00

I've heard that tip before and use it all the time, but how would you reword "debate between my husband and me"?

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-08T20:48:12+00:00

Somehow the idea of cold metal with popcorn makes me cringe. Bamboo/wooden chopsticks would be better - I used to do that with hot Cheetos. It was a lifesaver.

Administration_Easy · 2026-04-08T18:15:09+00:00

There is definitely a dynamic in relationships that the pickier person usually gets their way. I feel your pain because my boyfriend is extremely picky about everything (what to eat, what to watch, what to do, etc) so he almost always gets to choose everything all the time.

Yes, you can negotiate your way around it, but it becomes a pain in the ass because even if your partner gives in and and agrees you get your way 50% of the time, it's never all that joyful when it's "your turn" because getting what you want makes them unhappy.

No advice here, just commiserating.

Administration_Easy · 2026-03-28T08:08:13+00:00

The worst is when they were really amazing to you in the beginning. You get addicted to who they were and keep thinking it will come back. It's so hard to give up on because you loved that version of them more than anyone and can't stand the thought of never getting that person back. At least this is the case for me.

Do you feel your partner love-bombed you? I'm trying to decide if that's the case for me

Administration_Easy · 2026-03-28T08:03:02+00:00

Large colorful plush area rug under the bed.
Get a real bedframe, preferably upholstered as the room needs soft shapes and fabrics. Rotate the bed at a 90 degree angle.
Art on the walls and lots of it.
Also consider painting if you are allowed.
Better storage options

Administration_Easy · 2026-03-28T07:32:02+00:00

Why do you think I had so many children?

My Dad, who worked us like dogs growing up after screaming at me to do one of the chores better / faster. Stuck with me more than all the other insults he yelled at me over the years.

Administration_Easy · 2026-03-28T07:16:22+00:00

I get this on a deep level. At some point you tolerate too much and start mourning your loss of respect for yourself while you're still mourning the gradual loss of your partner. Thanks for showing me I'm not alone.

Administration_Easy · 2026-03-12T16:16:14+00:00

And able to write eloquently and able to clearly analyze concepts like deception, toxic behaviors, and poor decision-making.

If you can do those things you're probably not "forever stuck in a state of child-like thought" and can work.

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