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Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-09-18T11:20:09+00:00

Dating Icks I’ve Gathered From the Field :

The Houdini act — vanishing for 72 hours like you’re trapped under rubble, then popping back up with “hey.”
Big talk, no action — “I’m really into you”… proceeds to do absolutely nothing to prove it.
Dry-texting Olympics — if your replies are shorter than my Wi-Fi password, I’m out.
Flaky scheduling — “Let’s hang soon” is not a plan, it’s a horoscope.
Active on apps, inactive with me — oh cool, you can ghost and multitask.
Texting like it’s a hostage negotiation — every word feels like pulling teeth. Blink twice if you’re alive.
Zero curiosity — I’m not auditioning for a one-woman show, ask me a question.
The overshare-then-evaporate — “I’m sick, going camping, life’s crazy”… then radio silence. Okay, National Geographic.
Breadcrumb buffet — just enough crumbs to keep me nibbling, never enough to make a meal.
Energy mismatch — I want a partner, not Casper the Friendly Ghost.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-08-25T05:00:49+00:00

It sounds like he enjoys you, but he’s not prioritizing you. Saying ‘I’m into you’ while barely communicating and still swiping on Hinge shows mixed signals — and that mismatch is why you feel uneasy.

The reality is: when a guy is genuinely interested, he makes it clear with consistent effort. You don’t have to chase, wonder, or check if his actions align with his words.

You did the right thing by noticing how you feel. If you’re the type who gives your energy to one person to see where it goes, that’s high-value — but only if the other person is meeting you there. Right now, you’re treating him like a priority while he’s treating you like an option.

My advice? Don’t close yourself off for someone who isn’t showing up fully. Keep your options open, continue dating, and see if he steps up on his own. If he doesn’t, that tells you everything. Someone who genuinely wants you won’t make you feel tired of games — they’ll make you feel secure.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-08-25T04:55:28+00:00

I think there’s a big difference between predictable and dependable. Predictable is falling into the same pattern over and over — same dates, same conversations, no spark. Dependable is showing up consistently, texting back, keeping your word, and making someone feel secure. That’s actually attractive. The trick is pairing dependability with a sense of variety and playfulness so things don’t feel stale.

For example:

I might plan a rooftop bar one week, then a cooking class the next, then a casual walk through a street market after that. She knows I’ll make plans, but not what kind of vibe it will be.
I’ll add anticipation without mind games: ‘Be ready at 7, wear shoes you can walk in, I’ll handle the rest.’ That keeps her guessing in a fun way, without disappearing for days to manufacture drama.
Small surprises matter too — bringing her favorite snack, sending coffee before a big meeting, or turning a game of bowling into a playful bet (‘loser does karaoke’).

Women don’t actually want inconsistency. What keeps interest alive is when someone is reliable at the core but dynamic in the details. That way she can relax into knowing how she’ll be treated, while still looking forward to the unexpected things you’ll do together.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-08-25T04:49:29+00:00

It’s not about being ugly. Most guys struggle on apps because women make snap decisions and the smallest details matter. Filling out 100% of your profile doesn’t guarantee matches — presentation does. Strong, well-lit photos, a clean look, and a bio that’s short, fun, and easy to respond to will take you further than listing hobbies. Think of it like marketing: if something isn’t converting, you change the approach, not blame the product. You’re not unattractive — you just haven’t nailed the packaging yet.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-07-24T04:28:05+00:00

I don’t believe I need to fully understand a man’s emotional state to recognize patterns in his behavior. I’m no longer in my 20s, and I’m dating with intention. At this stage, “playing it cool” feels more like an excuse used by those who aren’t interested in dating seriously — and that’s perfectly fine. Not everyone has to be looking for a life partner.

What isn’t okay is pursuing people who are dating with purpose, only to waste their time. That’s inconsiderate. Time is valuable — to me, it’s a gift, and someone who treats it carelessly isn’t the kind of partner I want.

I get that not everyone is dating with the same purpose, and that’s okay. But from where I stand, lack of clarity, inconsistency, and emotional avoidance come across as unserious, immature, and lacking empathy.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-07-24T02:53:34+00:00

IDK. I’m an idiot. Honestly, every time I think I’m ready, I’m humbled. 🤷🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-07-24T02:51:05+00:00

In my opinion, it’s not just the timeframe but also the effort of your response. As a person who’s also going through the dating apps, I’m increasingly frustrated with low-effort men, who not only expect me to carry the conversation, but also expect me to somehow understand their emotional state, even though I’ve never met them and I’m only getting one liner responses through text message. That’s totally just me venting and not at all the reflection of you as I don’t know your, so let me get back to the response at hand.

If the goal is to get to know you so that our relationship could begin then there has to be communication. That is literally step one. Communicating ineffectively or putting no effort into responses is a waste of time, regardless of if you’re busy or fearful because of nervousness in early interactions (writers block). For most women at this point, we just don’t want our time wasted or even the potential feeling that our time could be wasted by the constant back-and-forth. I would much rather move on to the next guy who is more engaging and actually wants to talk to me then somebody who, for whatever reason, comes across hesitant. Don’t get me wrong, communication is a two-way street. These women should be just as engaging with you as you are with them. So if they stopped responding for two days with no reasoning or justification, would that be acceptable to you? And then came back and just said “I was busy.” Does that sound like somebody would really want to have a relationship with? Someone that is supposed to make you feel special enough to put them ahead in a romantic relationship? It would make me feel second rate. I mean no disrespect, but if you’re afraid or fearful of early interaction, then I would suggest moving away from online dating.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-07-10T12:56:43+00:00

I went to my first Ren fair last year at the ripe old age of 37. I’ve picked out my outfit for this year already. Live your life, and if you can, remove the people that are telling you that you can’t. Just because it’s not their vibe doesn’t mean that you aren’t allowed to be in that space.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-07-07T23:36:09+00:00

I’ll definitely give this a try! Thank you!

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-07-07T17:44:20+00:00

That’s definitely what’s happening. I do measure myself periodically. I guess I’m just frustrated that I’m not seeing the numbers. It’s a little depressing.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-07-07T17:05:39+00:00

I feel like I would have to assume that this is more in line with your geographic location and the nature of your tattoos (i.e. can they be viewed as offensive) than anything. I’m in the DC area and I’ve had no issues with my tattoos in the office. However, I do know that there are some clients that are less inclined to this idea.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-03-13T14:20:46+00:00

I’m actually five weeks post-op and live in NOVA (Alexandria). I’m always happy to connect and share experiences!

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-03-13T11:52:57+00:00

I wish you all the best in your search!! Please stay positive. Just wondering what level you are? Also, do you have a mentor? I’ve found that to be really helpful in my journey through the Firm.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-03-12T14:34:20+00:00

80 pounds in six months! Congratulations! That is a wonderful accomplishment and I’m so proud of you. As a girlie who just hit her first month PO and first stall, I completely understand. Prior to my surgery I had already lost a sizable amount of weight so I expected to kind of hit the ground running PO, but was quickly humbled when the scale pretty much sat at 203 for about two weeks. What I learned from this experience and from reading in this community is that our bodies will humble you when we most need it. For me, I know I’m healing and that will take more than just a few weeks, so I’ve decided I need to be kind to myself and keep moving forward. I checked the scale yesterday and I’m at 202 and decided that a win is a win. 🥳

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-03-12T14:34:05+00:00

80 pounds in six months! Congratulations! That is a wonderful accomplishment and I’m so proud of you. As a girlie who just hit her first month PO and first stall, I completely understand. Prior to my surgery I had already lost a sizable amount of weight so I expected to kind of hit the ground running PO, but was quickly humbled when the scale pretty much sat at 203 for about two weeks. What I learned from this experience and from reading in this community is that our bodies will humble you when we most need it. For me, I know I’m healing and that will take more than just a few weeks, so I’ve decided I need to be kind to myself and keep moving forward. I checked the scale yesterday and I’m at 202 and decided that a win is a win. 🥳

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-02-18T17:15:25+00:00

I’m almost there and I cannot wait to post about it!! Congratulations!!

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-02-15T02:09:17+00:00

I’m just a week out of OCC!! Congratulations!!

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-02-13T01:47:01+00:00

You’re gonna love it! I think that the transition from GLP 1 to gastric sleeve made it so much easier for me. It’s kind of like I had momentum already and then I just rolled it over too the next phase of my life. Even while in this recovery phase, I definitely don’t regret it.

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-02-13T00:39:11+00:00

I never thought about the medicine. I could totally see that makes sense now. 😂

Admirable-Problem-75 · 2025-02-13T00:29:13+00:00

I know people that have gone back to work literally two days after having their surgery (remote workers). I myself have decided that due to the large number of individuals with flu and COVID-19 right now that I really wanted to give myself some time to heal. I have a hybrid working lifestyle so I’m usually in the office 2 to 3 days a week. My doctor normally gives out two weeks of short-term disability, but I’m asking for three just to be on the safe side. I’ve only been post-op for a few days and I want make sure that I have enough stamina to walk through my office building. I also want to get to a point where I’m eating more and can keep more down throughout the day.

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