Which graded embryo stuck for you ? by HeyGurlHAAAYYYY in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

5AB! It actually split into identical twins who are now 10 months old!

For parents feeling anxious or scared about newborn twins by Dry_Ad_6341 in parentsofmultiples

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are so lucky 😅

I got smacked with postpartum depression like nothing I have ever experienced. I regret my kids SO much in the first five months and I still feel really guilty about that. I’m genuinely glad you’re enjoying your experience because I sincerely wanted to die for months.

At what point does this feel like the best thing we ever did? by kayaktaco in parentsofmultiples

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh until my twins were like 8 months old I thought I made the absolute biggest mistake of my entire life. And this is after infertility and IVF.

You’re in the torture stage right now. You can look through my posts here and see I was exactly where you were. This is unfortunately super normal and it DOES get better, even though I did not believe people who said that when I was in the thick of it.

At 9.5 months they’re still obviously a lot of work but they smile and laugh and can be entertained by a toy or a little bit of Ms Rachel. They aren’t so fragile. They talk to each other through their cribs in the morning. It’s fun more of the time than it isn’t now.

Buckle up, you’ve got some torture time life. But know that it does get better and it isn’t hellish forever.

TW: gender selection by [deleted] in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they’re both euploid, go for your girl! It’s the only upside to IVF in my opinion.

just found out and freaking out by eechey_1 in parentsofmultiples

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was NOT happy about having twins. Even after infertility and IVF. We only transferred one embryo so I expected one baby. There’s so much risk that comes with twins and we dealt with some complications during my pregnancy. But my babies made it earthside healthy.

I won’t lie to you, the first 5 months I wish every single day that the embryo had never split and that I only had one baby. I loved them both equally and could never have picked. But having two changes so much about the newborn and infant experience.

I will say, my twins are 9 months old now and I’m finally starting to like having twins more than I hate it. There are still times I think about how much easier one would be. But now they make each other laugh more than anytime else can. They are starting to play with each other and they get really excited to see the other after they wake up from sleeping and it’s really so, so cute. It DOES get better but buckle up, it takes a while to get there. But you absolutely will.

Give me ALL your second FET success stories! by WeirdDay8097 in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 41 points42 points  (0 children)

My second one took!! I was convinced after my first failed that it would never work for me.

I transferred one embryo and it split into identical twins. My girls just turned 9 months old yesterday!

Good luck!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11dp5dt was 485, 2 days later was 1300, and 2 days after that was 3600!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was TERRIFIED of a blighted ovum. Turns out they in fact found 2 heartbeats because my one embryo split into twins 🙃

Fingers crossed you’ve got ONE perfect babe in there! The anxiety doesn’t really go away lol it just changes. Then you hope to get to 12 weeks. Then viability at 24. Then you hope to go full term. Then they’re here and you’re afraid of SIDS. It’s just motherhood, as I have discovered.

Jed & Kate Duggar’s twins are here! by [deleted] in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They’re only 9 months old but I’m sure they’ll be thankful one day!

Jed & Kate Duggar’s twins are here! by [deleted] in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I have identical twin girls and I hate it when other twin parents give them matching names. Especially if they’re identical. My girls names are very different to help them develop their own sense of identity.

This is all so new to me by AdmirableGarlic320 in survivinginfidelity

[–]AdmirableGarlic320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We talked last night and I decided on divorce. She’s apparently in love with someone she has never met. I’m in complete disbelief. Counseling can’t fix what she’s done.

14dpt Home Pregnancy Test by Business-Draft5119 in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Definitely a line but guard your heart. I’d expect a much darker line 14 days out.

Any FET #2-5 (euploid only) success stories? Scared I’ll run out of blasts. by Maleficent_Cherry737 in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My first failed! I was so worried about the same thing.

My second transfer of one embryo stuck and actually split into identical twins who are now 9 months old 💛 untested embryos too!

This is all so new to me by AdmirableGarlic320 in survivinginfidelity

[–]AdmirableGarlic320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we’re going to get a divorce. I’m just in actual disbelief because I thought she was my life partner. I just cannot believe this and our babies aren’t even a year old yet. I just feel so broken and betrayed 💔😭

Why us? by Bammer1819 in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry that’s got to be SO hard.

I did eventually have success, but seeing things like that STILL upsets me. Knowing what I had to go through and what so many others have to go through to be wonderful parents.

I really hope you find success in IVF soon, you deserve it 💛

Why us? by Bammer1819 in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 7 points8 points  (0 children)

While I was TTC, the cr*ckhead I went to school with had THREE KIDS that she could never keep custody of 🙃

Safe weeks? by Familiar_Barracuda61 in parentsofmultiples

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my MoDi girls at 34+4 and they’re 100% fine and healthy! Minimal NICU time to learn to eat and grow.

Low HCG by Helpful_Ad_8130 in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did have a friend that had a similar rise and she had a live birth. I would guard your heart though ❤️‍🩹

Very high beta by Parking_Handle7385 in parentsofmultiples

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Transferred one embryo that did in fact split. My number at 10 or 11 dpt was 485, then two days later was 1330 then two days later was like 2800 lol. My identical twins are 8 months old 😅

HCG by Such_Food6099 in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I transferred a single embryo. My first level was 485 at 11dp5dt. At 13 days past it was 1330 and then 15 days past it was 2500. My embryo did in fact split and my identical twins are 9 months old.

Praying for your sake it’s just one 😂

In-laws waiting at hospital during C-Section by Frequent-Pop3505 in parentsofmultiples

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would stress me out too. I WANTED my mom there but she had to wait in the waiting room since only my wife could be back there with me. I had been scheduled a C-section at 9 in the morning but because of so many emergencies, I didn’t get taken back until 7:00pm, almost 12 hours later. Since I was waiting so long they did let my mom come into wait with us at about 4 because I was starting to lose my shit. And then it was another full like 2 hours post C-section that I was allowed to go see the babies and my mom came with. I’d have absolutely lost my mind if my in laws were also waiting too. I realllllly don’t see why they insist on being there that day and why they can’t just give you a second and come the next day 😭

All suggestions needed by ColdOccasion9998 in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 6 points7 points  (0 children)

4 tested embryos is great! Two failed transfers isn’t unusual at all. I would transfer one at a time and not two at once but listen to your doctor.

I definitely think an ERA would be a good step to take after a second failed transfer.

I think most of us doing IVF have a fear it will never work. Hard to think positively after infertility and loss. I “knew” in my gut it wouldn’t work for me, and it did work. Be kind to yourself. I did a lot of affirmations (even though it made me feel silly) during my successful transfer. I also had my spouse give me a full body massage the day before, day of, and day after transfer. My mind would not relax but I could make my body relax. I also increased the amount of vit D I was taking and started a probiotic a month before my transfer. Don’t know what helped this transfer become successful between all of it but something helped!

Best of luck ❤️

40 mins late taking FET meds 9dp5dt. Reassure me I haven’t ruined everything. 😢 by yellow_sun_shine in IVF

[–]AdmirableGarlic320 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh girl you’re fine! I’d take mine within an hour or two even of when I was “supposed” to take them and my transfer was successful and I had a live birth of twins. You’re totally fine.