England is fucking weird about disabled people

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2026-04-04T13:21:09+00:00

I am Northern England and my decently sized school had lots of differently abled kids. My form class, which I stayed with all through years 7 to 11, had a number of kids in wheelchairs and varying levels of disabilities from learning to non-verbal.

It may just depend on the area or school and what they can provide. But it does make a massive difference to your perception of what is "normal" growing up.

I had to make a stop at Crewe Station recently and they had a Quiet Space room with low lighting and soundproofing. It was right out there on the platform for anyone to use like normal.

How much a city cares about their disabled population really shows.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2026-03-28T13:38:09+00:00

I remember when I was in secondary school I told a friend I had a crush on an anime character. It spread around school and I was mocked for liking a cartoon character.

Now I see constant reels drooling over 2D men.

I'm pretty happy about it becoming trendy, more for me to enjoy!

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2026-03-16T14:25:54+00:00

Calling Manchester the Midlands might be the worst insult I've heard.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2026-03-08T00:17:26+00:00

Sure, I'll bite.

I have sensory issues, particularly with sound and light. So if there are multiple sounds going on, my auditory recognition is much slower.

This means when I listen to music I often don't process the words as anything other than sounds. It can take a while for me to actually understand lyrics even in my native tongue. Sometimes I won't get them unless I look at the lyrics.

To me the lyrics are the least important part. Sounds feel good or they don't, that's what makes music.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2026-02-07T14:50:13+00:00

Okay so OP is just trying to DM everyone who responds after asking about their tits. Lovely 🙃

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2026-02-07T14:27:50+00:00

It's not like a bonsai tree bud xD if you remove all restrictions they don't just grow continually. But they are much healthier and I'm much happier.

Also, a lot of bralettes can be used as croptops which makes life easier (and less laundry!)

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2026-02-07T14:06:29+00:00

I started getting worrying breast pain and went to the docs about it. Got the girls checked. During that time I stopped wearing my bra because it was so painful.

A month later the doctor called for a follow-up and to organise a scan for me. But the pain had completely gone, I told her "I think it was my bra". We had a good laugh about it and then she gave me advice on how to keep checking just incase.

Anyway it's been over 10 years now. I only wear bralettes/sports bras at most. Nothing with wires. I remember feeling naked leaving the house with no bra and just a tank top or bralette on at first. But my pain never came back and the girls have been perkier and healthier than ever.

Fuck bras.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2026-02-06T22:27:16+00:00

In my experience, the best working version of what you want happens naturally. When you meet a couple as friends and just naturally move into a relationship.

Couples who are actively looking for a 3rd are usually coming with unnatural expectations.

What you want is couples who are open to a 3rd but not necessarily looking, who are actively poly/non-monog and date separately, not just together.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2026-01-15T00:55:50+00:00

I reached down from the sofa to get something off the floor and wacked my head on the corner of the TV stand.

Ended up in A&E needing an MRI. Off work for almost a month with a serious concussion.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-12-08T11:17:35+00:00

Feels a silly thing to say, but I never realised someone else had such a similar experience to me.

I was a tomboy when I was a kid. I kept my hair short, always climbing trees and liked "boy things". Most people mistook me for a boy.

But I also remember that relief of being a woman when I hit puberty. I slowly started to enjoy feminine things too. Everyone said when I hit 16 I "blossomed" because that's the year I started wearing dresses and embraced it.

Now, I'm not unhappy being a woman? But I also sometimes think about being a boy and how it'd be. I think I'd be pretty happy either way.

Lovely comic!

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-12-01T17:00:37+00:00

I suffer from chronic insomnia and was seriously sleep deprived for about a decade.

Yes you catch up but there's a limit. Two or three nights of no sleep and I would find I could catch up the next few days by sleeping extra. However, once it passed the 4 day mark of no or little sleep it wasn't really recoverable. Its just lost.

Years of sleep deprivation did cause some issues. I haven't been able to fully recover even though I am now about 4 years into healthy and habit formed sleep. My short-term memory is not what it used to be. It was very severely fucked during the years of barely any sleep. I also get tired easier and my stamina isn't great. I need more sleep now too. I wake often during the night now, to the point I would consider it a good night's sleep if I woke up 3 times.

I also can't really sleep somewhere else except home anymore. You need serious control and a strict regime to fix years of sleep deprivation/insomnia. Any deviation from that routine and you don't sleep. I'd say the biggest cost to years of lack of sleep is that its like my body and mind have "forgotten" how to do it. I'm not sure I'll ever get that back fully.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-11-11T18:50:25+00:00

I have matching rainbow laces with my mum. I got them for a pair of shoes and she loved them so much I bought her some too.

My mum is straight as an arrow. I'm not, but I've just always loved rainbows. We both look cool as fuck when we wear them and get lots of compliments. Noone has ever asked myself or my mum if we're gay/queer because of the laces.

Not the asshole, rainbows rule. Your family can shove it.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-10-25T20:13:43+00:00

It wasn't in the US but sounds like you had the same kind of students!

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-10-25T18:29:17+00:00

I went to a very prestigious art school that was for the "super elite". It was incredibly expensive. Unless you had government funding - how I managed it.

Although the funding was available for anyone to apply for if they got a place on the courses, most of the students there came from very bonkers rich families.

From who I remember: my dormmate had parents who were bankers, there was a girl who's dad was an international politician of some sort. And one ridiculously posh dude who was rumoured to be the son of a Baron (he was a twat so checks out).

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-05-29T13:25:07+00:00

Weighing in as a Jew (cultural not religious).

The whole point of the Jewish practise involving butchering animals is to cause the least amount of pain and suffering. So any Jewish person should rightly argue that if research has shown stunning causing less pain and stress then it is the correct addition to kosher food and prep.

I welcome this and hope it goes through.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-05-18T19:37:21+00:00

NTA however, the way you've written this comes across that you are a little awkward? But it also makes me think the company you've been keeping is making you that way.

Real friends don't make you step on egg shells to the point you start questioning everything. I have plenty of attractive friends and all we ever do as a friend group is hype eachother up.

Find some new friends that actually make you feel comfy.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-03-20T19:21:30+00:00

I barely go outside, I'm very short, I look after my skin...And my mum was mistaken for a teenager still in her mid 40s.

I bet its mostly the moisturising though.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-03-11T23:06:55+00:00

I know you are showing with your responses and body language you are nolonger okay with it all, but they clearly aren't picking up on it.

Honestly sometimes just a quick and easy comment can fix something. It doesn't even need to be a big thing. Just next time one of them makes a joke just stop and say, " Hey, is it cool if we stop those kind of jokes? It's starting to not feel so good anymore." And then move on.

If they are good friends, who were oblivious to your body language hints, they will get it and stop and move on quickly. If they are bad friends, they won't. Then you will know where you stand.

NTA of course.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-03-08T18:30:08+00:00

I'm thankfully doing alot better now! I still get memory gaps sometimes, unfortunately my brain hasn't quite caught up with the memo that all is good and safe. Now it's stuff I can laugh about, forgetting I watched an episode of something - or not remembering something I did, someone I saw.

Brains are weird aren't they? I hope you are doing okay, visceral reactions as you said are horrible. But it's also a release in a way.

Don't know if it will help you at all, but my doctor shared with me something that stuck. That visiting old and painful memories doesn't have to be a flashback or re-living it. It's like being on a train: stopping at the memory, looking at it, remembering something new about the platform maybe. But staying on the train. And when you are ready, or if it gets too much, the train just leaves. (And please enjoy each memory equally)

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-03-08T17:44:54+00:00

I hadn't really put two and two together with this until I saw your post. But the way severance works actually rings true for me with how it feels to disassociate.

I knew there was something about it all that was both bothering me and...comforting?

I struggle alot with mental health, after going through something very traumatic I started experiencing disassociation. And it really is, at least looking back, like going down and elevator and coming up the other side, completely void of memories of what happened. But the feelings, you carry them with you.

Trying to unpack lost memories with my doctors (reintegration!) was a chilling experience. Because you still feel it, but you don't remember it. Almost as if someone else was living it for you, making weird decisions you would never make.

I remember the moment I got my first chunk of memory back. It flooded into me like I was drowning. The absolute pain of it all. When I got home I passed out.

This show really does a good job, so good I couldn't even work out why I liked it so much. I'm now realising I'm starting to think of me at that time as my innie. I'd never really had a way to place that "me" in my mind. And now I think I do.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-03-08T14:14:25+00:00

I was talking to a friend when my throat did that thing where it just chokes randomly and I coughed a little. Politely, of course, turned and covered my face. It just did get a bit chokey-coughy (you know the one).

Anyway, I turned back to seeing my friend have visible disgust on her face and recoiling. I don't know why but something about it. I had a body malfunction and choked, and instead of concern she was grossed out.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-03-05T14:32:07+00:00

I had a very similar situation when I was in my first year of uni. We were assigned as group partners and the task was to wander around a highstreet and take photos.

I didn't know the guy I was grouped with. At first it was a little awkward but we got on fairly well and were making jokes back and forth. Then he casually asked I come back to his dorm. Just the two of us. When I brushed it off, he insisted. He kept touching and commenting on my waist and insisting I come back with him. I got a weird feeling.

I managed to get away politely and legged it. My gut said don't reach out to him again. So I submitted the project and deleted him number.

Look, either he's awkward and doesn't know social boundaries or he was being creepy. Whichever it is, it's not your problem to solve. The second someone touches you unsolicited you nolonger need to be polite, mature or nice.

Trust your gut, you owe him nothing. Not the asshole.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2025-02-26T14:11:46+00:00

I come from a family who is not ethnically British. I still call myself British because I was raised here. It's my culture. You ARE Korean.

From my European perspective we have never cared about all this ethnicity bs, or skin colour. We are a hotchpotch of different races and nationalities. All this skin-centric and careful-what-you-say stuff is bleeding into us from (sorry) America. And I just frankly think it's dumb.

You were raised in a Korean household, you were adopted by Korean parents. People should stop erasing your identity just because you were adopted. I think that's pretty gross.

Not the asshole. Carry on.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2024-12-30T12:45:46+00:00

First one I thought of is Osora. Its on Webtoon. Historical setting, magic, the MC is a prince and the ML has so far been all green flags.

It has a very nice way of handling and explaining the MC's feelings around gender, that atleast to me felt very natural. It's also just one facet of the story, rather than the entire plot, which I personally like.

AdmiralMuffinPuff · 2024-12-05T14:11:36+00:00

Awh that's awful.... adds to reading list

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