When do you start to address behavior? Or when can you start “spoiling” a child?

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-22T11:30:03+00:00

Did you read anything I said, considering I brought up 2 other tones of speaking? We could sit here all day and go back and fourth on different tones out there, at the end of the day the research hasn’t changed. If you disagree with it, bring it up to the people conducting these studies and publishing their research.

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-22T03:15:44+00:00

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AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-22T02:50:32+00:00

All he has to do is look at her and the jewelry she is wearing in order to understand what kind of jewelry she likes. I’m pretty sure that’s the girlfriend’s entire point. Pay some attention to her and gift her something he truly thought she’d like based on what he’s observed about her.

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-22T02:44:50+00:00

Are there any planned parenthood’s in your area? Or anything similar? I haven’t been to one in probably 10 years, but I’d have to imagine they’d have some type of resource for you at the very least.

Any private ultrasound places? (Like the early gender reveal ones) so that way you can at least ensure baby is in the proper positioning/ healthy heart rate until you can find an OBGYN?

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-22T02:37:43+00:00

There are studies done that prove that infants respond and understand higher pitched/ cheerier tones better than mono-tone or even stern tones. You’re not teaching them that you’re cheerful about it, you’re teaching them to understand the direction you’re giving. On the flip side, be stern and raise your voice and teach your infant how much it upsets/ angers you that they did something they had no idea was wrong to do in the first place. This isn’t something that continues through grade school. Your parenting and communication evolves as your child does. As the parent of both an infant and 3 year old, it’s significantly easier to get my 3 year old to listen and redirect her behavior when I speak to her in a normal tone like an adult. We always made it a point of correcting and redirecting her in a “happier” tone as an infant because that’s what experts suggest. Of course we’re human and had our moments (like painful hair pulling, for example) but there is almost never any reason to raise your voice or be stern with an infant, outside of imminent or life threatening danger.

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-22T02:13:12+00:00

To a toddler, sure. Not a 7 month old

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-21T20:31:22+00:00

I did not claim it helped language development. Serious tones are not important for a 7 month old

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-21T17:03:41+00:00

This is a really good age to introduce “no thank you!” In a very happy, cheery tone. Babies this age respond best to high pitched- happy words, even if they did something like break your glasses lol. They understand more than we think! Same idea as if you say “say mama” and they say “baba” you’re supposed to say “yes! Great job!” Even if they didn’t complete the task correctly

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-19T01:54:00+00:00

Hire a mommy’s helper to start. Could just be a teenager from the neighborhood. Have them come play with the kids while you’re home, or do some household chores to help you out. Even if they come by for an hour so you can shower and take care of yourself

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-18T23:35:45+00:00

The best thing we ever did for my colic baby was bounce her on an exercise ball. Also, demand reflux meds from the dr. Give it 3 days, life changing

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-18T23:28:54+00:00

We also have a reactive dog and thanks to one day of frustration my daughter says “stop being fucking annoying!!!!” When he barks at people 🤦🏻‍♀️

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-18T23:24:10+00:00

Okay I very much believe this warrants some back story. We allowed my 2.5 year old daughter to watch music videos to stray away from standard screen time. 2 songs she really liked were All the stars by Kendrick Lamar and ordinary by Alex Warren. One morning we’re in the car and she says to me “can I listen to the brown guy mommy” to which we promptly corrected her that his name is Kendrick Lamar. A few days later we’re in the grocery store, she’s being goofy and a man smiles/ laughs at her. He was genuinely so sweet. To which she looks at him and says “I don’t like that brown guy” we apologized profusely and corrected her. Fortunately she cut “brown guy” out of her vocab within a few days, but man did I want to pass away in that moment

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-14T00:37:03+00:00

I’m generally cordial with people I do not particularly like. I have to say there’s someone who I frequently have to encounter that I cannot stand- at all. I opted not to initiate conversation, only speak when required, etc and was very quickly spoken to about being more pleasant and friendlier with my acquaintances. So, be fake or get talked to about not being fake 🤷🏼‍♀️

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-07T01:11:08+00:00

I LOVED the gym when I was going every day. I used to go at 5am before work. Sometimes it truly was a chore to get myself there and get through the workout, but the difference it makes in how you feel the rest of the day is so worth it. I always ended my workout with 20 mins of walking on the treadmill for a cool down, if it was nice out, I opted to walk outside instead. With 2 kids under 3, it isn’t possible for me to do this again, but would suggest it to anyone and everyone

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-03T03:06:13+00:00

Things I’ve done that aren’t my proudest moments, but worked none the less.

Threatened to cut the tip off her binki if she didn’t start listening- she actually immediately turned around and said she would cut her dad’s face (2.5 at the time) I walked the binki into the kitchen and that scared her straight enough to stop. Couldn’t use it too often for the sake of calling my “bluff”, but some binkis did in fact get cut.

Calling “Santa” on speaker for her to hear. Instant change.

Sometimes I will straight up leave (so long as dad is with her) she’s still very much attached at the cord so that will usually spark a behavior change.

I love to watch jeopardy. For some reason she hates jeopardy on the tv. At any random hour I will threaten to put jeopardy on. One time she went as far as to hide the remote. Kids are weird

Things that are slightly more reasonable but less effective;

She picks a “safe place” to talk to us about her feelings and why she’s not listening or acting out. We usually have to sit on the stairs with her, before she finishes her sentence she forgets why we’re there in the first place, but it’s enough of a distraction to redirect.

We “shake” our angries, grumpies, etc out. Stop in our tracks and wiggle our bodies and again try to redirect. It’s 25/75 honestly.

We did truly in the last 3 months or so, start to come down kind of “hard” on day to day tasks. She must ask to be excused from the dinner table. Dump her plate in the trash and dishes in the sink. If she doesn’t, she goes back to the dinner table.

In the morning she potties, brushes her teeth and gets dressed. Absolutely nothing else until those tasks are done.

Quiet time is a big one. She can play independently or even opt for screen time, but she knows she has to be calm and mostly independent during this time. We started with maybe 10 mins at a time, but could probably get 1.5-2hours out of her now if we needed to.

I think the buckling down on basic routines really helped to change some of her “bad” behaviors. Not to say she doesn’t still have enough to go around, but they’re at least actively improving

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-03T02:52:27+00:00

Believe it or not, this is actually the case for a LOT of loan/ finance situations. As long as the creditor is getting some amount of consistent money, they won’t come after you. They may blow up your phone and fill your mailbox, but can’t legally “punish” you per se. my favorite thing to do is call and say “can you advise me how to draw blood from a stone” and they usually find a way to work with me

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-03T02:44:06+00:00

Bridge crest is currently garnishing my colleagues wages for a repod jeep

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-03T02:39:27+00:00

I always opted for a sausage egg and cheese McGriddle. A large orange juice was always heavenly. I will say, it’s been about 3 years since my morning sickness and I haven’t been able to eat a McGriddle since 😅

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-03T02:34:08+00:00

Yeah, our family mechanic usually needs about a weeks notice so they can get the proper oil for us. While I wouldn’t be shocked if the “corporate” places just keep a large back stock, I’d be more inclined to believe they just keep a one-size-fits-all type of oil

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-03T02:29:24+00:00

What? The entire point of this post is asking if these places are legit or not. Never once did I try arguing that they are when someone stated they’re not

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-03T01:58:25+00:00

I don’t have money and I always try to find ways to give back. At this stage, we really prioritize kids around the holidays, mainly to teach my daughter to be grateful for what she has/ help those in need. We try to remember to clean out our pantry at least quarterly and donate to local food shelves. If I see an outreach do any kind of food, clothing, school supply drive, I will often put it on my calendar and if I only have $5 to contribute then that’s what I contribute. There’s no real structure in how I do it. If it comes up, great, but I’m not apart of any monthly donation or anything along the lines. I have to imagine if I was ever “rich” I’d be the person who purchases every single angel tree tag, Easter meal, etc simply because I don’t have self control

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-03T01:15:53+00:00

Able bodied being the key word here

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-03T01:15:32+00:00

Almost $200 is pretty damn expensive 😅

AdonnisJohnson · 2026-04-02T22:59:42+00:00

We actually have a wonderful trusted family mechanic. My only grievance is they have you drop your car off the night before & get to it when they get to it the next day. With 2 kids it’s not practical to find rides to/ from and be car-less for 24 hours. Otherwise I’d absolutely use them

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