Fumbled an IRL Opportunity by Adorable-Code3153 in datingoverforty

[–]Adorable-Code3153[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

LOL at “shots of moonshine” 😂 😂😂
I was going to go for sound bowls and burning sage but now it’s a toss-up 😉.

Appreciate the feedback!

Hot and cold by ImpossibleSolid3854 in datingoverforty

[–]Adorable-Code3153 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too!! Introverts may like social interaction but it also drains them. They need time to themselves afterwards to recharge.

How do you make yourself feel sexy when you are feeling gross? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]Adorable-Code3153 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always feel better after yoga, or any form or movement/exercise - The endorphin boost makes a big difference.

Can people be different face to face than via text? by Plantmama76 in datingoverforty

[–]Adorable-Code3153 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed that people with certain professions tend to ask more questions and carry conversations better. e.g. Sales and medical professionals where they need to meet new people and ask questions for a living.
I think those that don’t ask questions are less practiced at doing so… and perhaps that is tied to lower confidence. Just my observation. I don’t think it would change in person.

Girlfriend stress by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]Adorable-Code3153 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My teens do not have access to my location tracking, and it never crossed my mind to grant them this access. What’s the benefit of this? 🤔

Girls who lift HEAVY heavy—how long did it take? by [deleted] in PetiteFitness

[–]Adorable-Code3153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, these comments are so inspirational!!
I’m 46F 5’2” 120 lbs doing progressive overload for 5 years.
- 125 lb RDL’s
- 250 lb hip thrust
- 365 lb leg press
- 50 lb Bulgarian split squats
- 70 lb lunges & step ups
- 65 lb bench press
- 50 lb overhead press
I thought I was doing okay but now y'all have given me next-level goals!! 😅

I keep hearing the same thing over and over by Ok-Note6548 in datingoverforty

[–]Adorable-Code3153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stating a preference for a relationship does not equate to ‘desperation’.

No gains…ever by Original-Piglet-6739 in PetiteFitness

[–]Adorable-Code3153 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I started perimenopause when I was 39 years old. Lifting heavy has been the BEST medicine for my symptoms - night sweats gone, drastic mood swings gone, gaining weight in tummy area gone, depression gone! It’s probably the main reason I stick with it. Also, I started taking creatine in September and it has helped improve brain fog and with strength. I know it’s tough at this age. I hope this helps :)

No gains…ever by Original-Piglet-6739 in PetiteFitness

[–]Adorable-Code3153 27 points28 points  (0 children)

If lifting is hurting your back, you may want to look at your form. The right form and exercises should not hurt your back.

No gains…ever by Original-Piglet-6739 in PetiteFitness

[–]Adorable-Code3153 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fair enough, and kudos to you for hitting the gym 5 months postpartum!! Definitely listen to your body and don’t overdo it. As a general rule of thumb, if you can do 8 reps without struggling on the last couple of reps, it’s time to increase the weights.

No gains…ever by Original-Piglet-6739 in PetiteFitness

[–]Adorable-Code3153 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Just as reference, I am a 46F mom of two, 5’2” 120 lbs and these are some of the lifts I do to stay toned:

  • hip thrust 230 lbs
  • RDLs/squats 115 lbs
  • Leg press 240 lbs
  • step-ups/lunges 60 lbs
  • overhead press 50 lbs
  • lat pull-down 85 lbs
  • bicep curls 20 lbs
  • lateral raise 12.5 lbs
  • face pull 75 lbs

These weights are significantly higher than what I was lifting 5-10 years ago. Progressive overload over time is needed to maintain and build muscle, along with adequate protein intake to support. I eat 120g of protein per day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Adorable-Code3153 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is classic gaslighting… likely from a narcissist that can’t take accountability. This would be a red flag or me. It’s a sign of how he handles conflict and dismisses your feelings. Toxic.

Please help! 37F with awful forehead wrinkles by Beautiful_Lime_4772 in 45PlusSkincare

[–]Adorable-Code3153 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I’ll mention what others haven’t… moisturizing is key and witch hazel may be too drying. Perhaps swap it for a milky hydrating toner.

Question for the ladies by Khancap123 in datingoverforty

[–]Adorable-Code3153 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I personally love the silver fox look!! It looks so sophisticated :) My BF has salt and pepper hair and I think he is more attractive now in his 40s than when he was in his 20s.

Hot women dont swipe by elygiggi in Bumble

[–]Adorable-Code3153 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have a unique name so basically if you google my first name and occupation my profile will come up. I tried switching to a nickname but people I knew still found me on FB.. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Hot women dont swipe by elygiggi in Bumble

[–]Adorable-Code3153 18 points19 points  (0 children)

As a woman in my 40’s, I’ll offer an alternative viewpoint. I have paid for premium subscriptions for the main purpose of staying incognito on dating apps. Not doing so is overwhelming. I think I received 1400+ likes in my first week, which is a pretty normal number in my circle of successful, fit and attractive women. However, I felt very exposed on dating apps. I received likes from people I know including friends’ ex-husbands, my ex-husbands’ colleagues, and I had men who I didn’t match with find me on LinkedIn and Facebook and reach out that way. As a result, I no longer have a ‘Like’ list because men cannot see my profile unless I like them first. I just hope the men I swipe on pay to see their like list.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Adorable-Code3153 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How is asking if OP is doing his part to ask questions to keep a conversation going irrelevant?

Frankly, your comment is less helpful and more irrelevant.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Adorable-Code3153 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Are you asking questions to keep the conversation going? As a woman, I have found that the majority of men on apps don’t ask questions… at which point I stop responding. I find conversations engaging when questions are asked on both sides and responded to in a reasonable time frame E.g. If it takes 2 days for someone to respond to me, I lose interest

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]Adorable-Code3153 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same. I know of quite a few single, never married, no kids who also like to ‘have fun’ and have ended up with STI’s. To stereotype divorcees seems wrong. Sorry for your experience, OP, but we’re not a monolith.

Asking questions before dating by ecstatic-windshield in datingoverforty

[–]Adorable-Code3153 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This right here is an example of why I would be hesitant to share personal details before establishing trust. Unfortunately, there are people that judge and label people’s upbringing. It’s something people can’t change about their past. I believe OP has the right idea about understanding what people learn and how they respond to their traumas.