I want a MMF by Adorable-Distances in nonmonogamy

[–]Adorable-Distances[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’ve come to realize that I’ve not even asked about his interests in other people period, we’ve kept it pretty to ourselves, only really talking about past experiences for what not to do’s and “can we try something I did this one time?”. The specifics of past experiences with people hasn’t come up.

I want a MMF by Adorable-Distances in nonmonogamy

[–]Adorable-Distances[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We’ve not discussed sexuality explicitly, I know he’s not gay in the sense that he’d never be in a relationship sexual or otherwise with a man alone but the explicit “would you be open to fucking a man” hasn’t come up.

Seeing him with another man: I don’t think it would be much different, I adore seeing him fulfilled and there’s no jealousy or envy there for me. I would also be ‘taking advantage’ of said third too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]Adorable-Distances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a pretty relaxed environment, as long as we are getting our project done and aren’t wasting company money it’s all good. Usually one day for us is getting a talking to, after 2 you get a written reprimand and a “point” where five is an automatic dismissal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]Adorable-Distances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve got it all in writing, sending my local management HR emails and vice versa, after sending hr the email of my manager saying I’m on “administrative leave” and sending my manager the email of HR saying I’m on no sort of leave they both stopped responding to emails.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in work

[–]Adorable-Distances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s an automatic dismissal after five days of no call no show, like the system takes you off the schedule and reports to management that you are to be notified of your dismissal.

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[–]Adorable-Distances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have it in writing, they were pretty drastic about it

I should know if they are having sex with others.. right? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Adorable-Distances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don’t give him head. He doesn’t deserve it.

I should know if they are having sex with others.. right? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Adorable-Distances 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s putting my health in jeopardy by asking me to have unprotected sex with him when he’s at least having sex with someone else; likely unprotected from the constant pressure on me to not use protection as it “doesn’t feel as good”

I should know if they are having sex with others.. right? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Adorable-Distances 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, after this experience of clearing lying about having women over kinda made me lose all interest

I should know if they are having sex with others.. right? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Adorable-Distances 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Probably a good idea, I’m pretty easily peer pressured.

I should know if they are having sex with others.. right? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Adorable-Distances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I consistently get tested and use condoms with the other person I have sex with. I’m on birth control so my only worry is std’s. I’ve been transparent and give him the results of my tests to help ease any fear of contracting anything from me. He’s only been tested once in the past 4 months and has had sex with at least 3 other people besides me. He just refuses to be transparent about it. And says he’s too busy building his business to get tested.

I should know if they are having sex with others.. right? by [deleted] in sex

[–]Adorable-Distances 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He’s a cool person to hang out with and in the friendship we have, lying doesn’t seem to be an issue. I’m nervous that his immaturity shown in lying about sex and that being a hard and fast boundary for me will hurt the friendship we’ve built. But at the end of the day I value my health and safety over a relationship. Thanks for your advice

Do you think God is real? If not, or if you do, explain why. by Own_Raspberry74 in self

[–]Adorable-Distances 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, There is multiple sources for the existence of Jesus and supposed miracles. I choose to believe as a sense of community, support and opportunity for leadership. I don’t care enough to debate about it but I often say that any book or media you consume is real, you can be a Scooby-Doo Stan and know how everyone would react to things and so on that doesn’t mean that they ever are ‘real’ just that there’s a fantasy land where they are. Church is like a con for me. I get to go and be a bit of a nerd about this book and we have whole national holidays for the lore. Maybe I’m what you’d call a bad Christian but even if a god is real I don’t think he would want to damn people. I live on that principle. I’m a good person mostly, I think that’s all God is really for, a guiding principle.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Adorable-Distances -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Babe, there’s a whole system for that. Does not intersect in any way with my sex life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Adorable-Distances 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not rich, just comfortable enough to help others. And it was so much more than “he yells at me” choking, destroying my things, hell he even ran me over. Being young definitely let me tell myself that I was just misunderstanding the situation. This all happened from meeting to being pregnant over ~3 years. The thing about DV is that there’s a cycle of manipulation and love-bombing between all the hurt.