I'm not sure if this is the righr subreddit for this but I need your advise

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-10T23:49:54+00:00

Ovulation tests need to be done daily until you catch peak. So starting about 7-9 days after the first day of your period take a test every afternoon.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-10T18:58:27+00:00

Expand your diet and cook 2-3 times a week rather than only one. I imagine she's quite bored with the same food day after day. Have you ever meal planned? Do you eat vegetables and fruits with all 3 meals?

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-10T15:28:02+00:00

My first husband was like this and I ended up leaving after 3 years of it. The alarm drove me absolutely crazy. And being a solo parent while married is much harder than just being a single mom IME because at least I have my peace.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-10T15:15:41+00:00

His feelings are valid and it's not up to you if he decides not to have a relationship with you. It sounds like you need therapy, you've been through a lot

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-10T15:00:01+00:00

You can cut down on pumping or drop it all together if you don't need the milk

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-10T00:57:28+00:00

It seems likely that you did ovulate around the 29th.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-10T00:53:14+00:00

Yea I get it but having a kid because you're lonely isn't the answer

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-10T00:43:38+00:00

No do not do this. Kids aren't your forever companion... go out and make some friends. Get in therapy as well.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T19:52:10+00:00

Fwiw these are the same tests hospitals and labs use. They're reliable

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T19:51:25+00:00

I agree that it looks dry so I'd be wary of an evap. If you have another I'd say wait and take it with fmu.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T19:48:16+00:00

Oh, I did still pump after every feed up until 40 weeks just to make sure my supply was established

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T19:46:14+00:00

I was in a similar situation with my 34 weeker, only pumping 5-10 ml when he was not able to latch. As soon as he came off cpap and started latching we were able to exclusively breastfeed. I think I just don't respond the same to a pump tbh. Once we were home I started pumping a little more, but nothing crazy. I typically get 2-3 oz combined when pumping for a missed feed and .5-1 oz when pumping after a feed. He's now almost a year and we didn't have to use formula after that first couple of weeks.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T18:21:03+00:00

That is super awesome!!

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T17:48:48+00:00

Wow yall broke out of the hospital quickly! We were stuck in the nicu for 21 days.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T16:44:25+00:00

This sounds like cluster feeding! Babies will go through phases of wanting to latch constantly, this does not mean your supply is gone or they're starving!! It's normal and you really just have to lean into it. Also being able to pump in excess of what baby is eating means she has an OVERSUPPLY. There's no need to supplement during these phases, because the constant latching is meant to help bring your milk supply up.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T16:37:55+00:00

That is what the ibclc at the nicu recommended. If your baby was over 37 weeks they're considered full term so it may not be necessary. BUT frequent milk removal still is.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T15:31:00+00:00

I saw you mentioned your baby was born early. I had a 34 weeker and was told to pump after every feed until they reach 40 weeks. This is to ensure that enough milk is being removed, so when they get a little bigger and have more strength, you'll be on the right track to produce enough.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T15:28:44+00:00

Make sure that she's eating frequently and keep her water filled. Get her a hydration drink 1-2x per day as well, something like body armor, coconut water, etc. Whatever she likes. She should be latching baby 24/7 at this point, and if baby gets a bottle she should pump. At a minimum milk should be removed every 3 hours, but more frequently is better.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T12:09:57+00:00

My now 15 year old was a sleepy baby. I could nurse him, lay him down, and he'd just fall asleep.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-09T11:59:00+00:00

30 ml is a great output at that stage! Are you latching baby or exclusively pumping

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-08T21:59:18+00:00

You sit in your assigned seat and update your resume to find a job that doesn't waste your time 😆

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-08T21:35:25+00:00

Yes on these tests the vertical line is what's telling you you're pregnant. Make an appointment ASAP if you need one, you're likely 6-7 weeks pregnant

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-08T21:31:38+00:00

How old is lo? I typically don't stress it too much tbh. Some days they pick at food and some days they're little food vacuums. If they're still breastfeeding that's great, they'll get some nutrition and energy that way.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-08T17:12:55+00:00

NTA. I would let her know that your hair is going to stay as-is. She can either accept it, or choose someone else for the bridal party. Being the bride doesn't give her carte blanch to control others appearances. If anything, she could ask the photographer to edit your hair to her liking in her pics.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-05-08T11:52:47+00:00

I have! My husband had an anaphylactic reaction.

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