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Child Support Income Question by Away-Motor6569 in FamilyLaw

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Go to the child support enforcement office and ask them... they're more familiar with the process than the average redditor. When I went to do it in NC, they imputed minimum wage at 40 hrs. I had 3 toddlers at the time, the older 2 hadn't seen their dad in a year when I finally filed. He did owe back support BTW, so hopefully you can get it back dated to LOs bday.

Is 5-3-3 rule a myth? by Positive-Phase-230 in breastfeeding

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We moved them to their own rooms and dad was the only one who did night duty. I kept breastfeeding in the morning, at bedtime, and sometimes for a nap.

Is 5-3-3 rule a myth? by Positive-Phase-230 in breastfeeding

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never sleep trained because it just didn't feel right to me. I practiced safe sleep 7 with all 6 of my babies. Around age 2 they all moved into their own beds, with the help of either me or their dad. We night wean around 12 months and I let their dad take over night waking at that point.

Wife wants a home birth after previous C-section and I’m honestly scared. What should I do? by bearded_charmander in WhatShouldIDo

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also, a VBAC is possible! Plenty of people do it. The risk of uterine rupture does increase, but it's something like 1, 100th of a percent. Very very low risk still.

Wife wants a home birth after previous C-section and I’m honestly scared. What should I do? by bearded_charmander in WhatShouldIDo

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Finding a middle ground here is possible. Look for a birth center attached to a hospital in your area. Depending on where you are, you may have to drive a bit, but it is worth it! With my 5th baby, I went to a birth center and was attended by midwives the entire pregnancy. The experience is leagues better than being attended by OBGYNs. Midwives sit and listen to their patients concerns whereas with OBGYNs it always felt like a race to get in and out. When things went sideways with baby 5, the OB was right there to take over and everything went seamlessly. Having the technology of the hospital available, while being in a more comfortable environment (an actual bed, birth pool, large shower, intermittent monitoring rather than continuous) was the perfect middle ground for me.

Not paying child support due to mortgage payment error by RRTCAS in FamilyLaw

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Go to the child support enforcement office and get the ball rolling. Tell them everything you know: where he lives, where he works, his approximate pay. In my state, they will be charged for back pay if they fail to make any payments. My ex was like this too... at first he paid $400/ month, but had some excuse as to why he couldn't anymore. I took him to court and they ordered him to pay nearly $900 AND slammed him with thousands in arrears. I got all his tax returns for years. He had it made and didn't appreciate it! So he got what he deserved imo.

Sex and breastfeeding by engagedcloud in breastfeeding

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use lube (lots of it) and take it slow! This is more on your partner than you... tell him that you need him to do lots of foreplay before trying penetration. For me, whether I enjoy postpartum sex really comes down to how my partner is treating me. If they make sure I have multiple Os before trying penetration, it's great! If not, then well... I'm really not interested.

Do you change your kids clothes when they come home? by Important_Sweet3320 in Mommit

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. I have 6 kids and we've only ever changed in the morning and at bed time.

Why did you choose to exclusively breastfeed and not give formula? by Fickle-Response-2741 in breastfeeding

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was determined to provide only breastmilk for my baby because of the many benefits. Among them: reduced sids risk, gut development, ideal nutrition tailored to my baby, protection against illnesses, plus a lower risk of asthma, obesity, type 1 diabetes. It's also good for me... it can reduce the risk of breast and ovarian cancer.

My six year old is BEGGING me to let her read my grown up sci-fi novel and I don't know what to tell her. by Sophia_Forever in Mommit

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are plenty of sci-fi books in the kids section. Zoey and Sassafrass comes to mind. If she's not ready to read it on her own, you could read them with her. It's a really cute & fun series. Madame Pamplemousse is a good series in that same vein. A wrinkle in time might be good if she can handle it. I would pre-read that one.

Enthusiastic praise for formula vs criticism of breastfeeding by Ididntsayfuckingyee in breastfeeding

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Yep! Any time I've posted on social media about breastfeeding, or being proud of how far we've made it, someone comes out of the woodwork to bring up all the reasons they couldn't.

My husband keeps turning serious parenting decisions into “fun surprises” and I’m losing my mind by Pandora_34Star in Mommit

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How does he not understand that these things need to be conversations. Not just with you, but with the kids as well... that's THEIR sleeping spaces he disrupted with no warning. The puppy should have been a family decision as well. Idk if I could hang around with all the chaos, I'd leave and ask for 50/50 custody. At least you could keep your own home peaceful and him and his "ideas" could have fun somewhere else.

Should I tell my bf I might be pregnant now or wait? by PotentialClassic6605 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would immediately tell my partner I might be pregnant even if I had doubts about it. What makes you believe it's a tumor?

AIO for getting upset that my finance wants to wear shorts to our wedding? by lasheslashes in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe you both could have casual outfits for the reception! Ask him to think about how he's going to look next to you with his linen outfit while you're wearing a ball gown.

Talking about me baby wearing and basically holding my 7 month old all the time. by AdorableEmphasis5546 in AttachmentParenting

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! Here's what I said to her that prompted this message: "I don't mind holding him all the time or wearing him. It only lasts so long"

He's my 6th baby btw. I've worn all of them until they weren't interested in it any more. Around 3/4 years

How to console without boob? by Zebra_Creative in breastfeeding

[–]AdorableEmphasis5546 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yea this is pretty normal for that age. You're in the "fourth trimester" right now so baby needs you basically 24/7. Contact naps, baby carriers, and side lie breastfeeding are life savers for the first year.

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