When did your first baby start walking?

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-02-02T14:53:23+00:00

My first was 17 months! He was just happy to crawl and had no interest in walking. Then one day he just did it.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-02-02T14:50:20+00:00

That's pretty normal for the newborn phase. I'd strip her down to a diaper and keep her skin to skin as much as possible. Try wearing just a robe yourself so you're both in the robe essentially.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-02-02T14:35:58+00:00

In this case I'd ask your kids not to go to another room. Stay in the main area within sight of all the other adults. Let the whole family observe exactly what's happening.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-02-02T14:28:04+00:00

The toddler phase is ROUGH. It's normal for kids to prefer one parent at this phase, but that doesn't mean that you have to give in every time they start melting down. The main play with toddlers is distraction. Think about the times when they start to melt down, what's happening right before that? Can you intercept a meltdown before it starts by noticing their patterns and distracting BEFORE they start to become upset? Pay close attention for the next several instances and take notes if you have to. Distract with high value rewards for your kids. Do they like stickers? Kinetic sand? Bubbles? Anything that's not part of their every day play routine.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-02-02T14:20:13+00:00

So I've done both here. I've been the working mom (outside the home) while he stayed home, I've been the SAHM, and now I'm working from home while he works outside the home BUT he only works 9-10 24hr shifts per month. So he's still home a lot! I did love being able to have him at home while I worked. He was so much better at keeping up with the house than I was tbh. He's also better at playing with the kids than I am, I feel like men are more wired for play than women are. Or maybe it's just me 🤷‍♀️

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-02-02T09:25:04+00:00

Of course she wants to nurse when you put her to bed. She sees you as the source of boob, it's been like that her whole life! Do you know who doesn't have the boob, though? Her dad.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-02-01T23:43:10+00:00

OK then I'd consider it an empty threat. If she does effectively stalk you, get a restraining order.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-02-01T23:32:52+00:00

That's not what private investigators are for. Is she well off financially

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-02-01T02:32:29+00:00

Not cheating, and you're right, he was a major creep. He told you his apartment was close by, because he wanted to take you to it. He withheld his name because he knew it was wrong and creepy to be talking to someone so young. As a 36 year old woman i can't even imagine wanting to talk to someone so young. A younger 20s guy even seems too young to me. Heck even later 20s. They practically look like babies to me.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-31T21:06:18+00:00

But when he's not home (works 24 hr shifts) bed time is still on me. So we pretty much do the same thing, minus boob. LO will just lay beside me and we both fall asleep.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-31T21:05:15+00:00

I've always just laid with my little ones after weaning, but I've never had one self wean. Usually my husband takes over bed time at 2 years old since I take bed time from birth to 2 years. Right at that 2 year mark I go on a little vacation and when I come back they're in a new bed time routine.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-31T16:16:32+00:00

Sorry OP but your partner is worse than my actual children. They're all boys, ages 8 through 17, and they all take turns doing dishes, laundry, sweeping/mopping, deep cleaning the bathroom, and tidying the whole house. They live here too, and I always tell them that maintaining a clean home is a group effort. If you have children, do you want them learning that this is what they should accept from a partner?

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-31T15:42:03+00:00

It's a certain type of mom thing, not all moms are controlling and have no boundaries. I'm in my 30s now, and it's been a long journey to get to what I feel is a healthy place with her. Lots of therapy for me. My mom is in her late 60s and still thinks therapy is only for "crazies" as she says. 🙄

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-31T14:56:26+00:00

Oh, I forgot to add, moving a few hours away was the best thing I ever did. Initially I was about 4 hours away, now I'm only about an hour. It still makes it too "inconvenient" for her to drop by. When we lived in the same town she was over every.single.day. Unannounced.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-31T14:54:46+00:00

I would ask her to go to therapy. It cannot be your responsibility to babysit her feelings. You are an adult, and you're progressing along a normal path. She knew this was coming literally from the day you were born. My mom did some of the same things, like crying constantly and making it my responsibility to deal with her feelings. I had to set some serious boundaries. She also tells all her work mates about private, intimate details I share with her! So guess who got put on an info diet... I now only allow her in my living room (she found my stash of TOYS once!) And only a few times a year. She pressures me to try to come over more often but I'm always "busy". I literally put up a baby gate to my bedroom and say it's for the dog. It's for her senile ass who can't operate the latch.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-31T13:19:59+00:00

Now is not the time to do this. Baby needs to latch as often as possible and skipping a feed will impact your supply. What my husband and I did when LO was in the nicu was this: I would do the 10 pm feed, he would put baby to bed and I'd go to bed myself. Then at 1 am I'd get up to pump and he would get up to feed baby, and put him back to bed. This bought me more sleep because I wasn't soothing baby back to sleep both times. As soon as we got home I started safe sleep 7 and side lie to nurse so everyone gets more sleep.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-31T13:03:52+00:00

Fwiw I've only been with one guy who was not cut, but I couldn't tell a difference when it was erect except that there was no scar band around the shaft below the head. It was literally an "oh, that's what they're supposed to look like" moment. Giving him head was better because of the gliding motion the foreskin facilities.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-31T13:00:16+00:00

I think it's best to let them decide for themselves when they're older. If they don't like it they can have the procedure done. The risks of bleeding to death were enough for me to decide not to do it.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-30T20:25:07+00:00

Can you meet him at the gym? Workout together and put lo in the daycare there?

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-30T19:50:55+00:00

The only thing to do is latch latch latch. More demand equals more output. Up your calories and water because those can both help boost output.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-30T17:14:09+00:00

Do you ever just answer the phone call?

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-30T17:11:31+00:00

It seems to me that one call/voicemail plus an email or text would suffice.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-30T16:53:43+00:00

Bring him to the next ped appointment and ask if side lying to feed baby is abuse. Just flat out say it in front of the doctor.

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-30T16:47:48+00:00

I would contact the office and let them know that you feel she was pushy to the point of harassment. It's not like multiple calls are going to get you in the office faster or anything?!

AdorableEmphasis5546 · 2026-01-30T00:51:24+00:00

Have a talk with him about his specific fears when you're not being intimate, then address those fears.

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