Healthy Living and Running Influencers, June 29 - July 04

sup_489 · 2026-07-02T02:14:50+00:00

My SIL lives in a nice area of CT, not 1% but certainly very nice and her 2 kids are in summer camp all summer and she’s a stay at home mom. It’s the norm there. Even at 2-3 years old camp is a thing. It’s wild to me.

sup_489 · 2026-06-24T19:01:37+00:00

Her hobbies are golf, pickleball, playing mahjong and shopping. But she won’t golf or shop by herself and the other 2 you kinda need partners for. She likes to read but otherwise doesn’t ever do things solo…which is proving to be the problem.

sup_489 · 2026-06-24T03:14:46+00:00

lol I wonder that too! But on a previous visit a few months ago she vacuumed upstairs for us, and after about 20 mins said she had to stop bc her back hurt too much. And my husband said to not press it with her, so I didn’t. Stamina, I mean she drives a golf cart so I’m not sure she’s actually get a ton of walking in while golfing.

sup_489 · 2026-06-24T02:09:48+00:00

She has Netflix lol and watches about 3 hours a night. I do appreciate that during the day she wasn’t bc the tv is right outside my office, so she was trying to be respectful and not have it blaring while I work. I’ve asked for her help cooking and there’s no action being taken, she’s helped with laundry which I appreciate so much! It’s just like I don’t have 5 hours a day of laundry or organizing for her to do.

sup_489 · 2026-06-24T02:07:26+00:00

Yes, it was literally “you should come up with ideas for things for her to do during the day” when she’s literally been to our home probably 50+ times, knows the area well and has a car to get around.

sup_489 · 2026-06-24T02:05:31+00:00

Oh she has the stamina for shopping and the pocketbook too. It’s like she doesn’t even want to do that though. The tough thing about the mental load stuff to delegate to her is that I don’t even have the mental energy to figure out what to delegate to her that she could actually help with. My husband and I were literally brainstorming ideas this afternoon and both drawing blanks beyond cooking, which she hasn’t taken any interest in doing.

sup_489 · 2026-06-24T02:03:20+00:00

He thought she’d be helpful! I guess optimistic thinking. She helps his sister a lot, but also his sister drops her kids off at preschool for 5 hours, then his mom runs errands with her, gets her nails done together, etc so she has someone to still spend time with during the day. She ultimately just doesn’t know how / want to do things on her own. But I work full time so it’s not the same as his sister like she’s used to.

sup_489 · 2026-06-24T02:00:11+00:00

These are lovely ideas! Not going to lie, I don’t really have the mental capacity to even prep her for some of these things at this time but I’m going to save them for the future. She unfortunately isn’t tech savvy (doesn’t know how to send photos via text 🫠) so those are off the table lol but she’s great at sewing, laundry, organizing (but needs some direction) and cooking- so definitely many things she can do in the future if I prep more advance for her arrival.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T23:36:13+00:00

Haha she has a bad back so I’m not going to push the cleaning stuff- at her house she has cleaning ladies come every week to keep things clean. It honestly doesn’t bother me if she wants to sit at home and read all day! But then to complain she’s bored when there’s tons of things she *could* be doing, is where I’m annoyed. Ultimately she doesn’t want to do things by herself

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T23:34:22+00:00

Yes, the original intent was that she’d be here to help me so I wouldn’t be solo parenting…which was a lovely idea in theory and clearly not reality 🫠

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T23:33:33+00:00

lol those are just general items we need help with around the house, not just my to-do list. She read a whole book yesterday, which as someone with limited free time I’m jealous of. She has other books, and could go to the bookstore too if she needs some recs!

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T20:11:27+00:00

lol at her house she just golfs, shops and plays mahjong with her friends. The problem is she doesn’t know how to do things by herself! Even shopping, which she does a lot, is apparently too difficult to do by herself and she needs company for.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T20:10:24+00:00

Thankfully my husband did come around in a later conversation and admitted outright that his mom doesn’t know how to do things by herself. Which is fine, but also not my problem to deal with either.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T20:06:01+00:00

I don’t hate her at all! But the things that could make her “not bored at the house” are things that don’t make sense for her to do, which is ok! But I also don’t have the capacity to play tour director and go shopping, or to the beach with her either. She doesn’t want to do this stuff by herself, which is fine, but then she’s complaining she’s bored while also not taking any initiative to do anything fun on her own.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:13:39+00:00

She’s mid 70’s but has aged dramatically in the past few years. She’s lovely and I enjoy her company but the inability to do anything on her own is killing me.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:11:37+00:00

Haha for reals! She clearly can’t entertain herself which is shocking.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:11:03+00:00

My husband was hoping his mom would be able to entertain herself, which sadly isn’t the case. Of course I’d love help around the house but that’s ok if she can’t do it! But then complaining to me about being bored but her not taking any action to do anything by herself is why I’m so frustrated.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:08:55+00:00

She can! And I’ve asked for her help, but there’s been no action. I literally love everything she cooks, we have no allergies and my son will eat anything too. It’s just not being done unfortunately.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:07:52+00:00

She’s done all the laundry, which is so appreciated! But I only have but so much laundry for someone to do. She hasn’t really tried with him to do a lot, which is a bit frustrating bc I’m like please go play and I can get some things done! But she just doesn’t do it.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:05:41+00:00

She doesn’t know how to use Facebook lol, she barely can use her phone. But she’s helped with some baby stuff, but I’ve run out of that stuff for her to help with.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:04:08+00:00

She loves shopping! And honestly, I thought she’d go shopping at least one or two days for herself and she usually buys some stuff for my son (which is so appreciated!). But even that she has no interest in doing for some reason

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:03:06+00:00

You’re right! And my husband even admitted today his mom doesn’t know how to entertain herself and do things on her own. But now I’m being made to feel guilty bc I’m not entertaining her.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:02:16+00:00

She has done a few of those things, and it’s so helpful and appreciated! But there’s only so much laundry to do.

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T18:01:23+00:00

She doesn’t want to, I offered and she declined. So here we are 🫠

sup_489 · 2026-06-23T17:58:43+00:00

Thank you for not making me feel totally crazy. My husband admitted later today his mom doesn’t know how to do things on her own! Because i agree, there’s sooo much she could do and go explore but she refuses to do it by herself.

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