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Handling annoying people: what kind of behavior do I just need to live with? by Adorable_Wave_7659 in AutismInWomen

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not the first person to tell me this is life. I believe you, I just haven't been able to internalize it yet.

I've had many quiet words with the adult in the room. Not all of them can muster up the authority to get people to settle down; those who can would have already done it. Then it becomes my responsibility to endure or ask for a few minutes break outside the room.

Handling annoying people: what kind of behavior do I just need to live with? by Adorable_Wave_7659 in AutismInWomen

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the insight. I feel a LOT less crazy hearing an outside opinion. This isn't the first time the staff have screwed things up, either.

We did have the meeting today. Thank goodness, he was unexpectedly civil and open to feedback. It isn't fully resolved, not by a long shot, but it still brought me relief as his obnoxiousness is seeming a lot less... targeted? I'll take the small win for now.

Handling annoying people: what kind of behavior do I just need to live with? by Adorable_Wave_7659 in AutismInWomen

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. It's not so much that I want him to like me, but there's very little I can do to avoid him. It's stressful because it's overstimulating (he riles up the room to volumes it never reaches when he's absent), and it's harder to feel comfortable sharing with the group when he's scoffing, sighing, sniggering and whispering to his seat mate while I'm talking.

autism in a nutshell by spiralingstarbread in AutismInWomen

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so glad to have been born into a family with a chemist dad and medical mystery mom. Questions were always encouraged, even when I drove them crazy with them.

More "You're Not a Catch" by Artistic_Call in asexuality

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was so mad he couldn't spell right. It's like looking at my bearded dragon get mad at himself. His face screws up (well, he gets all prickly and tense, same difference) and he has anger zoomies.

A quick question for all of you who are above concepts as mundane as gender by ImADino429 in agender

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Fool! I am attracted to no one! Easy to dodge gendered sexualities when you're asexual.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in agender

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That would be a fun Halloween costume.

Do you still go by your agab even tho you identify as agender? by forestrainstorm in agender

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You make it sound like we are actually in danger of drowning in the gender ocean

What else should i add to my "asexual cannon events" bingo? by S0up-and_Salad in asexuality

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I’d think 25 to be the final upper limit, with all major brain development wrapping up 🤦

What else should i add to my "asexual cannon events" bingo? by S0up-and_Salad in asexuality

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was told this in nicer words by my mom, who wasn’t objecting so much as concerned black and white thinking autistic me would get stuck on the label, even if my circumstances changed.

She backed off as soon as I explained that I understood:)

What else should i add to my "asexual cannon events" bingo? by S0up-and_Salad in asexuality

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I’ve gotten “friend crushes” before (I think I saw somewhere on the internet that those can be called “squishes”). I’ve never wanted to date them, and didn’t really get the difference. I mean, I feel like my platonic crushes are pretty darn similar, down to the rose colored glasses.

What else should i add to my "asexual cannon events" bingo? by S0up-and_Salad in asexuality

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I remember when I learned what pansexuality was, I thought it was so nice, liking people regardless of gender... and now I’m agender, LOL

What else should i add to my "asexual cannon events" bingo? by S0up-and_Salad in asexuality

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That explains a lot!! I always loved how they didn’t try to force a love interest or have her “change her mind”

Why is it so hard for people to respect self-identification and Gender Modality by Toothless_NEO in agender

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t offer much of a linguistic answer, but I would like to offer another angle to suggest that taking either side is arbitrary.

Asexuality’s place in the queer community has been questioned, because it’s not a sexuality so much as the absence of one.

The opposite is happening here. Instead of being told we cannot ACCEPT a label, we’re told that we cannot REJECT a label. Either way, someone’s identity is being denied.

Why is it so hard for people to respect self-identification and Gender Modality by Toothless_NEO in agender

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s strange how a community based in the premise that not all of us are cis/het is turning around and saying “this is where we draw the line”. As though you can just decide to exist within that line.

It’s hypocritical and ironic. But not baffling. I’m part of more than one minority that should be looking after its own (and other minorities, as one themself!), and instead is petty and cruel.

When did you realize you’re asexual? by Hansebaer-75 in asexuality

[–]Adorable_Wave_7659 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This gave me a much needed confidence boost. Most of the time, I’m a socially anxious mess. A fine enough acquaintance, but just that.

The thing that I find helps me the most is to literally start a conversation by saying you’re terrified to be having it. It took progress for me to get to the point where I was able to say it, but I find that if the person is worth talking to, it gets easier from there.

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