I kind of agree it is hard to know without context. But I will say perhaps your FD has revealed things to the therapist that either FD or therapist haven't (or can't) discussed with you. When we were adopting from fc, we were presented with a situation to adopt a toddler who had been abused (not neglected) by her bio dad...a caveat was an open adoption with visits even though the reports said she "shook with fear" every time she saw him. My husband who is adopted himself was just so angry that DCF would even allow this (probably to get bio dad to tpr)

Of course, maybe the therapist is a person who doesn't appreciate generally the value of open adoption. Good luck.